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"I&amp;amp;#8217;m just gonna throw this one out there. Why do some young, perfectly healthy guys have trouble coming? Usually, girls complain about the opposite problem: They wish sex would last longer than say, ahem, two minutes. But what if the reverse was true, and his chances of reaching orgasm were as likely as spotting a unicorn on your front yard wearing a bolero? I had to get the facts straight, so I sat down with Lifestyles Condom Expert (and my favorite sex therapist and co-author), Dr. Belisa Vranich, to crack the code on this mysterious topic. According to Dr. B, there are a few components at work. Here are three things she says might be contributing to the problem&amp;amp;#8212;what the experts refer to as Delayed Ejaculation. 1. Medication &amp;amp;#8220;You wouldn&amp;amp;#8217;t believe how many medications inhibit orgasm. Antidepressants are one of the major culprits affecting both a man&amp;amp;#8217;s sex drive and his ability to orgasm.&amp;amp;#8221; 2. Emotions Guys can be super sensitive, and they aren&amp;amp;#8217;t always used to expressing what they&amp;amp;#8217;re feeling. &amp;amp;#8220;It could be that he&amp;amp;#8217;s worried about an issue in his life, making it hard for him to truly let go. Anxiety, depression, concern about performance, and even a past traumatic event might be at play here.&amp;amp;#8221; 3. Porn &amp;amp;#8220;The rise of Internet porn has led to increased masturbation. The clinical term is referred to as Idiosyncratic Masturbatory Style, meaning that a guy has become accustomed to a certain pressure and friction in order to come.&amp;amp;#8221; If this is the case, it might be time for what the sex docs call a &amp;amp;#8220;porn break.&amp;amp;#8221; Not all guys will be open to discussing their issues in the bedroom, so Dr. B recommends switching it up in the sack first to take the pressure off the act of sex, itself. &amp;amp;#8220;Stop thinking as intercourse as the most important thing,&amp;amp;#8221; she says. &amp;amp;#8220;Simultaneous orgasms during sexual intercourse happen, but not as frequently as you think. In general, people orgasm at different times, with different types of stimulation. Penis-to-vagina contact is one, but it&amp;amp;#8217;s not the holy grail, and doesn&amp;#x27;t need to be your (or his) favorite. Don&amp;amp;#8217;t worry about trying to have [traditional] sex. Instead, get kinky, creative and practical!&amp;amp;#8221; If nothing changes, then think about taking a gentle approach to see if you can get him to open up about what other components might be adding to the problem. What do you guys think about Dr. B&amp;amp;#8217;s advice? Have you ever been with a guy that had trouble coming? Were you able to work through it? And, lastly, how did it affect your relationship? More on orgasms: * Give Him the Best Orgasm of His Life: 6 Practical Tips From a Real Guy * Real Women Tell Their Orgasm Secrets * 6 Fun Facts About Male Orgasms "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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