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" Lovelies:  A reader wrote in yesterday--anonymously--to say: &amp;quot;Maura! Aren&amp;#039;t you worried that any guy you go out on a date with--like Elevator Man--will google you, see your blog, realize HE is being written about ... and run for the hills???&amp;quot; And the fact is ... I AM worried about that. Very, very worried. In fact, Elevator Man and I are currently trying to figure out when we&amp;#039;ll have dinner, and every time there is a lapse in communication, I think: &amp;quot;Whelp, that&amp;#039;s it, he&amp;#039;s read the blog, he&amp;#039;s terrified, and I&amp;#039;ll never hear from him again.&amp;quot; Particularly because ... a while back, I went out with a guy who told me he&amp;#039;d dated a woman who blogged for Nerve--and that when he asked her not to blog about their relationship, she broke up with him!  Particularly because ... the other day, when I asked my friend Harry Berkeley* how he would feel if he found out a girl was a dating blogger, he flat out said: &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;d completely lose interest in her, no matter how cool she was.&amp;quot; Particularly because ... if the tables were turned, and I met a guy as honest and confessional as myself, and HE was a dating blogger, maybe I&amp;#039;d feel weird about it myself.  On the other hand, I&amp;#039;d probably only feel weird if he seemed mean-spirited--and why would I be interested in someone like that, anyway? What&amp;#039;s more, some dudes--like my ex-BF Jake Stein--get a kick out of seeing their names in lights (or, at least, in pixels).  And The Russian was actually really into the blog, and said that if we&amp;#039;d gotten into a relationship, he would&amp;#039;ve been quite excited about encouraging me to be as revealing as possible on it! (Of course, I get the feeling he was a bit of an exhibitionist ... but anyway ...)  And The Elevator Man--who is a writer himself, and figured out almost immediately I was a dating blogger--told me it sounded like a pretty cool job, and that he himself had been thinking he&amp;#039;d like to do something similar. So maybe he understands. Maybe he gets it. That doesn&amp;#039;t mean I don&amp;#039;t think this is going to be interesting terrain to try to navigate. (And by &amp;quot;interesting&amp;quot; I mean completely freaking scary. By &amp;quot;interesting,&amp;quot; I mean: This blog could very well come between me and the best man I&amp;#039;ll ever find!)  At the same time, I&amp;#039;m confident--who me? confident?--well, yes, I&amp;#039;m confident that I&amp;#039;ll figure out a way to handle all this. Maybe, readers, I&amp;#039;ll have to say to you: &amp;quot;Look, for the sake of this growing relationship, I&amp;#039;m going to keep quiet about this thing for a week or two.&amp;quot; (How would you feel about that?) Or, maybe, I&amp;#039;ll be perfectly honest with you--and with the man in question--and the honesty will actually be great for everyone involved ... ? Hmm.  Well, we&amp;#039;ll see what happens as this story--and my life--progresses ...  ------------------ *Porn-star name. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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