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" Why is it that when you first start sleeping with a guy, your heart flutters faster than a butterfly on steroids, and the mere sight of that sexy bulge in his jeans is enough to make you bite your bottom lip in expectation? Maybe it&amp;#039;s because early-stage sex has a way of bringing you back to your first first time, when you were a virgin-on-the-verge consumed by how wicked, how wanton, how &amp;quot;God, if they only knew!&amp;quot; sinful you felt about actually doing the deed. And when it comes to hot sex, sin is in \u2014 because the notion of naughtiness in your mind heightens the physical sensations flowing through your body. Alas, those deliciously devilish feelings eventually fade. &amp;quot;When you&amp;#039;re with the same partner on a regular basis, familiarity replaces that sense of the forbidden,&amp;quot; explains Barbara Keesling, PhD, author of The Good Girl&amp;#039;s Guide to Bad Girl Sex. &amp;quot;And since you know how to turn each other on and get each other off, you tend to rely on these tried-and-true moves rather than break boundaries and taboos.&amp;quot; In other words, your carnal comfort level goes up, but the naughty novelty of surprise and anticipation goes out the window. And when wickedness falls by the wayside, things simply aren&amp;#039;t as exciting as they could be. Here&amp;#039;s the good news: It&amp;#039;s easy to recapture that rebellious feeling anytime you want. Ahead, six ways to do it.   Have &amp;quot;May I?&amp;quot; Sex  You and your guy don&amp;#039;t need to ask if you can take libidinous liberties with each other ... but maybe you should. To vice things up, have your dude request permission before laying a hand (or lip or tongue) on your bod, as in &amp;quot;May I please touch your breasts?&amp;quot; Or turn the tables and ask him to grant you passion privileges. &amp;quot;Asking for consent is naughty because it means sex is no longer a given,&amp;quot; explains Keesling. &amp;quot;Suddenly, it&amp;#039;s taking the risk that you might be refused, and that risk is extra erotic.&amp;quot; Another reason to have &amp;quot;may I?&amp;quot; sex: Simply vocalizing words that usually remain unspoken is a tawdry treat in itself. Well-behaved couples wouldn&amp;#039;t ordinarily use X-rated vocab \u2014 but being well-behaved isn&amp;#039;t very sexy, is it? &amp;quot;I started thinking about how hot it would sound to hear Mark whisper, &amp;#039;Can I suck your nipples? Can I put my hand between your legs?&amp;#039;&amp;quot; recalls Heather,* 26. &amp;quot;I thought he&amp;#039;d think it was corny, but he was all for it.&amp;quot; Any kind of mouthing off with explicit words and phrases will have the same effect, so go ahead and whisper tarty tidbits in his ear, like &amp;quot;May I unbutton your pants and see what I find in there?&amp;quot; The more surprised he is, the better!  *Names have been changed.   Try a Rougher Touch &amp;quot;My girlfriend may be only 5 feet 3, but when she gets in a certain mood, she is a force to be reckoned with,&amp;quot; admits Andrew, 28. &amp;quot;We&amp;#039;ll just be hanging out on the couch when she&amp;#039;ll suddenly straddle me, pull my head back with a tug of my hair, and just sort of, well, take me.&amp;quot; A powerful and unexpected push, squeeze, kiss, or grab is guaranteed to set your mattress ablaze. Here&amp;#039;s why: First, these tough-love techniques are likely a departure from your usual soft strokes, so it&amp;#039;s arousing simply because it&amp;#039;s different. &amp;quot;&amp;#039;Nice&amp;#039; girls aren&amp;#039;t supposed to be rough in bed, so you&amp;#039;ll both get excited when you play the tigress and your touch is anything but tame,&amp;quot; says Keesling. Second, many men say that rough stuff is more erotic than tender caresses. &amp;quot;The soft stuff is sweet and romantic \u2014 I definitely enjoy it \u2014 but aggressive moves really make me go out of my mind,&amp;quot; says Neil, 23. But there&amp;#039;s no need to get sadistic \u2014 you don&amp;#039;t want to end the evening in the emergency room. Instead, replace your light licks with naughty nipping on his ears and neck during foreplay. During the deed, push your fingertips deep into the fleshiest part of his butt while he thrusts missionary style, then roll him over and climb on top, pulling his face to your breasts as you hit your passion peak. Deploy some chick-in-charge vixen-speak too, if you dare: Tell him you&amp;#039;re going to take him on a ride so wild, he&amp;#039;ll beg for mercy! Another rough romp involves flipping the script by asking him not to handle you with kid gloves. Say you want to know how it feels for him to hold you down on the bed and show you how hot he is for you. Try playfully pushing him away and writhing around a little in a fake struggle. This scenario feels so sinful because you&amp;#039;re pretending to resist his wicked advances (even though you both know you want them!). Just be superclear from the get-go that it&amp;#039;s a game.   Pick Up the Passion Pace Want to get in the fast lane to naughtier nights? Bring on the frantic, frenzied lust-busting action of a quickie even when you and your man have hours to get busy. &amp;quot;Urgency is an amazing aphrodisiac because you feel so incredibly desired,&amp;quot; Keesling says of need-you-now nooky. Don&amp;#039;t believe it? Think back to the last time you and your man hooked up after spending some time apart and how all the pent-up lust came pouring out in one long gotta-get-it-on session. But how do you capture that fast-and-furious feeling when you just saw him yesterday? Margo, 31, and her guy go on a satisfaction strike when they want to create a sense of urgency. &amp;quot;Occasionally, we&amp;#039;ll fool around but deliberately stop short of having sex,&amp;quot; she explains, &amp;quot;so the next time that we see each other, we start tearing our clothes off the minute we&amp;#039;re alone.&amp;quot; Bettina, 24, dispenses with undressing altogether when she&amp;#039;s up for an erotic emergency. &amp;quot;My boyfriend&amp;#039;s a cop \u2014 and you know what they say about a man in uniform,&amp;quot; she says. &amp;quot;Sometimes just the sight of him in his snug blues gets me so horny, I&amp;#039;ll unzip him as soon as he walks in the door, he&amp;#039;ll pull down my panties, and we&amp;#039;ll do it standing up in the hall.&amp;quot; A no-fuss frolic derives some of its naughtiness from ignoring the niceties and going right to the real, raw thing.   See No Evil Any girl who has stumbled on her boyfriend&amp;#039;s porn collection or watched him rise to attention while she was in the innocent process of changing clothes knows men are extremely into sexy visuals. But here&amp;#039;s a surprising bit of news: They can be equally excited by what they don&amp;#039;t see. In fact, Cosmo&amp;#039;s March 2002 sex survey found that 69 percent of guys would love to be blindfolded in bed. The reason, says Keesling, is that &amp;quot;restricting a man&amp;#039;s view during sex means he no longer has control over what&amp;#039;s going to happen, which is wildly stimulating.&amp;quot; Also, without sight, his other four senses \u2014 particularly touch and taste \u2014 kick into overdrive. &amp;quot;Those same-old passion positions will feel new to him because he has this more intense way to experience them,&amp;quot; she adds. Once you have him going crazy not knowing where your next lick, kiss or stroke will land, treat your blindfolded boy to a slew of new sensations. Three to try: the feel of your hair, silk panties, or a string of pearls rubbed gently against his member. If eyes-wide-shut electrifies your man, imagine how naughty you&amp;#039;ll feel being in control of his pleasure. With his peepers covered, you can tempt and tease him any way you want. And don&amp;#039;t forget to be on the receiving end. Have him slide a scarf over your orbs and you&amp;#039;ll give new meaning to the phrase &amp;quot;love is blind.&amp;quot;   Show Him Your Sexy Secret &amp;quot;Men brag about how often they masturbate, but whenever I ask my girlfriend about her self-pleasuring practices, she gets all bashful \u2014 which of course makes it that much more fascinating,&amp;quot; says Randall, 30. &amp;quot;Finally, after a year, she let me watch her masturbate. She was coy about it; she kept her panties on, flicking her fingers through the soft, silky fabric. But it was still one of the hottest things I&amp;#039;d ever seen, and I&amp;#039;ve asked her for a replay plenty of times since then.&amp;quot; There&amp;#039;s no naughtier mystery to men than female masturbation, and they love to play Peeping Tom. (Guys in our last sex survey ranked watching a woman touch herself as one of the top vices they are dying to view.) &amp;quot;The appeal is in the secrecy of it \u2014 not knowing how it&amp;#039;s done or what kind of reaction a woman has when she strokes her own body for pleasure,&amp;quot; explains Iris Finz, coauthor of Secret Sex. &amp;quot;It&amp;#039;s something that men know women do, but women don&amp;#039;t talk about it. Even these days, solo sex is kept covert and hidden.&amp;quot; To slip him some sin, give your guy a demo of how you press your hot buttons when he&amp;#039;s not around. Feeling really randy? Tell him there&amp;#039;s something special he must see in the bedroom now, then give him an explicit exhibition of your private passion. Not at ease being so forward? Keep some of your clothes on the way Randall&amp;#039;s girlfriend did. Or hold your honey&amp;#039;s hand in yours and trace your most bed-quaking solo movements together. (Hey, he might even learn a thing or two.)   Sample Some Forbidden Positions True, any sex style can be naughty if your mind is gleefully in the gutter, but certain poses have a little extra sin built right in. &amp;quot;Anything that deviates from traditional missionary sex could be considered taboo,&amp;quot; says Keesling. But these carnal configurations really raise the bad-girl bar. First, instead of giving your boy oral sex when you&amp;#039;re both lying down, have him stand up, then look him in the eye as you make mouth magic. &amp;quot;Unexpected eye contact will thrill your guy because it&amp;#039;s just so bold on your part,&amp;quot; says Keesling. Another illicit idea: Get on top of your guy in reverse-cowgirl position, facing away from him so you form a T shape. As you get into the deed, lean your upper body forward as low as you can, stretching out against his legs while still straddling his lap (hold his legs or ankles for balance). It&amp;#039;s comfortable, G-spot-accessible intercourse that gives him a lewd look at your private parts thrusting on his penis. You&amp;#039;re getting off because you&amp;#039;re in control, and he&amp;#039;s in heaven with an up-close-and-personal view of the action. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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