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"   Photo: Getty  Calling all the single ladies: When was the last time you asked a guy out? If you&amp;#039;re like 90% of the unattached women in America, the answer is &amp;quot;over a year ago,&amp;quot; according to a recent survey spearheaded by match.com. Only a mere 10% confessed to sidling up to a guy they were interested in during the past 12 months. While the findings suggest the single and looking are happy to stay that way (only 13% of respondents were actively looking for a relationship, and nearly two thirds were unsure they wanted to marry\u2014ever), the women&amp;#039;s widespread reluctance was still a bit surprising. So why aren&amp;#039;t women asking men out? We asked a sample of singletons. Fear, for one. &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m generally terrified of rejection so I tend not to make the first move without my good friend, beer,&amp;quot; says Julieanne, 27. Maybe we&amp;#039;ve unwittingly entered a new Jane Austen era, in which we&amp;#039;re happy to bat our eyes but won&amp;#039;t actually approach. At least that&amp;#039;s the case for one online dater: &amp;quot;Yes, I did ask a guy out\u2014in a very passive aggressive way,&amp;quot; says Bonnie, 35. &amp;quot;I kept looking at him on JDate, and I eventually emailed him ... but didn&amp;#039;t ask him out ... emailing was enough of an invite.&amp;quot; For her, the coy come-on worked: She married the object of her online stalking. Holly, 34, believes instigating can actually backfire. &amp;quot;I used to ask guys out in my younger years,&amp;quot; she says. &amp;quot;I had a nothing-to-lose kind of mentality, but I have since joined a lot of womankind in actually believing that, for men, it&amp;#039;s all about the chase. I think they think that things worth having don&amp;#039;t come easy.&amp;quot; All hope isn&amp;#039;t lost, however, if you&amp;#039;re the type who believes in making a move. Nicole, 31, recently spent an entire dinner debating the subject\u2014with a co-ed crowd: &amp;quot;I was with two girls (both married) and two guys (one single and one married) discussing this very thing,&amp;quot; she says. Both the married ladies were women who&amp;#039;d put the moves on their men. &amp;quot;The guys in attendance both said that they loved that the girls had gone for it,&amp;quot; says Nicole. &amp;quot;That it showed passion and strength\u2014total security.&amp;quot; If you&amp;#039;re still feeling a little unsure consider this: if only one in ten women is making a move, your odds are pretty damn good. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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