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"&amp;amp;#8220;Want to stay friends?&amp;amp;#8221; Of course. Except we don&amp;amp;#8217;t, really. Here&amp;amp;#8217;s why. Dear Sinle John, Are guys allergic to being friends, or at the very least friendly, with an ex? When my guy and I broke up, I mentioned being friends, and he said he wanted to. But that hasn&amp;#x27;t happened yet. And the last few times I&amp;#x27;ve past by him on campus, he&amp;#x27;s completely ignored and avoided me. I didn&amp;#x27;t do anything wrong. He&amp;#x27;s the one that broke up with me and broke my heart. How can you have this special connection with someone, and then not want them in your life at all? Even if it&amp;#x27;s for two seconds? -Twice Shafted I would ask you the following: were you friends before? No? Then don&amp;amp;#8217;t count on being friends after. It happens&amp;amp;#8212;I&amp;amp;#8217;m friendly with many of my exes&amp;amp;#8212;but it isn&amp;amp;#8217;t the norm. Let&amp;amp;#8217;s be friends is just something we say. &amp;amp;#8220;We&amp;amp;#8221; being people ending relationships; not necessarily a guy or a girl. It sounds from your complaint, &amp;amp;#8220;he broke my heart,&amp;amp;#8221; etc., that you&amp;amp;#8217;re still into this guy, so, while I don&amp;amp;#8217;t condone ignoring you, I can guess what he&amp;amp;#8217;s up to. He probably thinks that showing you any attention will encourage your feelings and only lead to those feelings being hurt further. There are other possibilities&amp;amp;#8212;he has a new girl who doesn&amp;amp;#8217;t want him talking to you; he is a jerk&amp;amp;#8212;but if I were a betting man I&amp;amp;#8217;d put my money on the former. Ask yourself: why do you really want to be friends with him? My guess is that you don&amp;amp;#8217;t. You want something else, some semblance of what you had. But that&amp;amp;#8217;s not realistic. What is realistic is to stop worrying about him as much as possible, get rid of him and his friends on Facebook, block him from your phone, and start spending time with your real friends. Not saying you&amp;amp;#8217;ll meet someone tomorrow, but the first step towards something new is moving on from something old. Fretting about this dude and his attitude towards you is not a good use of your time. Next! Are you friends with your exes? Have a question about Dating, Relationships, or Sex for Single John? Submit it here. More on Relationships at Glamour.com The Worst Way to Get Dumped: 7 Women Share Their Miserable Breakup Stories What Men Want: 5 Tips For What To Reveal On Facebook 10 Commandments for Texting a Guy What&amp;#x27;s With All the Spam in the Comments Section? Sick of all those annoying ads in the comments section lately? So are we! We police the site regularly and delete spam as soon as we can, but recently, the volume of spam has increased dramatically. We&amp;#x27;re working on a way to block them permanently, so please bear with us, and know that we&amp;#x27;re as eager as you are to get rid of these pests. Meanwhile, please continue to use the Report Abuse button to flag spam--it really does help!--and continue to leave your brilliant feedback below. If you have any urgent questions about the spam, please contact us. And a special note to you, spammers; we officially declare you a major DON&amp;#x27;T. Photo: Thinkstock "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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