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" &amp;quot;My fianc\u00E9 broke up with me over text very suddenly. I feel I need closure and have tried to contact him to meet, but he never replies. What can I do about this? What a jackass. That&amp;#039;s about as classy as a hot-tub party at Justin Bieber&amp;#039;s condo. No wonder you feel like he left you hanging. To be engaged to someone, then have him break it off via text? Ugh. And then he just disappears? Pathetic. The good news is that it&amp;#039;s over. There&amp;#039;s no doubt that you can do better. If this were some normal bad boyfriend, I would advise you to put the jerk behind you and move on with your life. But since you two were engaged, I do understand why you feel you deserve a face-to-face. You obviously don&amp;#039;t want to stalk him, but he owes you an explanation.  Now, I don&amp;#039;t normally endorse chasing guys, but I do think you should go over to his house and knock on his door. Don&amp;#039;t make a scene. Just tell him: &amp;quot;Look, I&amp;#039;m leaving in 10 minutes. But right now, I just want you to explain your decision to my face. I at least deserve that.&amp;quot; If he&amp;#039;s such a child that he can&amp;#039;t even explain himself? Fuck him.  But remember this: Closure is an illusion. Nothing&amp;#039;s ever completely settled. And no conversation or confrontation will ever put a cap on this relationship. Questions and regrets will always linger. But we get on with our lives anyway. No matter what he says \u2014 or what he doesn&amp;#039;t \u2014 you&amp;#039;re responsible for your own health and happiness. And things are looking up: It will be easier to be healthy and happy without a jerk like that around. My best friend tells me I have commitment issues. The past couple of guys I have dated have never really &amp;quot;asked me out.&amp;quot; I quote this because I don&amp;#039;t feel like this is necessary. My ex and I were together for five months, but now I am in a fairly new relationship: around two months. We just took a weekend vacation to the beach together, and it was wonderful! Do you feel like I should be more aggressive in defining the relationship or just go with the flow? I&amp;#039;ve always been a very chill person and forcing a label has never really been my thing, but it does make me wonder if we aren&amp;#039;t labeled, does he feel like he has free rein to see other women? I in no way think he is, and I&amp;#039;m not. I mean, hell, we&amp;#039;ve both met the families of the other. Whether you have commitment issues or not, labels are tricky. &amp;quot;Boyfriend&amp;quot; and &amp;quot;girlfriend&amp;quot; often mean different things to different people. I know guys who say they have a constantly rotating cast of three or four girlfriends \u2014 and other guys who think a woman is an exclusive girlfriend after two dates. I&amp;#039;ve known couples who have called each other &amp;quot;boyfriend&amp;quot; and girlfriend&amp;quot; and had entirely different understandings of monogamy (and much else). It happens all the time.  So, my rule of thumb is this: Labels mean nothing unless you both agree on what they mean. You have to be specific. If I&amp;#039;m reading you right, your question boils down to this: Do we have to call each other boyfriend and girlfriend in order to ensure that he&amp;#039;s not messing around with other women? The answer is no. It honestly doesn&amp;#039;t matter whether you slap a label on him. Whether you call him boyfriend, lover, partner, life partner, sweetie pie, or husband, it won&amp;#039;t necessarily mean that he&amp;#039;s monogamous. The only way to know if he&amp;#039;s going to date other people is to have a direct conversation about exclusivity. Tell him that you don&amp;#039;t want to date anyone else and you don&amp;#039;t want him to, either. It&amp;#039;s really that simple. And it&amp;#039;s the only way to know for sure. If you&amp;#039;re worried about making a commitment, remember that this doesn&amp;#039;t have to mean anything more than agreeing on this one point: That neither of you is going to date or sleep with anyone else. You don&amp;#039;t have to make any promises beyond that. It doesn&amp;#039;t have to be heavy. Agreeing not to sleep with anyone else doesn&amp;#039;t mean that you&amp;#039;ll spend every night at his place. It doesn&amp;#039;t mean that it will set you on an inexorable path to marriage. Sometimes, I think people \u2014 maybe people like you \u2014 worry that they have commitment issues, when they&amp;#039;re really just sensible about how much they can commit. It doesn&amp;#039;t have to be a one-night stand or a heavy relationship; there&amp;#039;s plenty of room between those extremes. You can take it slow and commit gradually, at your own pace. So, instead of worrying about labels, think about what it is, specifically, that you want. Then ask for it.  I am 22 years old and a virgin. When I was younger, I told myself I would wait for the &amp;quot;right guy,&amp;quot; but now I just want it gone. Problem is, I feel like if I tell a guy at this age I&amp;#039;m a virgin he will run for the hills. Am I being paranoid? What is the best way to drop the V-bomb? You are not as unusual as you might believe. I don&amp;#039;t know if it&amp;#039;s because of hyper-sexualized pop culture, the way our peers boast about supposed sexual adventures, or our own insecurities, but I think we tend to believe, wrongly, that everyone loses their virginity by the end of high school in some slow-mo scene to a Drake soundtrack. I recently had another reader ask a very similar question and I was surprised, myself, to find that, according to this CDC study, 18 percent of American guys ages 20 to 24 and 15 percent of all women of that age group have never had vaginal intercourse. You&amp;#039;re in the minority, but you&amp;#039;re not weird. You&amp;#039;re just choosy. So, yes, you&amp;#039;re being a little bit paranoid. But that&amp;#039;s fine \u2014 your first time&amp;#039;s supposed to be a little awkward! And, yes, your guy might be surprised. He might have some worries about being the first. If so, it&amp;#039;s your job to explain yourself clearly. Don&amp;#039;t just &amp;quot;drop the V-bomb&amp;quot; and then drop trou. Take a minute, tell him where you&amp;#039;re at, and maybe even make a joke. You don&amp;#039;t have to overexplain your virginity because you are not that unusual. As nervous as you may be, you might also need to put the guy at ease by telling him that you know it&amp;#039;s the right time for you, and you feel like you&amp;#039;re doing the right thing \u2014 that you&amp;#039;re taking responsibility for your decision. He might be a bit nervous, but as long as you don&amp;#039;t say, &amp;quot;I love you and will you marry me&amp;quot; on the first date, you should be fine. Odds are, the guy will just be flattered. And if you&amp;#039;ve picked a good guy, you could have a lot of fun. Do you have a question about sex or relationships? Ask Logan here. RELATED: &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m Considering Losing My Virginity, but I&amp;#039;m Scared&amp;quot; &amp;quot;I Feel Stupid Trying New Sex Positions&amp;quot; &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m Very Self-Conscious About My Big Nipples&amp;quot; Follow Logan on Twitter. Photo credit: Getty Images "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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