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"I&amp;#039;ve never been a materialistic person. Thrift stores for my kids school clothes? A public education? Cooking at home instead of funding McDonald&amp;#039;s billion dollar empire? Sign me up. But lately, I&amp;#039;ve been feeling resentful - right or wrong. I need a break. Rex and I need to look at the budget again and decide what is &amp;quot;fair&amp;quot;. For example: He&amp;#039;s flying to New York next week to see a friend. His justification? It&amp;#039;s free money based on mileage he&amp;#039;s built up from work. On one hand, it makes perfect cents - pun intended. On the other, I don&amp;#039;t get mileage on my Mommy Credit Card for driving the kids to karate, dance, school, doctors, friends&amp;#039; houses, swim lessons, etc.. Does that mean I don&amp;#039;t get a vacation? This article brings up a ton of good points on why couples fight about cash. In short order they are: 1. Neglect (Pssst... it&amp;#039;s more about not paying attention to the marraige than the finances.) 2. Love is Blind (At the beginning of the relationship, money is not an issue. Then comes the rent/mortgage, kids, etc..) 3. When Women are the Breadwinners (A twist in earning power means tension about role expectations.) 4. Keeping Up with the Joneses (The &amp;quot;If the neighbors have a new porch, why shouldn&amp;#039;t we?&amp;quot; scenario.) 5. Not enough open communication about where the money is going. (This is my beef, not the articles.) I relate to #1 a lot.&amp;quot;Often, in couples who are arguing about money, it&amp;#039;s not money that&amp;#039;s the problem,&amp;quot; says Harley. &amp;quot;Instead, the money fights are a byproduct of relationship neglect.&amp;quot; Rex and I are going to talk not only about the budget this week - about what is important to him (long term goals) and what is vital for my soul (short term fun.) Thoughts on money? Who fights about it? What&amp;#039;s the solution where both parties feel satisfied? "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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