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"Today, a reader wonders if she should give her ex a second chance. What do you think?Here&amp;#x27;s our lovely reader&amp;#x27;s question: I&amp;#x27;m having the worst trouble with my ex. We were high-school sweethearts who dated for three years. Last Christmas, he gave me a diamond promise ring. He started working more to pay off his college bills faster and slowly stopped having time for me. I was willing to wait, but he got fed up. We decided that taking a break might work, but one thing led to another and he broke up with me. But here&amp;#x27;s the kicker: He broke up with me through a TEXT MESSAGE. He said he still loved me and wanted to talk, but he started ignoring me from that point on. I had the typical &amp;quot;crazy ex&amp;quot; reaction and messaged him constantly. Not even a month after being single, he started seeing a girl from work. A hideous girl at that. I was extremely bothered and began messaging him again. We argued and argued about this girl, and we decided not to speak anymore. Four months later, he messaged me saying that he misses me and things with his new girlfriend aren&amp;#x27;t working out. I was willing to forgive and forget and possibly start anew. Then he dropped a bomb on me: He and his girlfriend had sex--multiple times. He and I had been waiting for marriage or at least engagement to take that step. So my ex wants me back, but I&amp;#x27;m not sure I can let this slide. HELP! Here&amp;#x27;s my answer: My sweet girl, you sound so lovely and thoughtful and kind. You sound like a great girlfriend--and a fantastic woman. So why should you have to put up with this guy? He may seem amazing at times, but he is not the solid, caring, loving person that you deserve. He should not have text-messaged you to break up, ignored you afterward or flip-flopped about your relationship. He sounds young and not ready to settle down, and if you get back together, he will only break your heart again. You and your ex had a wonderful three years together, but, if I were your older sister, I would give you a big hug, tell you to kindly decline his offer and to let yourself be sad for a while, watch Seinfeld reruns with you, and then encourage you to live your life, enjoy the things you&amp;#x27;re passionate about, and date other guys. In the end, you will DEFINITELY meet an amazing, sweet, funny, smart, handsome and (most of all) trustworthy, kind and loyal man who will fall head over heels for you, make you feel giddy and safe at the same time, and be the absolute love of your life. Your high-school boyfriend is not that guy...and you will be so happy when you move on to bigger and better places. It&amp;#x27;s tough, but hang in there, my darling; we are all rooting for you. xoxo What do you think, lovely readers? Should she give her ex another chance or kick him to the curb? Have you ever gotten back together with a guy? Did it work out? I&amp;#x27;d LOVE to hear your thoughts... P.S. Intriguing reader&amp;#x27;s dilemmas, including &amp;quot;Can I date someone who hates reading?&amp;quot; and &amp;quot;Help! I&amp;#x27;m desperately in love with my best guy friend,&amp;quot; and &amp;quot;My relatives bug me about getting married.&amp;quot; Photo: Nerijus Rimkus"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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