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" Recently, I hooked up with one of my best guy friends. After it happened, he told me that he&amp;#039;d been wanting this for years, but I didn&amp;#039;t say anything in response. Well, it&amp;#039;s been a week now, and I have yet to hear from him. I don&amp;#039;t understand: If he&amp;#039;d been wanting to get together with me for years, then why isn&amp;#039;t he asking me out on a date? Sigh...when friends get together, it&amp;#039;s never cut-and-dried, is it? There are a few reasons why he may have gone MIA. The first is that he feels rejected. Yes, you did hook up with him, but after confessing he wanted &amp;quot;this&amp;quot; for years, you didn&amp;#039;t say anything. He could have read your lack of response as &amp;quot;That&amp;#039;s nice. Not interested.&amp;quot; Now he&amp;#039;s so embarrassed, he&amp;#039;s keeping his distance. Another explanation: He&amp;#039;s overwhelmed. If he&amp;#039;s been harboring feelings for a while, he may be paralyzed with fear over what to do. Sure, he&amp;#039;s excited that it happened, but he could be terrified of blowing it &amp;amp;#151; he wants to think long and hard before moving forward. Of course, we can&amp;#039;t ignore the possibility that what he really wanted all this time was to hook up with you, not start a relationship. Or perhaps he&amp;#039;d been fantasizing about it for so long that once it happened, it was inevitably anticlimatic. He may be regretting that you got it on, because now the dream is over &amp;amp;#151; and the friendship may be as well. Like I said, it&amp;#039;s sticky when friends get together, but because you&amp;#039;re buddies, you should be able to talk about what&amp;#039;s going on. Plus, if you want to salvage any sort of relationship, you can&amp;#039;t just let things lie. So call him up and ask if he wants to grab a drink. It may be awkward at first, so wait until you&amp;#039;re both relaxed before talking about what happened. Then, in a casual way, tell him that you had fun the other night and, with a smile on your face, ask, &amp;quot;So what do we do now?&amp;quot; Avoid putting him on the spot with scary questions like: &amp;quot;Where do we stand?&amp;quot; He&amp;#039;ll tell you either that he wants to stay just friends or that he&amp;#039;d like to take things to the next level. Let him know how you feel as well. Once both of your cards are on the table, you&amp;#039;ll be able to make a joint decision about what happens now. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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