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"Well here&amp;amp;#8217;s a potential friendship-ender ... Writes Save the Date reader Avery: Three years ago I was my college roommate&amp;amp;#8217;s maid of honor. (Her wedding was one year after college graduation.) Now it&amp;amp;#8217;s my turn to be the bride, and not only do I not want her to be my maid of honor&amp;amp;#8212;I don&amp;amp;#8217;t want her in my wedding party at all! We didn&amp;amp;#8217;t have a falling out or anything, we&amp;amp;#8217;ve just really grown apart over the past three years. We live in different cities and I&amp;amp;#8217;ve reconnected with high school friends and made new ones&amp;amp;#8212;I&amp;amp;#8217;m much closer to these friends than I am with my college roommate. Still, I have a feeling she thinks she&amp;amp;#8217;ll be included in my wedding party. Do I have to ask her to reciprocate the honor? Can I just not say anything and hope she gets the hint? Or do I need to have a &amp;amp;#8220;this is why you&amp;amp;#8217;re not my bridesmaid&amp;amp;#8221; conversation? How awkward would that be? Here are my thoughts: Eep! Awkward is right! Still, if you want to maintain some sort of friendship, I think a conversation is the only way to go. You don&amp;amp;#8217;t have to ask her to be in your wedding party&amp;amp;#8212;like you said, your bridesmaids should be your very closest friends&amp;amp;#8212;but I don&amp;amp;#8217;t think ignoring the whole situation is going to make it more pleasant. Just call her and say, &amp;amp;#8220;We&amp;amp;#8217;ve set our wedding date for June. We&amp;amp;#8217;ve decided to keep our wedding party small so I&amp;amp;#8217;m just going to have a few close friends as bridesmaids. I hope you understand.&amp;amp;#8221; If you think you&amp;amp;#8217;ve grown apart over the past three years, chances are she&amp;amp;#8217;s feeling the same and won&amp;amp;#8217;t be offended. If you want to soften the blow, you could ask her to do a reading&amp;amp;#8212;but I don&amp;amp;#8217;t think that&amp;amp;#8217;s necessary. Ladies, what do you think? Would you be pissed if you were Avery&amp;amp;#8217;s friend? Will all the people you&amp;amp;#8217;ve been bridesmaids for be in your wedding? p.s. Have a wedding dress question? Ask WeTV&amp;amp;#8217;s gown guru Mark Ingram of Mark Ingram Bridal Atelier. He&amp;amp;#8217;ll be answering Save the Date readers&amp;amp;#8217; questions live at 2 p.m., right here on the blog! Have a wedding-y dilemma of your own? E-mail me! More reader&amp;amp;#8217;s dilemmas, solved! * &amp;amp;#8220;Help! I&amp;amp;#8217;m in a Serious Funk!&amp;amp;#8221; * Have You Ever Had a Pregnancy Scare? * &amp;amp;#8220;Um, My Boyfriend&amp;amp;#8217;s Parents Walk Around Half-Naked. Weird?&amp;amp;#8221; More Ways to Get Glamour Visit Shopglamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter Add us to your iGoogle homepage Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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