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" Our reader is facing a little V-Day drama with another woman in her boyfriend&amp;#x27;s life, and she&amp;#x27;s not feeling all hearts and roses about it. Let&amp;#x27;s help her out! She writes: My boyfriend, &amp;quot;Carl&amp;quot;, and I have been dating for a year and a half. He has always been committed to me, and I trust him, but I think his roommate&amp;#x27;s girlfriend crosses the line all the time. &amp;quot;Michelle&amp;quot; has walked around the apartment in only thongs, busted in on his room without knocking, and repeatedly said that she used to have a crush on Carl. Carl tells me he doesn&amp;#x27;t want to cause tension between him and his roommate, so he doesn&amp;#x27;t say anything. Recently, Michelle moved in with them, and she bought my boyfriend a box of chocolates for Valentine&amp;#x27;s Day. I think this is rude, and that my boyfriend should not have accepted the chocolates. He says it&amp;#x27;s not a big deal because he loves only me, and it was just a friendly gesture. Am I over reacting? (This probably doesn&amp;#x27;t matter a lot, but we are in a long distance relationship, so any confrontation would be electronic.) Let&amp;amp;#8217;s start off by commiserating: In your shoes, I would most definitely be annoyed with Michelle. Especially in a situation where she&amp;amp;#8217;s now living with your boyfriend, she should take effort to be respectful of everyone involved: you, your boyfriend, and her own boyfriend! That said, here&amp;amp;#8217;s why I don&amp;amp;#8217;t think you should get too worked up about the situation. First, I wouldn&amp;amp;#8217;t read very much into the Valentine&amp;amp;#8217;s Day gift. It&amp;amp;#8217;s a little odd, but a box of chocolates (while delicious) is pretty much the most generic gift there is. She probably just tossed it into her basket at the drugstore, and she might just be trying to be an extra-nice roommate since she recently moved in. If she had gotten him something more personal or extravagant, it would be totally inappropriate, but if she&amp;amp;#8217;s just providing a little candy for the apartment, I wouldn&amp;amp;#8217;t let it drive you crazy&amp;amp;#8212;unless there&amp;amp;#8217;s more to the story, like she wrote a romantic note with it or implied she wanted him to eat the chocolates off her naked body. The general behavior, especially wandering around in front of him naked and not respecting his privacy, is more concerning. But since it seems like your boyfriend is being really up front with you about everything that&amp;amp;#8217;s happened, and you trust him, I honestly just feel kind of bad for this girl. It&amp;amp;#8217;s possible she&amp;amp;#8217;s just really open about nudity and personal space, but it kind of seems like she either has a current crush on Carl or a deep-seated need for attention. And while that&amp;#x27;s really more her problem than yours, it&amp;#x27;s obviously not fun for you to hear about. It does make a difference that you&amp;amp;#8217;re in a long-distance relationship, because you&amp;amp;#8217;re not there often enough to really gauge the situation yourself. That means it&amp;#x27;s even harder to stay calm and rational. But, I think it&amp;#x27;s rational AND fair to encourage Carl to talk to his roommates, especially about privacy in his room (knocking should be a household rule!) and um, appropriate nudity levels. I understand that he doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t want to cause tension, but it&amp;amp;#8217;s obviously causing tension for him, or he wouldn&amp;#x27;t tell you about it! Why should he have to just grin and bear it so they don&amp;#x27;t feel uncomfortable? But I think it&amp;amp;#8217;s his problem to handle since it&amp;amp;#8217;s his living situation. Unfortunately, your long distance factors in again on your ability to be involved&amp;amp;#8212;it would be hard to get your message across the right way and so awkward for everyone if you sent an email to Michelle telling her to back off, especially if your boyfriend has specifically asked you not to cause problems. However, if you let him know that it makes you uncomfortable, even though you trust him, he should hopefully take your feelings into account, and make some effort to deal with the situation. Good luck and I hope you and Carl have a happy Valentine&amp;#x27;s Day with your own, non-Michelle purchased chocolates! What do you guys think? Should our reader take things into her own hands and confront Michelle? Should she leave it alone entirely? Or how else should she handle the issue? Other uncomfortable roomie situations: *Awkward Alert! Roommate&amp;#x27;s Constant Sexy Times Ruined This College Woman&amp;#x27;s Year. *Help! My Boyfriend Talks About My Roommate During Sex *True Dating Confession: My Guy Roommate Found My Vibrator! Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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