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" No matter how smokin&amp;#039; your guy is, you can always find room for some homme improvement. Fantasized about updating his duds or just introducing him to nonaerosol cheese? Of course, the problem is, &amp;quot;if you&amp;#039;re constantly on his case to change, he might rebel by clinging even more closely to his old habits,&amp;quot; explains New York City psychotherapist Jane Greer, PhD, author of How Could You Do This to Me? So here&amp;#039;s the trick: Upgrade your guy in sneaky no-fuss ways that he either doesn&amp;#039;t even notice or takes credit for himself. Read on for your biggest man probs \u2014 and clever ways to fix &amp;#039;em.   &amp;quot;All guys want to look good for their women. So when you plant a seed in his head that a man with style turns you on, he&amp;#039;ll want to become that man,&amp;quot; explains Lloyd Boston, author of Make Over Your Man. So when you and your man are walking down the street or at a party and you notice great garb on another guy, whisper, &amp;quot;That&amp;#039;s a cool shirt. You&amp;#039;d look hot in it.&amp;quot; That way, you&amp;#039;re not criticizing his wack style but reinforcing his studliness and giving him sexy incentive.   Appeal to his follicular fixation. Give him a new hair product that is less cementlike than the glue he&amp;#039;s been using (try Groom Pliable Styling Lotion, by American Crew). Then help him just &amp;quot;play&amp;quot; with the new hair goo to see how it works, subtly assembling his locks into a less rigid style. But if he won&amp;#039;t let you within a 10-foot comb of his tresses, it&amp;#039;s time to bring in the experts. Rave about how great your stylist is at cutting guys&amp;#039; hair, then slip him a gift certificate for an appointment.  Find out if there is a spa in your city that caters to couples, then schedule a massage. He may put up a fight, but once you get him in the salon door, he probably won&amp;#039;t feel so weird. The fact is, so many men have caught on to the benefits of beautifying that spas have become a unisex domain. When your guy is in a post-rubdown state of Zen, &amp;quot;do the old bait and switch,&amp;quot; suggests Boston. &amp;quot;Whisper, &amp;#039;Look! They also do a no-pain back wax! You could come in and get that next time I get my bikini wax.&amp;#039;&amp;quot;   Most guys do want to sweep us off our feet with their gentlemanly ways, so odds are he&amp;#039;s not trying to be rude \u2014 he just doesn&amp;#039;t know the drill. Give him a nudge through your actions. If he doesn&amp;#039;t open the door to the restaurant for you, don&amp;#039;t open it yourself to alleviate awkwardness. Just stay where you are, smile and motion to the door with a tilt of your head, which should cue him into action. At dinner, if he always pours his glass before yours, try pouring his first a few times while commenting how much you love that old custom (hint, hint). When leaving, hand him your coat and turn your back toward him so he can help you put it on. &amp;quot;When you&amp;#039;re walking to the car together, lead him by the hand to the locked passenger side so he has no choice but to unlock your door first,&amp;quot; suggests etiquette expert Sam Martin, author of How to Mow the Lawn.   He&amp;#039;s probably intimidated by the overflow of estrogen radiating from you and the girls. If you keep the conversation centered on a topic you know he has a funny story about, he&amp;#039;ll be able to contribute, suggests Martin. Say something like &amp;quot;Greg went on Outward Bound last summer. Mandy, didn&amp;#039;t you do it recently, too?&amp;quot; Then ask them both for trip details. He&amp;#039;ll be sharing his Survivor-like stories in no time.   Your mission: Be cool. Don&amp;#039;t attempt to tackle everything at once, or you&amp;#039;ll start to sound like his mom. Decide which of his offenses you positively cannot live with, then casually strike a deal. Say, &amp;quot;Your shoulders might be sore after doing all those dishes, so how about I give you a massage when you&amp;#039;re done?&amp;quot; This subtle bribe will light a fire under his butt to get scrubbing. Then, once he&amp;#039;s been conditioned to clean, you can begin work on his other bad habits.   &amp;quot;Most men aren&amp;#039;t complicated. They&amp;#039;ll basically eat anything that&amp;#039;s in front of them,&amp;quot; says Lona Sandon, spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. So stock your kitchen with grub that doesn&amp;#039;t scream diet. Look, you can&amp;#039;t control what he scarfs down when you&amp;#039;re not with him, but at least this way he&amp;#039;ll eat better when you&amp;#039;re together. Sub chocolate fro-yo and fruit smoothies for ice cream and swap baked tortilla chips and salsa for cheese doodles. For dinner, serve up a hearty chopped steak salad instead of mac &amp;#039;n&amp;#039; cheese from a box.   Tell him he&amp;#039;s being a pig, but soften the blow by making a joke out of it. Say something like this the next time he&amp;#039;s attacking his food like a primitive hunter-gatherer: &amp;quot;Take it easy on that steak, big boy. It&amp;#039;s already dead, you know.&amp;quot; Now that you&amp;#039;ve drawn his attention to the problem, let him see just what&amp;#039;s skeeving you out. &amp;quot;If he sits facing the mirror at a restaurant, he&amp;#039;ll be aware of how he looks while he&amp;#039;s eating,&amp;quot; suggests etiquette expert Peter Post, author of Essential Manners for Men.   Plan an outing that will appeal to him but is low-maintenance. For example, suggest you see the band he loves, which happens to be playing in the park. Offer to pack a picnic and bring a blanket to cuddle on, says Greer. If you still can&amp;#039;t peel his ass off the couch, grab a friend and go have fun without him. He&amp;#039;ll soon get the hint.   &amp;quot;Guys get into sex routines because they figure &amp;#039;If she liked it once, she&amp;#039;ll like it every time,&amp;#039;&amp;quot; says Greer. &amp;quot;Plus, men don&amp;#039;t always realize we need diversity in bed.&amp;quot; So take hold of the reins \u2014 or the blindfold, erotica or any other fun prop that&amp;#039;ll shake things up in the bedroom. Be sure to give him plenty of positive feedback. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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