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"The title of this post refers to am email someone wrote to Rosemary Brennan at Smitten. While Erin had some advice on this topic, here we have Single John Responds, Valentine&amp;amp;#8217;s Day edition. Maybe we&amp;amp;#8217;ll do a whole week of these. I dunno. I&amp;amp;#8217;m feeling kooky today. Send your Valentine&amp;amp;#8217;s Day queries here. If I can&amp;amp;#8217;t write about your question, I&amp;amp;#8217;ll certainly get back to you. Either way, here&amp;#x27;s what to do about getting some play on V-day:So Valentine&amp;amp;#8217;s Day is coming up this week and I met this guy at my school. The thing is, I do not know how to put the moves on him. I don&amp;#x27;t know if he has a girlfriend or what kind of girl he likes. I am really confused on how to ask the right questions without being humiliated. Should I ask him to be my valentine or will that make him think I am too head strong? I just need advice on how to let him see me as a potential woman to date.&amp;amp;#8212;Melissa Oral sex tends to work. JK. Sorta. Without knowing more (as to whether he has a GF or not, or what kind of girl he likes, these are questions the answers to which will depend entirely on your available intel: friends in common, observation, etc), I offer the following advice: don&amp;amp;#8217;t make a big deal out of it, and do not make it about Valentine&amp;amp;#8217;s Day (for him, or for you). Your Single-ish Blogger, at an Un-Valentine&amp;#x27;s party. Note the bland clothing, pierced heart, and the fact that I am alone. If you spend an entire day and night crafting a plot, cutting out construction paper hearts (my favorite crafting activity, PS), baking &amp;amp;#8220;Be My Valentine&amp;amp;#8221; into a somewhat perversely-shaped but delicious-tasting cookie, and then find out he has a girlfriend, or has plans, when you give it to him, you will be understandably crushed. On the other hand, if you just strike up a conversation with him and ask casually if he has plans for the sh*tstorm of love that is Valentine&amp;amp;#8217;s, you will probably get your most telling answer, e.g. &amp;amp;#8220;My girlfriend and I are going to the rifle range,&amp;amp;#8221; or, more hopefully, &amp;amp;#8220;I&amp;amp;#8217;m not doing anything--I hate Valentine&amp;amp;#8217;s Day,&amp;amp;#8221; to which you can can playfully respond, &amp;amp;#8220;Ugh, me too. It&amp;amp;#8217;s like Christmas, but for idiots.&amp;amp;#8221; Vibe it out. If you guys end up going on a date, or hanging, great. If not, then it&amp;amp;#8217;s no big deal and you&amp;amp;#8217;re not humiliated in the slightest. Just don&amp;amp;#8217;t make it about Valentine&amp;amp;#8217;s Day. So unnecessary. Early on, the goal should be to remove the pressure, not to add additional stress. Will you be celebrating Valentine&amp;amp;#8217;s, or enduring it? How so? More on glamour.com Valentine&amp;#x27;s Dos and Don&amp;#x27;ts How To Pick Up a Guy On Valentine&amp;#x27;s Day 10 Things He&amp;#x27;s Thinking About on Valentine&amp;#x27;s Day More Ways to Get Glamour You could win $50,000 just for registering or logging in to Glamour.com! Sign up for Glamour.com&amp;#x27;s Style Tips of the Week and Beauty Tip of the Day newsletters! Add Glamour to your iGoogle homepage. Follow Glamour on Twitter. Photo: Jupiter Images; model is used for illustrative purposes only "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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