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"What do you do when you have a BFF who, despite her loving long-term relationship, never been able to achieve the big O? We asked Dr. Susan Kellogg, Director of Sexual Medicine at The Pelvic and Sexual Health Institute of Philadelphia. Smitten: Say your best friend is engaged to a really great guy you totally approve of... but, despite effort on both sides (and multiple trips to Babeland), she&amp;#x27;s just never been able to &amp;quot;finish&amp;quot; either solo or with her boyfriend. She says it doesn&amp;#x27;t bother her, but it bothers you! This is the guy she&amp;#x27;s ostensibly spending the rest of her life with, and you feel like it&amp;#x27;s your duty as her friend to make sure she knows she&amp;#x27;s capable of having one, not destined to an orgasm-less life, etc., before she walks down the aisle. But you also don&amp;#x27;t want to come off judgmental or pushy about it. Ahh, help! Dr. Kellogg: OK, so what you&amp;#x27;re talking about is anorgasmia, the inability to orgasm with appropriate stimulation. The first thing I&amp;#x27;d say is to find out if your friend has ever had a nocturnal orgasm--when you&amp;#x27;re sleeping and you wake up right when it happens, during which you don&amp;#x27;t have to be touching yourself (although you could be). Because if that&amp;#x27;s happened to her, it&amp;#x27;s a good indicator that she is, in fact, capable of having one. It&amp;#x27;s also important to remember that orgasms are learned behavior. Couples in committed relationships--or women with regular sexual partners--are more likely to achieve orgasm over time than women with one-off partners. So she&amp;#x27;s on the right track there. And finally, if your friend was my patient, I would advise her to read Becoming Orgasmic by Dr. Julia Heiman from the Kinsey Institute and do the exercises. Have any of you gals had this problem (or a friend who has this problem)? How&amp;#x27;d you deal? More on orgasms: *This Woman Has Sex Down To A Science. Seriously, She Got Her Brain Scanned During An Orgasm! *Orgasms: Scientists Wonder About The &amp;quot;Point&amp;quot; Of Female Orgasm *Sex Tip From A Guy: The Upside-Down Orgasm *It&amp;#x27;s Not You--It&amp;#x27;s Him: Why Some Guys Can&amp;#x27;t Orgasm Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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