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"Last week, I had the privilege of Skypeing with Oprah-approved sexpert Dr. Laura Berman (or as I like to call her, the &amp;quot;Yoda of Relationships&amp;quot;). I knew my time with her was limited, so before she signed off, I hit her with the big one: What&amp;amp;#8217;s the number one mistake that&amp;amp;#8217;s commonly made in the bedroom? Here&amp;amp;#8217;s what she had to say. Here at Smitten, we talk a lot about the importance of communication (see my post about improving his oral sex game). But did you know that how and when you do it could mean the difference between being a royal screw-up or an awesome partner? According to Dr. Berman, it is never a good idea to make complaints or suggest changes while you are in the act of love. &amp;amp;#8220;It&amp;amp;#8217;s a very vulnerable time,&amp;amp;#8221; she said. &amp;amp;#8220;Anything you want to change up or any kind of criticism you have should be framed in the positive&amp;amp;#8212;not &amp;amp;#8216;I hate it when you do that,&amp;amp;#8217; or &amp;amp;#8216;you always do that and it drives me crazy!&amp;amp;#8217;&amp;amp;#8221; What does she suggest? &amp;amp;#8220;Talk about it outside the bedroom and spin it to be positive,&amp;amp;#8221; said Dr. Berman. For example, &amp;amp;#8220;I really love what you did when&amp;amp;#133;&amp;#x27; or &amp;#x27;it really turns me on when&amp;amp;#133;&amp;amp;#8217; or &amp;amp;#8216;you know what I was thinking it would be really great to try...&amp;#x27;&amp;amp;#8221; Turning complaints into flirty proposals might be just what you need to get your point across&amp;amp;#8212;without hurting his feelings! What do you think of Dr. Berman&amp;amp;#8217;s advice? Have you ever suggested something during sex only to have it blow up in your face? How do you tackle his bedroom behavior? Want more sex advice? * Sex Tips: a Position That Gives So That Ye Shall Receive * A Hot Kiss Guaranteed to Give You Both Butterflies! * Sex Tips: A Hot Move You&amp;#x27;ll Both Want to Hang On To! Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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