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" So you&amp;#039;ve been dating your guy for a while (or hey, maybe 10 minutes) and now it&amp;#039;s the moment of truth...your first night together in the sack. What&amp;#039;s he thinking as the lights go low? You may assume you know what&amp;#039;s running through the male brain, but believe us, you have no idea. While you&amp;#039;re obsessing about leg stubble and trying to remember if your bra and panties match, a guy&amp;#039;s dirty mind is all over the map. Cosmo grilled a bunch of men for the raw details on what he&amp;#039;s really thinking the first time you get it on. How He Preps for First-Time Sex with You &amp;quot;I set aside that afternoon to clean, and if she&amp;#039;s really hot, I&amp;#039;ll even take off from work early. You don&amp;#039;t want her to open the closet and say, &amp;#039;What the hell is a dried-up spaghetti dish doing on the floor?&amp;#039; If she sees pubic hairs on the toilet, you&amp;#039;re not going to get any.&amp;quot; \u2014Steve, 32, filmmaker  &amp;quot;I make sure my room&amp;#039;s clean, but I don&amp;#039;t need to have her walk into a love palace. Do I have candles and incense and flowers? No, that&amp;#039;s trying way too hard.&amp;quot; \u2014Simon, 24, deejay  &amp;quot;I make sure I&amp;#039;ve got condoms around. There&amp;#039;s nothing worse than having to fumble around looking for a condom when you&amp;#039;re about to have sex, especially the first time you&amp;#039;re with someone. You look like an idiot.&amp;quot; \u2014Evan, 30, lawyer  &amp;quot;I shoot off a round before she comes over so I don&amp;#039;t get overly excited and lose it too fast when we hook up.&amp;quot; \u2014David, 26, sound engineer  How He Really Feels About Your Naked Bod &amp;quot;There&amp;#039;s something golden about that moment where she takes off all of her clothes before you have sex for the first time. Guys don&amp;#039;t care much about a stretch mark on her hip or a nipple hair. Ideally, she doesn&amp;#039;t have them, but in reality, those women are few and far between.&amp;quot; \u2014Evan &amp;quot;I take care of myself, and I want someone who does, too. I recently hooked up with this girl and we&amp;#039;re lying in bed naked and she had to use the bathroom. I loved watching her butt as she walked away \u2014 you could tell she worked out.&amp;quot; \u2014Simon &amp;quot;The first time I felt a fake breast, it was a real shocker. This girl had incredibly huge tits, and I kept thinking to myself, Whoa, she&amp;#039;s gonna be amazing. Then when we rolled onto the bed, I felt a kind of hardness between us. I thought it was her purse at first because it seemed like a solid object and then I realized, This is her breast!&amp;quot; \u2014Ben &amp;quot;I hate it if she has really dry hands. When I feel these scratchy mitts giving me a hand job, I&amp;#039;m thinking, Hey, I might as well have my friend Bob give me a hand job instead.&amp;quot; \u2014Mark  &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m pretty much in awe the first time I see her naked. There are a lot of curves that you weren&amp;#039;t expecting or hadn&amp;#039;t previously noticed, and it&amp;#039;s great.&amp;quot; \u2014Trey &amp;quot;One time, I took this chick home and got her down to her underwear, and it was like there were a thousand daddy longlegs stuffed in her panties. There was just a massive amount of hair bulging out, really coarse and crunchy! I stopped at that point, and we went to sleep.&amp;quot; \u2014David &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m kind of intrigued by piercings and tattoos, but I&amp;#039;m always a bit shocked to see them on her body. Unless I have some reason to anticipate random body art being there, it&amp;#039;s just a little bit surprising, and honestly, it&amp;#039;s not always a good surprise.&amp;quot; \u2014Rick  What&amp;#039;s Running Through His Brain During Foreplay &amp;quot;By the first time I&amp;#039;m with a girl, there&amp;#039;s been such a buildup \u2014 phone calls, movies, drinks, parties \u2014 that I&amp;#039;m in a state of awe that she&amp;#039;s letting me do the things I&amp;#039;m doing. Is that really my hand on her boob? Is she actually allowing me to put my mouth on her body?&amp;quot; \u2014Trey, 29, production assistant &amp;quot;A big thing the first time is not pawing her too quickly out of excitement. One time, I started thinking about this really gross coworker of mine on purpose to slow me down. Hey, it worked.&amp;quot; \u2014Matt, 27, video producer &amp;quot;The first time we start fooling around, I&amp;#039;m hoping she&amp;#039;ll direct me and say something like &amp;#039;That feels really good&amp;#039; or &amp;#039;Do it this way.&amp;#039; Guys need those green lights to figure out what a girl wants.&amp;quot; \u2014Grant, 31, photographer/construction worker  &amp;quot;Foreplay&amp;#039;s my favorite part when I&amp;#039;m with a new girl. But if it&amp;#039;s going on 10 minutes and her hand&amp;#039;s not in my pants, I&amp;#039;m just like, what&amp;#039;s going on?&amp;quot; \u2014Jay, 25, social worker &amp;quot;This comes from a programmed and idiotic male sense: All I can think about when we&amp;#039;re starting to hook up is that I&amp;#039;m scoring and I get to put an &amp;#039;X&amp;#039; on my chalkboard. Or that I can&amp;#039;t wait to tell my friends about it. If I really care about her, the emotional kind of sex comes later.&amp;quot; \u2014Mark, 21, student  &amp;quot;If during foreplay, the chick says, &amp;#039;So where is this relationship going? How do you feel?&amp;#039; I&amp;#039;ll freak out. It&amp;#039;s way too early to be talking about things like that. The first night together is only for fun, not heavy stuff.&amp;quot; \u2014Rick, 31, teacher &amp;quot;If a woman doesn&amp;#039;t want to do certain things during foreplay or won&amp;#039;t let me look at certain parts of her body, like her butt or stomach, that sort of annoys me. If she can&amp;#039;t relax now, I&amp;#039;m probably not going to get lucky later, which sucks.&amp;quot; \u2014Ben, 29, bartender   His Do&amp;#039;s and Don&amp;#039;ts on Getting Down and Dirty &amp;quot;The first time, I&amp;#039;m perfectly satisfied with missionary and slight variations on missionary like legs up, legs on my shoulders, that kind of thing. Sometimes it&amp;#039;s important to see each other face-to-face...and sometimes it&amp;#039;s important not to.&amp;quot; \u2014Matt &amp;quot;I love it when a girl wants to ride me from the get-go, especially when she squats down and pumps herself like a piston. It&amp;#039;s like she&amp;#039;s baring it all, right from the start, which is so sexy.&amp;quot; \u2014Steve &amp;quot;You don&amp;#039;t want to get too crazy because you don&amp;#039;t want her to think you&amp;#039;re a freak. Plus, if you bust out all of your moves the first night, she may just call you for good times and leave it at that.&amp;quot; \u2014Jay &amp;quot;For the initial hookup, you&amp;#039;re going for a little more of a connection (unless you just brought her home from a club). I like to have her on my lap so we can make out while we&amp;#039;re doing it.&amp;quot; \u2014Grant &amp;quot;The first time, I&amp;#039;ll usually lift her off the bed by her butt cheeks, put her legs on my shoulders with her head on the pillow, and really hit the G-spot. Many girls are into it that way the first time around. It shows her you&amp;#039;re more creative than just Missionary Guy.&amp;quot; \u2014Evan &amp;quot;I love getting taken by surprise in bed, like when a girl uses a little dirty talk or does a taboo move. It&amp;#039;s like &amp;#039;Who is this new girl? She looked so sweet when I met her!&amp;#039; Except don&amp;#039;t call me Daddy and don&amp;#039;t wear a catsuit. That&amp;#039;s weird.&amp;quot; \u2014Simon  How Hard He Tries to Please You (or Doesn&amp;#039;t) &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m always paying attention to the small things she does: how she breathes, what noises she&amp;#039;s making. I&amp;#039;m also trying to hit certain areas, like the front and the back wall of the inside of her. Trying to find certain spots, like the G-spot, is harder. But man, sometimes I&amp;#039;m going at it and thinking, What the hell am I doing?&amp;quot; \u2014David &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;ll wait forever until she orgasms first, telling myself, &amp;#039;You&amp;#039;re not gonna come, you&amp;#039;re not gonna come...&amp;#039; It&amp;#039;s partly because I want to be a good guy, especially if I want to keep dating her, and partly an ego thing. This is the first night, and you&amp;#039;re trying to do everything possible to impress her because you want to look like the biggest stud in the pen.&amp;quot; \u2014Grant &amp;quot;If she says, &amp;#039;I&amp;#039;ve never had an orgasm before&amp;#039; just as we&amp;#039;re starting to have sex, I&amp;#039;m not going to try too hard. I don&amp;#039;t want to climb K2 tonight!&amp;quot; \u2014Jay &amp;quot;Sometimes I&amp;#039;ve felt such pressure to perform because it&amp;#039;s the first time that I&amp;#039;ve even faked it. You squeeze your butt cheeks together and grimace and shudder and then you pull out and put the condom someplace where she can&amp;#039;t see it. Usually your penis starts going soft right away because it was an effort to keep it hard. It&amp;#039;s just a relief to get it over with.&amp;quot; \u2014Evan &amp;quot;The beauty of the first time is that I&amp;#039;m not really concerned about anything. Maybe fireworks will go off or maybe they won&amp;#039;t. There&amp;#039;s always another shot.&amp;quot; \u2014Ben  What He&amp;#039;s Secretly Thinking the Next Morning &amp;quot;The morning after is a little weird because of expectations. Like if she wakes up and starts acting like she owns the place, putting on my clothes, then I get really irritated. This is too early to wear my shirt home. But if she wakes up and acts cool about everything, I&amp;#039;ll offer to make breakfast because it puts a nice seal on things. Even if it was just casual sex, she&amp;#039;ll know that I treated her like a lady.&amp;quot; \u2014Evan &amp;quot;I don&amp;#039;t feel awkward if it&amp;#039;s a girl I somewhat like. I have no problem with her staying over, and the next day is never really weird for me. If she sticks around, I&amp;#039;ll make her breakfast. I&amp;#039;m kind of a romantic, sentimental guy. I don&amp;#039;t mind cuddling, but maybe not right after sex.&amp;quot; \u2014Simon &amp;quot;Usually I&amp;#039;m thinking, How do I get outta here? But not always. I try to avoid spending the night the first time. I usually say something before we even go to my place or hers. I&amp;#039;ll say I have to meet up with people, or I&amp;#039;ll just make up a work excuse.&amp;quot; \u2014Matt  &amp;quot;Most of the time, I wake up early and start thinking ahead: Should I wait till she gets up to take a shower so we can shower together?&amp;quot; \u2014Trey &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;ll admit it, I&amp;#039;m a dog. All I want to do the next morning is get dressed, eat some food by myself, watch TV, and hit the gym \u2014 not talk.&amp;quot; \u2014Mark &amp;quot;My old go-to move was that if she was in my room sleeping and I wanted her to leave, I would just move her so her back was against the cold wall. I&amp;#039;d pretend I was sleeping and she&amp;#039;d leave. It worked every time. If she gets back on top of you and tries doing something, you pretend that you&amp;#039;re snoring.&amp;quot; \u2014Grant &amp;quot;When I was younger, I used to wonder the next day how it was for her. Now I don&amp;#039;t sweat it as much. She was aroused, I was aroused, and I know I was probably one of her better lovers...or at least that&amp;#039;s what I tell myself.&amp;quot; \u2014Steve "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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