<http://schema.org/articleBody>
"A good friend of mine steered me toward this gem by way of Facebook yesterday. I&amp;#039;m telling you, I could have written every word of that myself. Not that I listen to what it has to say all the time....it just so perfectly describes one of the things you really want out of your divorce: closure. A few months after Peter moved out, a neighbor and I were talking and she asked me if I thought Peter would ever come back. I replied quite honestly that I didn&amp;#039;t know. It would depend on if his relationship with Stacie hit the rocks, and how quickly he could find someone else afterward. If he was having trouble finding someone, he might consider it, I suppose. He&amp;#039;d be assuming that I&amp;#039;d be lonely, or maybe even grateful to have him back again. It was a longshot, though. Then she asked the million dollar question: Do you want him to come back? I did. OK, I can hear you howling over that one. But I didn&amp;#039;t want him back to stay. I didn&amp;#039;t even want him back for one night. I wanted him to come back, face me and acknowledge that he made stupid choices that hurt us all. Then I wanted twenty minutes to tell him exactly what he made me feel, what he put our kids through, how selfish and childish he was. I wanted to let him have it with both barrels, and then I wanted to plant my foot firmly on his backside and propel him out the door, laughing as I slammed it in his face. Ah, it felt so good to imagine it. I play out that scenario now and all I can think is &amp;quot;What would that accomplish, really?&amp;quot; It just doesn&amp;#039;t have the same appeal now. But then....then I wanted closure. I wanted the last word. The final say. I wanted it to resound like a bass drum, but instead, it&amp;#039;s fading like a sustained note on a violin. That need for closure was keeping me stuck. I was stuck in the anger, stuck in the pain, waiting for a resolution that wasn&amp;#039;t going to give me what I needed. I got what I needed with time, and some retrospection, and healthy sense of futility. Like the article above says, closure is about closing a door, not opening a dialogue. I&amp;#039;ve been feeling that door close a little more every day, and I don&amp;#039;t see much of a need to open it again. Did you ever feel like you got closure? If not, do you feel like you still need it? "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
<http://www.womansday.com/relationships/dating-marriage/a46765/close-the-door/>