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" Is Your Bedroom Behavior Normal? Our December survey about readers&amp;#039; bedroom behavior revealed a few universally troubling issues. To help you deal with these carnal quandaries, we talked to Laura Berman, PhD, sex therapist and creator of the DVD series Dr. Berman Can Help. Here are the five topics we&amp;#039;ll tackle:  1) 79% of women worry that they look or taste weird when they&amp;#039;re receiving .  2) 61% of women sometimes have trouble getting enough. 3) 44% of women say a partner has had a that they can&amp;#039;t stand. 4) 40% of women have dated a guy who wanted than they did.  5) 36% of women say their partner sometimes .   1) 79% of women worry that they look or taste weird when they&amp;#039;re receiving oral sex.  &amp;quot;Genital self-image issues are so prevalent because women don&amp;#039;t grow up getting positive messages about their private parts,&amp;quot; says Berman. The bottom line: There&amp;#039;s a wide range of what&amp;#039;s &amp;quot;normal.&amp;quot; No one has exactly the same color, shape, scent, and amount of hair. Just make sure you wash daily with soap and water and eat a healthy diet. The only time you should be concerned: If you notice a sudden bad odor. If you do, see your doc \u2014 it could be a sign of infection.  And try not to sweat over whether your guy is turned off by your below-the-belt region. Men like what they&amp;#039;re seeing and smelling when they go down on a woman. So, try to relax and enjoy his attention. It helps if you close your eyes, take deep breaths, and focus on what you&amp;#039;re feeling.  It may take practice, but there is a pleasure payoff. &amp;quot;Studies have found that women who feel good about their genitals are six times more likely to be sexually satisfied than women who have poor genital self-image because they can let go in bed and enjoy the experience,&amp;quot; says Berman.  2) 61% of women sometimes have trouble getting lubricated enough. The most common culprit of feeling dry down below is simply not being aroused enough. That&amp;#039;s what it&amp;#039;s important to spend time on foreplay before moving to intercourse.  Still, some women struggle to stay wet enough even when they&amp;#039;re completely turned on. Common causes for this include hormones, medications (even some over-the-counter ones like antihistamines), and anxiety. &amp;quot;Blood vessels constrict when you&amp;#039;re anxious, which inhibits lubrication,&amp;quot; explains Berman.  If you do experience dryness, there&amp;#039;s a simple solution: Put a few drops of water-based lubricant on your fingers, rub them together to warm it up, and apply it to your hot spots or your guy&amp;#039;s penis (or have him do the honors). You may have to reapply the slick stuff, even if you&amp;#039;re using a lubricated condom, because lubed condoms dry out after five minutes or so of intercourse. Since dryness creates friction, which can cause the condom to tear, it&amp;#039;s extra-important to maintain lubrication through the act.  3) 44% of women say a partner has had a sex move that they couldn&amp;#039;t stand. You don&amp;#039;t have to grin and bear a move that fails to make your toes curl. Gently let your guy know where he&amp;#039;s going wrong. &amp;quot;Giving men feedback in the bedroom can be tough on him if you aren&amp;#039;t diplomatic about it,&amp;quot; says Berman. So instead of just saying what you don&amp;#039;t like, offer up some suggestions of what he should do. For example, rather than saying &amp;quot;I don&amp;#039;t like when you rub me so hard,&amp;quot; try something such as, &amp;quot;It feels so good when you rub a little softer.&amp;quot;  You can also just place your hand on his, and guide him to the spot you want pleasured. Or, shift your body so his mouth hits you someplace more to your liking. Then, when he makes a move that&amp;#039;s just right, you let him know how good it feels by moaning or just telling him how much you like what he&amp;#039;s doing. He&amp;#039;ll get the message, and he&amp;#039;ll appreciate the positive reinforcement.  4) 40% of women have dated a guy who wanted sex less than they did. Dating a guy with a lower sex drive is becoming more and more common, as rising stress levels, obesity rates, and the popularity of certain medications all wreak havoc on guys&amp;#039; libidos.  If this is a new development, talk to your guy to see what&amp;#039;s changed in his life. Let him know how much he means to you and how much you enjoy your sexual connection \u2014 but don&amp;#039;t sound disappointed. Feeling inadequate will only add pressure. &amp;quot;Stress about work or money is a top cause of temporarily lowered libido among men,&amp;quot; says Berman. Another cause of lowered sex drive: If he&amp;#039;s had trouble getting or staying hard. &amp;quot;He may avoid sex, because he doesn&amp;#039;t want to fail again,&amp;quot; adds Berman. If he&amp;#039;s never had a ravenous sexual appetite, then his sexual DNA may be to blame. Some men&amp;#039;s libidos are just lower than others. That&amp;#039;s not to say you&amp;#039;re fated to night after night of cuddling \u2014 you&amp;#039;ll just have to work with him to find a frequency that satisfies you both.  5) 36% of women say their partner sometimes can&amp;#039;t climax. Two facts you must know: 1) It&amp;#039;s normal, and 2) it&amp;#039;s not a reflection of his sexual attraction to you. &amp;quot;This is usually caused by performance anxiety or medical reasons,&amp;quot; says Berman. &amp;quot;Ask him if he can orgasm when he masturbates. If that&amp;#039;s the case, then it&amp;#039;s likely just performance anxiety.&amp;quot; Certain medications (like antidepressants) can also affect a guy&amp;#039;s sexual function, as can too much alcohol and/or recreational drugs.  Either way, the more you assure him &amp;quot;it&amp;#039;s fine,&amp;quot; the more self-conscious and pressured he&amp;#039;ll feel. So instead of focusing on the situation, have him pleasure you with his mouth or hands. Being able to satisfy you will help salvage his sexual ego. It&amp;#039;ll also get his mind off the problem, which may relax him enough to go over the brink. However, if his condition is chronic and there&amp;#039;s no obvious explanation, encourage him to see a doctor. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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