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"&amp;amp;#8220;I think we should be friends&amp;amp;#8221; is just about the worst sentence in the English language. Only in a culture as weird and neurotic as ours do we think that we should develop platonic relationships with those we&amp;amp;#8217;ve dated after we&amp;amp;#8217;ve stopped penetrating each other. I&amp;amp;#8217;m not a fan. And nor should this reader be: Dear Single John, The guy I had been dating for 3 months recently broke up with me because he has &amp;quot;no feelings&amp;quot; for me (cue for my ego to start deflating). However he really wants to stay friends (and strangely, I think he means it). He said that he wants us to &amp;quot;become close friends&amp;quot; and then &amp;quot;something might happen.&amp;amp;#8221; Is this bullshi*t? Should I try to be friends with him if this is the only way to keep him in my life, knowing that I&amp;#x27;ll always hope for more (especially with what he said, see above)? I do appreciate him as a friend, but I&amp;#x27;m terribly attracted to him and I&amp;#x27;m afraid I&amp;#x27;ll get hurt. Also my feelings are hurt simply for being broken up with. &amp;amp;mdash;Friends Without Benefits Were you friends before? No? Goodbye. Thanks for the sex and the heartbreak. Please lose my number. P.S.: Your jokes were never that funny. This guy wants to have his cake and eat it too. He knows you&amp;amp;#8217;re a good egg, but his heart isn&amp;amp;#8217;t in it right now, so he&amp;amp;#8217;d like to keep you around in case his future adventures don&amp;amp;#8217;t work out, or he needs a shoulder to cry on. Wow, what a fairy tale romance that sounds like. He knows you have it for him bad, otherwise he would never try and pull this stuff. Extra points for ballsyness for throwing in the &amp;amp;#8220;something might happen,&amp;amp;#8221; but also points for being manipulative. So yes, he probably means it, but what&amp;amp;#8217;s the advantage to you? You get to harbor a crush for months and maybe years? You will be frustrated. You will jealous. You will get hurt. The decision is up to you, but the perspective friendship doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t or beneficial in any way, and far from ideal. I say don&amp;amp;#8217;t torture yourself. Save yourself and your ego (which I&amp;amp;#8217;m sure is strong enough to take this little hit). Say goodbye and move on. And really move on. Do you think you can be real friends after dating for just a few months? Have a question about Dating, Relationships, or Sex for Single John? Submit it here. Can be totally Anonymous! More on What Men Want at Glamour.com Found! Two Easy Ways to Get a Little Freaky in Bed (With Stuff You Probably Already Have!) No More Blushing in Bed: 10 New Names For Sexy Stuff You Do Between the Sheets Why You Should NEVER Tell Your Guy Your Real Number Photo: Thinkstock "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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