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"  Dear FKIA,My boyfriend is always begging me to dress up in bondage, but I think it&amp;#039;s so trashy!\u2014Jen, Madison, Wisconsin  Dear Jen, While stuck for hours at an airport recently, I was reduced to reading a popular travel memoir that was filled with so many clich\u00E9s about food, spirituality, sex, and love that it made me realize that anyone can write a best-seller, and the more self-indulgent, the better! (I should have opted for the crime thriller.) I didn&amp;#039;t think the cringe factor could get any higher until the author divulged her masturbatory exploits involving handmaidens and wrists bound with silk sashes. Ugh. Russ Meyer and the recently departed Bettie Page are surely turning over in their graves. Now, I&amp;#039;m not saying you should make your boyfriend feel bad about asking you to toughen up when it comes to his dream date. I&amp;#039;m just saying that unless you are a true iconoclast (Grace Jones), extremely funny (Amy Poehler), or just plain raunchy (Robin Byrd), please don&amp;#039;t share the seamier details of your private life with the unwitting public. Sometimes it&amp;#039;s just better to dress the part than talk about it, especially when it comes to S&amp;amp;amp;M-inspired fashion. (There&amp;#039;s a reason those porno stars don&amp;#039;t talk much.) Thankfully, the fine line between what is tasteful and what is not is precisely where talented designers come in and save the day. This season, a few of them took the idea of banding, the provenance of Herv\u00E9 L\u00E9ger in the &amp;#039;80s, and gave it a fresh twist so you can be both whip-smart and elegant. Rodarte&amp;#039;s ballerina tutus, Thakoon&amp;#039;s garden-party variety mini, and Rodriguez&amp;#039;s body-conscious sheaths\u2014even the nondominatrix Michelle Obama couldn&amp;#039;t resist wearing a tamed-down version of one the night of the presidential election\u2014all up the cool quotient. The trick to wearing anything overtly sexy\u2014and popular writers could take this to heart\u2014is that less is way more than enough! Stay away from jewelry, pointy pumps, and slouchy bags, and go for a bright red lip, \u00E0 la Robert Palmer&amp;#039;s girls. These dresses need multistrap, razor-edged accessories that are as hardcore as they are. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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