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"My boyfriend recently got fired from his job and has no motivation to get another one. We live together, so for the last month or so, he&amp;#039;s been mooching off me. It&amp;#039;s driving me crazy! How can I get him off the freakin&amp;#039; couch? It&amp;#039;s understandable why you&amp;#039;d want to slap some sense into your slacking guy. In fact, a lot of women would have served his sorry butt walking papers by now...or at least told him to look for a job already! You get props for your patience though, because getting canned is not always easy to recover from...especially for a guy. The fact that your man had a job in the first place tells me that he&amp;#039;s probably not a deadbeat. Most likely, he&amp;#039;s just paralyzed with fear over what to do next. I&amp;#039;m not excusing his behavior, but you need to be a little sensitive. Don&amp;#039;t belittle him, nag him, or give him ultimatums. That will only cause him to feel defensive and demoralized \u2014 not a good combination for a man on the job hunt. Instead, help him figure out his next move. Talk to him about his options and, if he asks for it, offer helpful suggestions. If he seems completely disinterested in finding a job, try another approach. Say something like, &amp;quot;I know you&amp;#039;re going through a hard time but I&amp;#039;m concerned about our finances. It would be better for us if we were both working.&amp;quot; Using the we makes it your problem as a couple and lets him know you&amp;#039;re on his side. If his slacker behavior goes on for another month though, it&amp;#039;s time for some tough love. Like a roommate, tell him if he can&amp;#039;t pay rent, he&amp;#039;ll need to find new living arrangements and some other sucker to mooch off of. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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