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"As hip, fun, and Amy-Poehler-in-Mean Girls-cool as your mom tries to be, there's going to come a time when a mother can't help but express her feelings about a daughter's new relationship. And those feelings? They might not be such positive ones. Whether she thinks you're with the wrong person or just has way too many opinions about the whole situation, you don't have to ditch a fresh romance just because your mom\u00A0hasn't turned in a glowing review. (Seriously!) Here's how to deal when your family isn't too into who you're dating.\n\nYou see a different person than she sees.\n\n In a relationship, you get to envision a future with your significant other, but outsiders only get a glimpse at the present. It's easy to forget that both people involved (yourself included) still have the chance to learn from each other and grow together, and you may very well recognize your boyfriend or girlfriend's potential far beyond what your mom sees. Someone who's between jobs or working to better him or herself after a low point may seem like damaged goods to your parentals; you're certainly in a position to remind them they shouldn't be so quick to judge.\n\nThe relationship isn't hers, it's yours.\n\n Your parents' agenda is most likely completely different from your own when it comes to relationships. If moms had their way, we'd all be dating responsible, sweater vest-wearing, class president types. There's nothing wrong with that, but it isn't for everyone! While you may be looking for love, excitement, and a late-night fast food partner-in-crime, she probably hopes your significant other knows what a 401K is. Regardless of how much her idea of your ideal mate makes you cringe, keep in mind she's worried because she cares, but ultimately this is someone you (not she!) is dating.\n\nRespect the perspective.\n\n Mother may not always know best, but that doesn't mean you should discount her reservations. She's been your age too, and has maybe even made the mistakes she thinks you're about to repeat. Ask her to identify exactly why she doesn't like the object of your affection. If the reasons are superficial or unkind, your relationship may eventually change her perspective of the world. (Deep, we know.) But if you're in danger or she foresees you being mistreated in any way, it's possible she's noticing warning signs that you're being love-blind to.\n\nShe might be ragging on 'em for a different reason.\n\n Yes, parents have feelings too! Whether they're holding a grudge because your date didn't come in to say hello or your new love is a catalyst for the realization that you're no longer a little girl, your relationship may not be the actual problem here. If you're finding your mom is trying to shut it down for nonsensical reasons, your best bet is to keep on dating, but play by her rules. Do your best to keep the peace by not blowing curfew, driving like a maniac, or engaging in risky behavior just 'cause your new beau wants you to. That whole \"respect is a two-way street\" deal is one of those little things can go a long way."^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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