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"  FRANK: You know what I can do on my own? I can jerk myself off. No one wants a subpar, less enthused version of something they can do themselves. (And, let&amp;#039;s be honest, most handjobs are not backed by intense passion.) Using your hands on your partner should only be deployed when you need to keep the engine running in between other activities. Handjobs are the male equivalent of being fingered: both feature a lot of wincing and &amp;quot;why don&amp;#039;t you try this&amp;quot; muttering as you try and show your partner what you like and they fail to grasp it. I think both men and women would probably rather move on to oral or sexual intercourse. Giving a handjob for more than thirty seconds also means you&amp;#039;ll probably wind up awkwardly facing each other, the stares punctuated by awkward coughs every so often until your hand cramps up. Fun for the whole family!  It&amp;#039;s not that I&amp;#039;m not appreciative of getting some, but I know many women don&amp;#039;t like giving or getting handys either. It&amp;#039;s something you already do yourself, and you can probably do it better than anyone else. There&amp;#039;s not the same sense of empowerment that comes with oral sex or intercourse. I don&amp;#039;t think anyone would be upset if they were constitutionally banned. I&amp;#039;m asking for it right now: let&amp;#039;s leave the manual stimulation for transition periods only, and we can all focus on the good stuff.   ANNA: Okay, first of all, YAY FOR HANDJOBS. And before you start calling me a &amp;quot;man-hating feminist&amp;quot; or whatever else everyone yells at me on the Internet about, I do think it goes both ways; I enjoy being fingered. Properly. I think guys can really zero in on particular spots and be more specific in stimulating certain areas (read: clit) with fingers than they do with their big dumb penis, so hip hip hooray for fingering.   Furthermore, unless you just went down on me for an hour or I&amp;#039;m in a really good mood or it is Flag Day, the likelihood of me giving a blowjob all the way from &amp;quot;flaccid&amp;quot; to &amp;quot;ejaculation&amp;quot; is slim. Therefore, a handjob will be placed into the sex equation at some point, as a lead-up to either blowjob or sex. I will give a handjob for 29 minutes and a blowjob for   To address Frank&amp;#039;s points: First of all, yeah, DRY handjobs probably feel terrible. Wet/lube-friendly handjobs, on the other hand, should feel basically like sex, but lazier, and if your vagina happened to have a thumb on it. As for looking at each other, you don&amp;#039;t have to (you can always rest your head on his chest and look down at it, or watch that episode of Family Matters you both forgot was on while you were making out), or you can! I actually kinda like handjobs because you can see the guy&amp;#039;s face, which is something you can&amp;#039;t do with a beej, or certain sex positions. It&amp;#039;s nice to see someone enjoying the way you&amp;#039;re touching them, if you care about the guy.   RELATED: 15 Things Every Woman Thinks While Giving A Handjob A Complete, Probably Biased Ranking of Carrie Bradshaw&amp;#039;s 18 Sex and the City Boyfriends   Follow Anna on Twitter  Photo Credit: HBO "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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