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" Once upon a time in 1995, a crazy book called The Rules came out, essentially warning women that the only surefire way to land a guy was to fasten your chastity belt, shut up, and wait for him to pursue you. Sold yet? Among the 35 rules were grave warnings: &amp;quot;Don&amp;#039;t Talk to a Man First (and Don&amp;#039;t Ask Him to Dance),&amp;quot; &amp;quot;Don&amp;#039;t Talk Too Much&amp;quot;, and &amp;quot;Don&amp;#039;t Live with a Man.&amp;quot; Basically, authors Sherrie Schneider and Ellen Fein stopped just short of suggesting your dad offer your fianc\u00E9 a dowry of 40 goats and 20 cows.  Despite these antiquated Rules, we Cosmo girls survived the past 17 years freely opening our mouths, hitting on guys, living with them, asking them to dance, and\u2014gasp\u2013having sex (earmuffs, Sherrie and Ellen: Sometimes on the first date!).  Lucky for us, The Rules is back with a new title for the digital age, Not Your Mother&amp;#039;s Rules, enlightening us on how (not) to date in light of texting, sexting, Facebook, Match, and JDate! Hint: The rules are exactly the same, just apply them to your iPhone.  Instead of &amp;quot;Don&amp;#039;t Talk to a Man,&amp;quot; make like a delicate flower and don&amp;#039;t Facebook, text, tweet, or even consider hitting up that manly man via dating site.  &amp;quot;A woman cannot email, or even wink at a guy&amp;#039;s profile, without becoming the aggressor and possibly getting hurt down the line when the guy dumps her for the woman whose profile he really likes,&amp;quot; the authors told JDate of their new rules. &amp;quot;The only way to be sure that a guy is interested is to let him make the first move.&amp;quot; Young women are advised not to respond to texts for 30 minutes. Older hags should wait four (!) hours. What if you&amp;#039;re in the midst of the hottest sexting chain ever? Well, you wouldn&amp;#039;t be, because sexting is against The Rules.  &amp;quot;I wouldn&amp;#039;t sext with someone until there&amp;#039;s a ring on my finger,&amp;quot; Fein tells the New York Daily News.  The Rules might be your cup of tea\u2026 if you are Shoshanna on Girls or Charlotte on Sex and the City? Our idol Beyonce is reportedly quoted on the back of the original book saying, &amp;quot;It has worked for me,&amp;quot; but considering she is the singer of the 2000 hit &amp;quot;Independent Women,&amp;quot; we wonder if her quote may have been taken out of context.  It goes without saying that not expressing yourself, not texting back men who are trying to hang out with you, and not letting guys know you&amp;#039;re interested does NOT make sense to us. Personally, this editor sexted, lived with, and talked constantly at her now-husband and things turned out pretty dandy.  Instead of what NOT to do, how about, &amp;quot;Just Be Your Wonderful Self?&amp;quot; As far as we&amp;#039;re concerned, the only dating rules are that there are no rules anymore. So go ahead, get totally crazy and ask a guy to dance tonight! Follow Michelle on Twitter. Photo Credit: Credit is Evan Kafka/Getty Images "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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