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" Bragging about how busy you are is so popular these days, it practically takes up more time than actually being busy. We get it; we&amp;#x27;re all busy. Does it have to interfere with our relationships too? Check out one reader&amp;#x27;s problem... She writes: There&amp;#x27;s a boy in one of my college classes. One day he asked for my number and if I wanted to go to a Halloween party! I did, and we&amp;#x27;ve hung out about five times outside of class. He&amp;#x27;s held my hand and kissed me in front of all his friends. The other night, he invited me to watch a movie at his place, but when he walked me out to my car he said he had a question. He asked me what I was looking for. I stopped and I said &amp;quot;I don&amp;#x27;t know; what are you looking for?&amp;quot; He said he&amp;#x27;s too busy between work and school to be in a relationship and he didn&amp;#x27;t want to lead me on. I thanked him for being honest, and he said he still wanted to hang out, catch a movie go to dinner, blah blah blah. When I left I started to realize I do know what I want. I was expecting to take things slow to get to know the guy and, yes, in the long run, have a relationship. I really enjoy his company. We just kind of click. He&amp;#x27;s an awesome guy! I don&amp;#x27;t know what to do. I feel like I need to actually answer his question and tell him. And I still want to hang out with him, but if we&amp;#x27;re never going to be in a relationship, is it a bad idea? Oh reader, this is a classic blunder right up there with &amp;quot;Never go against a Sicilian when death is on the line.&amp;quot; (Not the first time I&amp;#x27;ve made that reference here on Smitten, but I&amp;#x27;m not remotely sorry for overusing it.) The harsh rule is: Never get involved with a guy who tells you, without prompting, that he is too busy for a relationship. Nobody is too busy for a relationship if they really want to be in one. He doesn&amp;#x27;t. That&amp;#x27;s why he brought up that subject, and that&amp;#x27;s why he told you that. Now, he wants to be free to hang out with you (and possibly hook up with you) but feel guilt-free when your feelings get hurt later when he is seeing other people or just doesn&amp;#x27;t want to commit to you. Is there technically anything wrong with hanging out with a great guy just to have fun, even if it doesn&amp;#x27;t end in a relationship? No, of course not&amp;amp;#133;if that&amp;#x27;s what you want as well. But, it doesn&amp;#x27;t sound like it is what you want, so I think you need to tell him that while you appreciate his honesty, you&amp;#x27;re not interested in hanging out in a way that isn&amp;#x27;t going anywhere. If you feel like you need to get it off your chest that you want a relationship, maybe you should go ahead and say it, but I&amp;#x27;m pretty sure we already know his response here. He doesn&amp;#x27;t want a relationship, and it&amp;#x27;s not because you weren&amp;#x27;t up front or because you scared him off in any way. He just doesn&amp;#x27;t. And if you do, then it&amp;#x27;s time to write him off as a nice guy you had some fun with but who ultimately isn&amp;#x27;t going to give you what you want. There will be another great guy who does want the same thing&amp;amp;#8212;and wants it with you. Go find him, and good luck! Have you ever given or received the &amp;quot;I&amp;#x27;m too busy&amp;quot; excuse? Do you legitimately think people can be too busy for a relationship, or is it always just a cover for the fact that they don&amp;#x27;t want one? What would you advise our reader? Reminder: All problems seem easier when discussed with your Internet friends! Send your reader&amp;#x27;s dilemmas to smittenbloggers@gmail.com."^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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