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"Oh boy. Usually we&amp;amp;#8217;re worried about whether or not our parents will like our boyfriends, but today we&amp;amp;#8217;ve got a reader who worries her parents are just too into her man! Our reader and her guy have been dating for six months, and now she writes: A couple months ago I introduced him to my parents and they absolutely adore him! Which is a good thing right? At first it was&amp;amp;#133; But now, my parents are calling him their son-in-law, and asking him when he&amp;#x27;s going to marry me and about our kids and our future. I&amp;#x27;m only 20 and he&amp;#x27;s 21. I&amp;#x27;m pretty sure my parents are just saying this jokingly as a way of saying that they approve, but other times it&amp;#x27;s a little heavy. I try to laugh it off, but I&amp;#x27;m worried that this is making my boyfriend feel pressured, and overwhelmed. What would be the right thing to do or say in this situation? Oof! It&amp;amp;#8217;s great your parents really approve of your boyfriend, but sheesh do they need to back off. I&amp;amp;#8217;m sure they have the best of intentions, but they shouldn&amp;amp;#8217;t make him feel pressured about planning a future with you, especially when neither of you might be ready! As far as how you should deal with this with your boyfriend, laughing it off is probably the best thing you can do. If he&amp;amp;#8217;s doing the same and isn&amp;amp;#8217;t making a big deal of it, you don&amp;amp;#8217;t need to either. Turning it into a big discussion might freak him out more than just giving your parents a good-natured eye roll. If he does bring it up or seems really uncomfortable, just say that you are happy with your relationship as is and any decisions about your future will be made by you guys, not your parents, on your own timeline. You can express your discomfort with their actions, but I would refrain from full-on trash talking about your parents, even if you&amp;amp;#8217;re totally annoyed with them. It sounds like you are a close family and you don&amp;amp;#8217;t want your boyfriend to think you&amp;amp;#8217;re cool with badmouthing them. As far as your parents are concerned, I think you need to have a gentle but firm talk with them when your guy isn&amp;amp;#8217;t around. Preface it by saying you&amp;amp;#8217;re so glad they get along with your BF and that they support the choices you are making. But remind them that both you and your relationship are young, and you don&amp;amp;#8217;t feel the need to rush anything. I think that if you make sure they know they&amp;#x27;ve made him feel very welcome, and that he loves spending time with the family, they will feel less like they need to show their approval by making weirdly inappropriate comments. It&amp;#x27;s wonderful that your parents want the best for you, but they need to trust you to make your own decisions about your relationship and your life. I&amp;#x27;ll end with a personal anecdote (because this is about me, right?): Once my grandmother pulled a diamond ring off her hand at a family gathering and handed it to my boyfriend, so that he could propose to me with it. I. Was. Mortified. (He didn&amp;amp;#8217;t take it, obviously.) Does that make you feel any better about your situation? Do you guys think our reader should do anything differently than what I&amp;#x27;ve suggested? Have you ever had a similar problem? What about the total opposite problem? Mixing parents and boyfriends can be tricky!: *Do Your Parents Keep an Eye On Your Boyfriend? Turns Out My Dad is Watching J! *11 Things Not To Tell Your Parents About Your Boyfriend *Dating Men: When Do You Meet Each Other&amp;amp;#8217;s Parents? Photo: Thinkstock "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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