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"I remember shortly after Peter moved out, all my friends were so concerned with my state of mind. Was I OK? Was he treating me right now that he was gone? Were we getting along? Did it hurt me to see him? I kept thinking that if they&amp;#039;d only realize the hell I&amp;#039;d been living in for the two years leading up to him leaving, they&amp;#039;d know I can make it through anything. I discovered Peter&amp;#039;s affair with Stacie nearly two full years before he left, and from about six months before that date (because he was so miserable in the time leading up to my discovery) to when he was finally gone, I went home each night to hell on earth. His temper was hair-trigger, he wouldn&amp;#039;t even make eye contact with me most of the time, and when he did, he looked at me like someone had placed a moldy gym sneaker under his nose. For awhile we shared a bed because I didn&amp;#039;t want Anna to know anything was wrong. I eventually got tired of him coming home five hours late from work reeking of perfume and moved him into the guest room. When he finally left, it was painful, but a huge relief. Like ripping off a Band-Aid so the wound can finally dry out and heal. And now I just read an article from Dr. Keith Ablow titled &amp;quot;Don&amp;#039;t Get A Divorce, Get A Consorce&amp;quot; and I can&amp;#039;t help but think that the good doctor needs to visit reality a bit more often. In his opinion, it&amp;#039;s better to stay together in the house, keep the shared finances, and let your kids have an intact home. You just both need to agree that the romantic part of your relationship is done and you will (discreetly, of course) see other people while remaining married. In a perfect world, Dr. Ablow, that just might work. But here on planet Earth, it&amp;#039;s certainly not a sure thing, particularly if infidelity or some other kind of conflict is involved. I also can&amp;#039;t imagine sharing finances with someone who&amp;#039;s spending money on a girlfriend/boyfriend from our joint account. And while I&amp;#039;m completely in favor of keeping your kids in an intact home (if you can), an intact home with two bickering or non-communicative parents would surely be a stress-filled environment. Maybe for some couples this would work, but it would take an inordinate amount of trust and communication to do so. If they had that to begin with, I would imagine they probably wouldn&amp;#039;t be divorcing. What do you think? Would a &amp;quot;consorce&amp;quot; have worked for you? Would you even have been willing to consider it? "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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