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"I&amp;#x27;ve been a different person in my relationship the last week. My feelings for Isaac haven&amp;#x27;t changed, nor do I want anything different out of us--but I&amp;#x27;ve admittedly pulled back on the &amp;quot;plan&amp;quot; toward which we&amp;#x27;ve been working. Why? 13 Signs You&amp;#x27;re Ready to Move In Together. Or, as I&amp;#x27;d like to call it: 13 Signs That Scared the Ever-Loving Crap Out of the Serial Monogamist Who Totally Swore She Had Her Sh*t Together But Actually Doesn&amp;#x27;t...Oops? I&amp;#x27;ve never lived with a boyfriend, but in most of my serious relationships I&amp;#x27;ve spent four or five nights a week with the guy (sign #9!), and we&amp;#x27;ve been working up to that point. I just resigned my lease to keep me in my Brooklyn studio apartment--don&amp;#x27;t worry, it&amp;#x27;s a lot nicer than it sounds--until next Memorial Day, but Isaac and I had been talking a lot, especially after coming back from our trip together (sign #7!), about working towards the point of moving in together. It was an exciting goal to share, and made us both realize how serious we were about everything. Then, I started researching, talking to experts, and writing this feature. Standard stuff; it is my job, after all. But as I sat on the phone with Jessica Massa, Tracy McMillian, and Amy Laurent, I listened to them all talk about the mistakes couples made moving in together too soon; couples who didn&amp;#x27;t know enough about each other completely misjudging each other; pairs still making decisions in the dreamy-eyed, honeymoon phase practically a year in, only to discover they were swept up in an alternate reality...and to put it bluntly, I was scared sh*tless. I was on the phone with Laurent, my third interview, when I slipped out of pro-journalist mode and more into into deer-in-headlights territory with an, &amp;quot;Oh my god, Amy, I think I&amp;#x27;m going to live alone forever.&amp;quot; Luckily, she laughed, and so did her publicist in LA, who had just moved in with her own boyfriend and was also listening in. *wipes brow* But, like, seriously. May I scream for a second? This is heavy stuff. Isaac has noticed the change. I was backing away from any kind of talk about the future, making plans, moving in together, the longterm; he wanted to talk to his landlord about the possibility of a plus-one in his apartment, and while I knew it was a good idea, I got a little more silent than I should have. It&amp;#x27;s jarring and unfair to someone to open up an entire world of future plans and possibilities to them, only to shut it down--but in the same respect, it&amp;#x27;s protecting him, too, so he doesn&amp;#x27;t make his future too contingent on it, right? I am always, always Serious Serial Monogamy Girl. Someone should give me a cape! I love sharing my space (only child background or not) with a man, and I dream of the day I get to merge my stuff with him. You know, as long as my prettier, more functional, stuff gets to stay, ahem. But seriously, this was always my trajectory, be it with Isaac or with *InsertNameofManWithWhomI&amp;#x27;mGoingtoSpendMyLifeHere*, and I&amp;#x27;ve never been the girl who hedged about feeling &amp;quot;ready&amp;quot;. Could a silly little assignment at work really change all of that? What&amp;#x27;s going on with me? Am I right to be hedging here, or am I just being overly cautious? More on dating: *What Men Are Really Trying to Tell You *The DOs &amp;amp; DON&amp;amp;#8217;Ts of Sex in 2012 *What Men Think: Professing His Love Photo: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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