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" My friend Sara contacted me the other day with a true dilemma. Her sister-in-law had just made a big mistake and confessed it to her boyfriend. He broke up with her. He was a great guy&amp;amp;#8212;someone my friend thought was &amp;amp;#8220;The One.&amp;amp;#8221; Sara wanted to know if she should email the poor guy, tell him how much her SIL was hurting (even though she had wronged him), and ask him to reconsider. She wasn&amp;amp;#8217;t going to tell her sister-in-law, so that she could say it was all on her.It&amp;amp;#8217;s such a sticky situation&amp;amp;#8212;especially when you&amp;amp;#8217;re in the family and you feel close to the problem. Both the people involved are hurting, and you&amp;amp;#8217;re hurting for them! Break-ups are always hard on families. Every time my friend Lindsay gets screwed over, her brother wants to beat up the ex. Long ago, after one boyfriend broke up with me, his family used to reach out with notes and texts saying they missed me. I even received flowers from his mom, but they felt like pity flowers, even though I knew she meant well. So I&amp;amp;#8217;m wondering: when a family member is hurting, do you &amp;amp;#8220;go there&amp;amp;#8221;? Do you defend your family member? Console the partner? Persuade or advise him/her? De-friend them? What would you do if you were Sara? Or, if your sibling is still part of a couple, do you tell them what to do? Do you tell your single siblings who and how to date, and what to wear? More Ways to Get Glamour Visit ShopGlamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10! Enter the latest Glamour sweepstakes! Follow us on Twitter! Add us to your iGoogle homepage. Photo: Jupiterimages "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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