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"When we fight with ones we love, we hope it will end in makeup sex or flowers and Godiva. So when instead we hear those three little stomach-dropping words, &amp;quot;I need space,&amp;quot; it can feel like the world is ending. This morning, I got an email from a darling reader who&amp;amp;#8217;s grappling with this exact problem. Writes an anonymous reader: My boyfriend and I had a massive fight, and just when I thought we were over it, he asked for space. Does he want to break up? I&amp;amp;#8217;m so sad. How did we go from looking at floor-plans for a new apartment to him asking me to leave in less than a week? What do you think I should do? When it comes to relationships, I really wish I had a crystal ball so that I could see the future and know what to do. (I&amp;amp;#8217;ve even considered going to the fortune teller on my block, but she&amp;amp;#8217;s always smoking cigs in her storefront and screaming at her children underfoot so I&amp;amp;#8217;m not sure I trust her.) I may not be Madam Zelda, but one thing&amp;amp;#8217;s for sure: I&amp;amp;#8217;ve been there&amp;amp;#8212;on both sides. It can be hard to hear that he wants space from you because it brings up fears that he&amp;amp;#8217;s doubting your relationship. And while that may be true, it could also be true that he is dealing with some issue he needs to work out in himself and requires &amp;amp;#8220;alone&amp;amp;#8221; time to figure it out. In my case, I needed space so that I could get perspective on our fight and suss out how I felt about the situation. So many times we react with anger, and a little breathing room is just what we need to think in a calm and rational way. In this instance, respecting his wishes is the best move (you&amp;amp;#8217;d want the same from him and would love him more for it in the end, right?) There is a possibility you will break up (but that possibility is always there, even for people who think they&amp;amp;#8217;ll be together forever!). Just remember that if you do, no matter how devastating it feels in the moment, you WILL move on and find someone worthy of all the love you have to give. My Dad always said, &amp;amp;#8220;All it takes is meeting someone new to get over a broken heart.&amp;amp;#8221; So, look at the &amp;amp;#8220;time out&amp;amp;#8221; as an opportunity to connect to yourself again and be certain to do things you enjoy&amp;amp;#8212;get a pedicure, order in your favorite food, see a funny movie or plan a brunch with your best girls. As they say on Parks and Recreation,&amp;amp;#8220;treat yo self!&amp;amp;#8221; Do you have any advice to give our reader? Have you ever been in a similar situation? What did you do? More dating questions from Glamour girls: * Reader Dilemma: He Talked About Marriage on Our First Date; Is That a Red Flag? * Reader&amp;#x27;s Dilemma: How Do I Clean Up After Sex? One Expert Answers The Messy Question! * Reader&amp;#x27;s Dilemma: Am I Too Young to Give Up On Relationships? Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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