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"I&amp;#x27;ve heard of people saying the wrong name during sex before, but not the name of someone on the other side of a shared wall. Here&amp;#x27;s what one reader told me... A week ago, after a dinner party, my partner and I had sex. He mentioned my roommate during sex and I just let it pass. Than I found out that after sex, he woke up to masturbate to pictures of that roommate. And he continued to mention her a few more times during sex. Is that OK for him to do that or am I just obsessing? Wow. What did you serve at dinner? Was it a big bowl of stupid? Because if that&amp;amp;#8217;s what it was, it sounds like he had seconds. Truth: I don&amp;amp;#8217;t know any guy who doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t fantasize about people other than his partner. Doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t mean he doesn&amp;#x27;t love his significant other, or really enjoy sex with her, it just means that his mind is his own, and that he is human. One question, and I don&amp;amp;#8217;t even know if I want to know the answer, but how was it that you &amp;amp;#8220;found out&amp;amp;#8221; that after the sex he had a wank to your roommate&amp;#x27;s photos? Regardless of that answer, your guy&amp;amp;#8217;s behavior doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t fall into that simple category though. While fantasizing about someone else is totally natural, telling your partner about it is not, especially when the subject of said fantasy is nearby. And it&amp;amp;#8217;s definitely not OK. Unless you are both in on it, like you want to include your roommate in your fantasy play as a couple, or even in real life as a three-way (and should that be the case, I would be prepared to call the movers if she says &amp;amp;#8220;no,&amp;amp;#8221; or when it all blows up). But that doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t sound like that case here. Part of me wants to say, &amp;amp;#8220;well at least he&amp;amp;#8217;s bringing it up,&amp;amp;#8221; but the way he&amp;amp;#8217;s doing it is so counterproductive and wildly inappropriate I can&amp;amp;#8217;t actually pat him on the back in any way. Sounds like you need to have a chat. Figure out if he is actually interested in exploring sex outside your relationship (which, for most of us, is a dealbreaker in itself), and if not, what his intention was in bringing up your roommate while you guys were hooking up. Do you worry that your guy fantasizes about other women? Do you care? Have you and your guy ever shared your fantasies with each other? Ask a Guy: &amp;amp;#8220;My Guy Just Came Up With New Sex Moves&amp;amp;#8212;Could That Mean He&amp;#x27;s Cheating on Me?&amp;amp;#8221; A Super-Easy, Super-Lazy, Oral Sex Trick To Try Meet the Tenga Egg: A Clever Sex Toy for Guys Have a question about Dating, Relationships, or Sex for Single John? Submit it here. More on Relationships at Glamour.com What&amp;#x27;s With All the Spam in the Comments Section? Sick of all those annoying ads in the comments section lately? So are we! We police the site regularly and delete spam as soon as we can, but recently, the volume of spam has increased dramatically. We&amp;#x27;re working on a way to block them permanently, so please bear with us, and know that we&amp;#x27;re as eager as you are to get rid of these pests. Meanwhile, please continue to use the Report Abuse button to flag spam--it really does help!--and continue to leave your brilliant feedback below. If you have any urgent questions about the spam, please contact us. And a special note to you, spammers; we officially declare you a major DON&amp;#x27;T. Photo: Thinkstock "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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