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"After being told no three nights in a row, I finally asked Rex what was up... with him not being up. Note #1: Don&amp;#039;t ask if you don&amp;#039;t really want to hear the answer.... especially if your husband is a straight shooter like Rex. At the same time, be grateful for a sincere response. It means his compliments are also genuine.  Note #2: Some of you might find my &amp;quot;suck it up&amp;quot; attitude to be too &amp;quot;submissive&amp;quot;. I&amp;#039;ll raise you &amp;quot;one wifely sell-out&amp;quot; for &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m finally growing up and really want to hear what my husband has to say, not what he thinks I want to hear because that&amp;#039;s how we&amp;#039;ll get closer.&amp;quot; And now.... the rest of the story. Me: &amp;quot;Any reason we&amp;#039;re not having sex?&amp;quot; Him: &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m just not in the mood.&amp;quot; Me: &amp;quot;Want to tell me why?&amp;quot; Him: &amp;quot;Only if the conversation won&amp;#039;t last hours. I have to be up at four.&amp;quot; That is when I bit my tongue so hard it almost bled. After all, most nights he&amp;#039;d swim across shark infested oceans for a poke, even if it meant waking three hours later. I smiled. Me: &amp;quot;Hey, if we&amp;#039;re not going to have sex, at the least the conversation can be quickie.&amp;quot; Rex continued, intertwining my fingers in his. Rex: &amp;quot;It&amp;#039;s just that.... we get on this roll where we do it three nights in a row, and then we don&amp;#039;t do it for three or four nights. I get my hopes all up... I&amp;#039;m in this rhythm... and then you change it all up.&amp;quot; What I wanted to say was, &amp;quot;You&amp;#039;re complaining about getting sex three nights a week?&amp;quot; What I said instead was... &amp;quot;Hmmmmph.&amp;quot; Then I added, only because I couldn&amp;#039;t contain myself, &amp;quot;You&amp;#039;re complaining about getting sex three nights a week?&amp;quot; He went on: &amp;quot;I guess it just feels like we&amp;#039;re in a rut. We always do it the same way. It&amp;#039;s always in the same spot. It feels like you&amp;#039;ve found your happy place and that&amp;#039;s it. After ten years, I was hoping for something a bit different.&amp;quot; I was quiet. For once, I had nothing to say. I was incredulous. Rex: &amp;quot;I know that you aren&amp;#039;t as adventurous as I am, so I don&amp;#039;t want to push it. But at the same time, I&amp;#039;m occasionally not motivated.&amp;quot; Me: &amp;quot;Would hookers and a live porn scene wet your appetite?&amp;quot; I shouted. (Okay, I didn&amp;#039;t. But I wanted to.) Rex: &amp;quot;I don&amp;#039;t want you to not be you, Love. You know that. We&amp;#039;ll find a happy medium.&amp;quot; Me: &amp;quot;I know,&amp;quot; I responded. I kissed him and lay back down. So... any suggestions? I&amp;#039;ll give you my game plan on Saturday. One thing for certain is that nothing&amp;#039;s happening tonight. It&amp;#039;s my Mother&amp;#039;s Day night off. I&amp;#039;m spending a 24 hours in a hotel while Rex is on child duty. Am I grateful for this? Heck yes! And I want to thank him. In a non-routine, non-rut, but still true to who I am kind of way. A bull whip and a busty cowgirl costume? Not my style. (Not that he wants that anyway. Mooooo........ and good night.) "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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