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"Just yesterday, some Smitten editors were having a little team debate about whether or not it&amp;#x27;s worth it to confront a guy about certain minor annoyances (think of the bathroom-sharing variety involving wet towel storage). We couldn&amp;#x27;t decide. His deodorant collection? Probably not worth it. Let&amp;#x27;s be frank: If we all confronted our significant others about every little thing that bothered us, we&amp;#x27;d never have any time to do anything else. Like have jobs. &amp;quot;Pick your battles&amp;quot; is perennial relationship (and life) advice, but, um, how do you pick? How do you know when it&amp;#x27;s worth it to address a problem when you know that despite your best efforts to have a rational conversation, it will probably turn into a fight? Here are some guidelines of when it&amp;#x27;s worth it... If you feel resentful (and especially if you&amp;#x27;ve felt that way for a while). Some things are annoying, like your bathrobe that can never get dry thanks to your man&amp;#x27;s towel always draped on top of it to cite a totally random example that I just hinted at, but there&amp;#x27;s no venom behind your annoyance. You get it, but like, where else is he supposed to put his towel in your one-bedroom apartment? That fight, you can probably skip. But if he refuses to throw your towel in with his laundry even though you always take care of his dirty dishes, and it really makes your blood boil because it&amp;#x27;s so inconsiderate? You gotta have that out sooner rather than later, or else you&amp;#x27;ll explode eventually. If he hurt your feelings (but he didn&amp;#x27;t know it.) He didn&amp;#x27;t know those cookies were homemade from a treasured family recipe that you&amp;#x27;re really proud of when he called them &amp;quot;The most inedible thing I&amp;#x27;ve ever had in my mouth and I once accidentally swallowed a nail.&amp;quot; Oops. Tread lightly here, because you don&amp;#x27;t want to accuse him of doing something intentionally when he really didn&amp;#x27;t. But I bet he&amp;#x27;d like to know so he doesn&amp;#x27;t do it again. Wouldn&amp;#x27;t you? If he hurt your feelings and he did know it. Because that&amp;#x27;s not cool, and he needs to apologize. And he needs to mean it. If you&amp;#x27;d be embarrassed to tell someone that you didn&amp;#x27;t stand up for yourself. If your friend was all, &amp;quot;My boyfriend missed my grandpa&amp;#x27;s funeral because he got too drunk watching football with his roommates, but it was fine. I&amp;#x27;m sure he&amp;#x27;ll make it to the next one...&amp;quot; wouldn&amp;#x27;t you totally question her judgment and her dignity? Think about whether that&amp;#x27;s the reaction you&amp;#x27;d get, and if so, it&amp;#x27;s a good indication this is worth making a fuss about. And when it&amp;#x27;s not... If you know the source of your anger lies at least partially elsewhere. You just had a fight with your mom, or you&amp;#x27;re doubled over with cramps and your uterus feels like it&amp;#x27;s trying to eat itself, skip the argument you&amp;#x27;re burning to have with your guy. If it&amp;#x27;s still bugging you in a week, you can reconsider, but you should avoid it until you can make sure your anger is focused on the right stuff. If it&amp;#x27;s going to hurt his feelings unnecessarily. Unfortunately, sometimes you have to have the kind of fight where you hurt the person you love. And it always sucks. So try to avoid it when possible, and do it only when it&amp;#x27;s really, really important. Hint: It&amp;#x27;s usually not important enough if it involves insulting his mom, his dog, or his weight. If you&amp;#x27;d be embarrassed to tell someone you got mad over that. Need some examples of things you&amp;#x27;ll be (hopefully lightheartedly) ashamed of later? Try this list of ridiculous but true couples fights, and the accompanying comments. Hilarious&amp;amp;#8212;but not worth it. How do you decide when to pick your battles?"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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