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"A woman from Yahoo Shine, where my Good Housekeeping blog is syndicated, wrote a post about being the other woman. It was a pretty classic tale of woman meets married man/man is unhappy in marriage/man and woman start having affair/they are perfect for each other and so forth and so on and kiss my bootie. (You&amp;#039;ll never guess where I stand.) She wanted a few opinions. She received 600. Writers wrote in both supporting her and spewing warnings of the, &amp;quot;What comes around goes around&amp;quot; variety. While she wrote about her liaison looking for advice, it&amp;#039;s possible that she already knew in her heart what the answer was. After all, her title was, &amp;quot;I am the &amp;#039;other woman&amp;#039;, so ladies, let me have it.&amp;quot; I&amp;#039;d like to say I&amp;#039;m surprised by cheaters, but sadly I am not. Marriage is a lot of work. Someone else can always look better, especially in this day and age of, &amp;quot;You deserve the best! Anything less than eternal happiness means something is terribly, terribly flawed!&amp;quot; Oprah devoted an entire show to the myths and facts of cheating. The link has some interesting facts about why people cheat. It also talks about forgiveness and how to move a relationship forward. This is a very touchy subject (pun intended) because everyone has different reactions to being cheated on, as well as reasons for finding themselves in another&amp;#039;s bed. Personally, I&amp;#039;ve never been cheated on. I&amp;#039;ve also never cheated. And while some people might call me lucky, or others call me ethical, I see it as something else entirely. A long time ago, I was in a committed relationship. I was very unhappy for a variety of reasons \u2013 many of which I&amp;#039;m certain the woman&amp;#039;s boyfriend in this article relates to. I met another man at work - someone who I felt a soul altering connection with. I fantasized constantly about being with him instead of the person I was with. I knew in my bones that he felt the same about me, and in retrospect, it wouldn&amp;#039;t have taken much to start a fiery affair. More than just sex, I really believed I loved this person. I felt we could grow old together. And yet... and yet... the person I was with at the time was planning on growing old with me. To go behind his back would not have been right. And what I loved the most about the man I was falling for is that he respected my current relationship. He did not once try to interfere. Eventually my partner and I went separate ways. The man I wanted so desperately found someone else and I haven&amp;#039;t seen him since. And while to this day I am convinced we would have worked out had we gotten together, I never would have met Rex. And even more importantly, I never would have truly forgiven myself for breaking the trust my partner had in me, whether I loved him or not. Am I an ethical person or an idiot? Depends on how you view life: Grab the goods while you can or have some patience, even if it means a bit of suffering. What I want to know most is: Are we really living in a world where instant gratification means so much more than some temporary discomfort? "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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