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" I&amp;amp;#146;ve been hanging out with this guy who has had a crush on me since college. Although we&amp;amp;#146;re not really dating, I decided to sleep with him, but he couldn&amp;amp;#146;t get it up. He blamed it on the beers he&amp;amp;#146;d had, and I bought it. But a few days later, he had the same problem while sober! Other chicks he&amp;amp;#146;s slept with didn&amp;amp;#146;t have this problem. So why is it an issue with me? Two words for you: performance anxiety. (Bet you&amp;amp;#146;re glad I didn&amp;amp;#146;t say erectile dysfunction, huh?) See, Mr. Softie has probably dreamed about sleeping with you for years, and now that the moment has actually come, he has stage fright. Don&amp;amp;#146;t take it personally &amp;amp;#151; in fact, you should be flattered. The guy is so nervous about pleasing you and the pressure has become so great that his poor willy retreats in fear.  Here&amp;amp;#146;s how it went down: That first night, he had a few drinks to calm his nerves, which only made it, um, harder for him to get it up. The next time, he resolved to stay sober, thinking the booze might have been the problem. But once you hit the sack, his head was consumed by &amp;amp;#147;Please, God, don&amp;amp;#146;t let it happen again!&amp;amp;#148; With those self-defeating thoughts, of course, it did.  Unfortunately, you can&amp;amp;#146;t flat-out ask him about the problem &amp;amp;#151; that&amp;amp;#146;ll draw more attention to it. Just help ease his anxiety. Next time you go out, don&amp;amp;#146;t have sex. The more he gets to know you, the less he&amp;amp;#146;ll view you as an untouchable sex goddess and the more relaxed he&amp;amp;#146;ll be. If there&amp;amp;#146;s still a problem, then it may really be erectile dysfunction. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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