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"There are some questions about men that only a guy can answer. We asked the dudes at guyspeak.com (read more about them here), for their take on this dating conundrum: Q: My boyfriend just told me that I&amp;#x27;m &amp;quot;getting fat and cottage-cheesy&amp;quot; and need to work out more. I&amp;#x27;m 5&amp;#x27;7&amp;quot; and have never weighed over 125 pounds in my life. Is this a dump-able offense? Absolutely. What a tool. It&amp;#x27;s not just the rude comment that&amp;#x27;s a problem, but the fact that he would ever think that insulting you is an acceptable way to express himself or motivate you. He sounds either very young or very dumb. Or both. Your weight is none of his business; commenting on it makes him sound like a condescending, dominating jerk who thinks he deserves a say in how you look. If you had gained an extreme amount of weight in a short time (which you haven&amp;#x27;t), then maybe&amp;amp;mdash;maybe&amp;amp;mdash;he might have reason to mention it to you, but even then, how about a little tact for the woman you claim to love? People who have gained weight don&amp;#x27;t need to be told they&amp;#x27;ve gained weight&amp;amp;mdash;they are acutely aware and dislike it even more than you do. A boyfriend chiming in with the obvious&amp;amp;mdash;&amp;quot;Hmm, you&amp;#x27;ve gained weight&amp;quot;&amp;amp;mdash;makes him look like a jerk trying to bully and guilt you into doing something about it. Which you were already planning to do anyway, but hey, thanks for the insult, jackhole. To have an issue with your partner&amp;#x27;s looks is almost always driven by selfishness. It&amp;#x27;s about you, not them. You want them to change something so that they will be more pleasing to you. Is your guy concerned about your health or just how you look on his arm? Is he afraid someone might think he&amp;#x27;s&amp;amp;mdash;gasp!&amp;amp;mdash;dating a fat chick? (Not that you are one; it&amp;#x27;s just an example.) We all want our mates to look good, and we want to look good for them, but other concerns trump that. Your partner&amp;#x27;s self-esteem should be infinitely more important to you than the fact that she might have gained five to seven pounds over the holidays. If you aren&amp;#x27;t mature enough to understand that, maybe you shouldn&amp;#x27;t be dating. No one would blame you if you dumped the guy, but what you decide to do is your choice and your business. At the very least, I think you should make it crystal clear that comments like that are disrespectful and unacceptable. Don&amp;#x27;t stand for it. --Written by Cary McNeal for guyspeak.com Would you dump your boyfriend if he made comments like that about your weight? More from guyspeak.com: * I&amp;#x27;m having problems with my husband; what should I do? * My boyfriend is complaining about my weight; what should I do? * My husband said he watches porn because I&amp;#x27;m unattractive and gained weight; what should I do? * Friend GuySpeak on Facebook and follow them on Twitter. More Ways to Get Glamour Visit Shopglamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter. Add Glamour to your iGoogle homepage. Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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