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"  Introducing: Ask a Granny/Ask A Teen, a recurring feature in which I ask my 83-year-old grandma and a random teen to answer a question about dating. Then, I weigh in with my own horrible Generation Y opinion. Having trouble navigating the Gitmo prison yard that is modern dating? Find out what three different generations have to say! The Question: What do you do if you and a bestie like the same guy? You already like the same music, clothes and books, so it&amp;#039;s no big surprise that you might be attracted to the same man beast, ya know? Are you supposed to back down or is it an &amp;quot;every woman for herself&amp;quot; sitch? The Granny: Shirley Cozen is 83 years old, has been married for over 50 years, and raised four kids. She has been proposed to three times, started dating when she was 12, and has been a ridiculous babe her entire life. She knows a thing or two about a thing or two.  She Says: &amp;quot;Unless I fell down on the floor with weakened knees because he came on so strong, I would back off. If my friend was crazy for him for some time and there was a chance that he might like her, I wouldn&amp;#039;t do anything. My mom always used to tell me, &amp;quot;There&amp;#039;s a lot of fish in the sea, if you don&amp;#039;t have one boyfriend, you&amp;#039;ll have another, but a girlfriend is a treasure.&amp;quot; However, if he&amp;#039;s clearly not interested in my friend, then I would feel perfectly justified going ahead because I&amp;#039;m not ruining anything. I would certainly communicate with her first and be as honest and transparent as I could be, but whether she was crazy for him or not, if he was not returning the favor, I would consider him happy hunting. The Teen: Keiko is a very pretty and popular 16 year old high school student. She&amp;#039;s outspoken, funny and a hit with the boys. She Says: I had a really close friend who liked this guy for three years, basically all of middle school. And then the summer between 8th and 9th grade he liked me, so we went out. I still don&amp;#039;t know if it was the right or wrong thing to do. I&amp;#039;m still really close to my female friend, so it didn&amp;#039;t ruin our friendship or anything like that. I asked her if it was okay if I went out with him but it wasn&amp;#039;t quite honest asking her, because I knew she was going to say &amp;#039;yes&amp;#039; either way. She&amp;#039;s too shy to say how she really feels. In the future, I don&amp;#039;t know what I would do. I&amp;#039;m pretty sure if this happened to me, I wouldn&amp;#039;t be okay with it. But I don&amp;#039;t know if that means I wouldn&amp;#039;t do it to someone else again. The Millennial: I agree with my granny on this one. I think if the crush in question is 100 percent uninterested in your friend, he&amp;#039;s fair game. Because, whether you date or him or not, it&amp;#039;s not affecting your friend&amp;#039;s chances. But obviously it&amp;#039;s more complex than that because no one wants to hurt their friend. Pull up a bean bag and let me tell you a tale. In high school, my best friend Annie had a crush on a guy named Evan. Unfortunately, Evan didn&amp;#039;t like Annie, he liked me (can you blame him? Don&amp;#039;t answer that). It was a complicated, messy love triangle involving three dorky virgins. I was completely torn, I loved Annie, but I also had major crotch murmurs for Evan! What to do? In the end I was so worried about my ruining my friendship that I ignored Evan&amp;#039;s advances and buried my feelings. In retrospect, I regret not acting on my desires. Not that Evan was the love of my life or anything, but we had a real connection. As I get older I&amp;#039;ve learned that a real romantic spark is rare. It doesn&amp;#039;t happen every day, and when it does, you need to seize it. A real friend will understand that.  Cosmo gals: What do you think about BFF&amp;#039;s double-crushing on one man? Let us know what you would do in this crazy-difficult sitch... Photo Credit: Getty Images Want more musings from Rose? Follow her on Twitter. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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