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" I know you don&amp;#039;t mean to be offensive. I know you&amp;#039;re just trying to connect with me. But even if I&amp;#039;m a little stereotypical, I&amp;#039;m not just a stereotype churned out of the factory of Sex and the City&amp;#039;s tokenism. And if you really want to be friends, I would appreciate it if you never said any of the following: 1. &amp;quot;I have the perfect guy for you. He&amp;#039;s so cute!&amp;quot;  We just met. You literally know nothing about me except that I&amp;#039;m gay. And let&amp;#039;s be real, your friend is probably not actually that cute. You know that stereotype about gay men having impossibly high standards? It&amp;#039;s not completely wrong.  2. &amp;quot;Gay guys love me!&amp;quot; The girls who say this sort of thing are usually hot messes. Don&amp;#039;t get me wrong, I love a freakum-dress-wearing, binge-drinking, big-hair-don&amp;#039;t-care wild child as much as the next guy, but there&amp;#039;s something a little scary about a woman who thinks of herself as the gay equivalent of catnip.  3. &amp;quot;I&amp;#039;m like a gay man trapped inside a woman&amp;#039;s body.&amp;quot; I know you&amp;#039;re trying to connect with me, but what does that even mean? Does that make me a straight woman trapped inside a gay man&amp;#039;s body? Trust me, there&amp;#039;s a lot more to being gay than enjoying nice clothes and hooking up with dudes.  4. &amp;quot;How do you know you&amp;#039;re gay if you&amp;#039;ve never been with a woman?&amp;quot; Did you need to experiment with women to know you were straight? What about porcupines? How do you know you wouldn&amp;#039;t enjoy sex with a porcupine if you don&amp;#039;t at least try it?  5. &amp;quot;I would never have known you were gay. You seem so straight.&amp;quot; I know you think this is a compliment, but it&amp;#039;s really not. This is not meant as a dig against guys who do &amp;quot;pass for straight,&amp;quot; but it&amp;#039;s not the kind of thing any of us should be striving for. Being our own authentic selves should be the goal. I haven&amp;#039;t &amp;quot;passed&amp;quot; since I was nine and I&amp;#039;m good with that. In fact, I&amp;#039;m great with that. Besides, it takes a lot of courage to be out and proud. 6. &amp;quot;I wish I had your body. You are so skinny!&amp;quot; I don&amp;#039;t want to be &amp;quot;skinny.&amp;quot; I want to be hot. Man hot. Not woman hot. Ok, so some guys want to be skinny, but don&amp;#039;t please don&amp;#039;t assume I am one of them. I want muscles \u2014 big, hulking, roid-raging muscles.  7. &amp;quot;Come to girl&amp;#039;s night!&amp;quot; If I&amp;#039;m invited then it&amp;#039;s not girl&amp;#039;s night. Stop calling it that! I&amp;#039;m not a girl!   8. &amp;quot;I wouldn&amp;#039;t want my son to be gay, just because life would be so much harder for him then.&amp;quot; You know what would be really damaging to a kid? If he was gay and he heard his mom or dad say that being gay was a disability that would only make his life harder. Imagine how freaked out that would make him. Besides, I&amp;#039;m amazing and so are all my gay friends.  9. &amp;quot;Boys suck. Why can&amp;#039;t you be straight?&amp;quot; Again, you probably think you are paying me a compliment, but you&amp;#039;re sort of creeping me out. You&amp;#039;re making me feel like the only thing stopping you from jumping me right now is that you know it wouldn&amp;#039;t go anywhere and that adds a whole new dimension to our relationship that I&amp;#039;m really not comfortable with. Maybe don&amp;#039;t try to hold my hand right now. 10. &amp;quot;Why aren&amp;#039;t there any pretty lesbians?&amp;quot;  I actually know lots of pretty lesbians. Gorgeous even. You probably do too, you just don&amp;#039;t realize it.   11. &amp;quot;You should take me shopping!&amp;quot; Should I? Even if I liked shopping \u2014 which, ironically because I&amp;#039;m a fashion editor, I don&amp;#039;t \u2014 following you around to a bunch of stores while you try on clothes is not exactly my idea of a dream weekend. Maybe if you agreed to try on whatever I told you to, no questions asked, and bought me dinner afterwards, I would be more inclined to say yes, but even then you&amp;#039;re looking at a hard sell. 12. &amp;quot;My boyfriend isn&amp;#039;t homophobic, he&amp;#039;s just uncomfortable around gay guys.&amp;quot; Some guys have never spent time with an openly gay person and just need to be educated on what gay men are really like. That&amp;#039;s fine. But if your guy cringes when a gay man looks at him or thinks gay guys should act more like &amp;quot;straight&amp;quot; men to make themselves more palatable, then he&amp;#039;s an asshole and, honestly, you&amp;#039;re kind of an asshole for dating him. The truth is, his attitude says a lot about you and how much you really value the gay people in your life.  13. &amp;quot;There is no way (insert actor&amp;#039;s name here) can be gay!&amp;quot; Really? Why not? Because they seem so &amp;quot;macho?&amp;quot; Because they&amp;#039;re married? They&amp;#039;re actors! Is it too much of a leap to think they might be acting off-screen as well as on? They&amp;#039;ve got a lot riding on your perception of them. Besides, what do you know about what goes on in in someone else&amp;#039;s head? In their private life? Just because you see someone on TV and read about them in magazines doesn&amp;#039;t mean you know who they are. The same thing goes for non-actors. I&amp;#039;m never shocked when anyone comes out of the closet. If anything, I&amp;#039;m just sad they felt the need to stay in it for so long in the first place.   14. &amp;quot;Wanna see my vagina?&amp;quot; No, no, no, no, no. God no! Keep your clothes on. I&amp;#039;m good. Really. I swear.  Follow Charles on Twitter @charlesemanning. Photo Credit: Getty Images  11 Things You Should Never Say to a Fat Girl 10 Things You SHould Never Say to a SIngle Twentysomething 16 Things You Should Never Say Right After Sex 11 Things You Should Never Say to a Black Girl 10 Things You Should Never Say to Someone in an Interracial Relationship 14 Things You Should Never Say to a Latina "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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