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" Question My husband is unfaithful to me. Apparently, his lover lets him have anal sex &amp;amp;#8211; which I will not.  He has moved out of the family home at my request &amp;amp;#8211; after 20 years.  Sexuality is the root of the problem: he is obsessed with anal sex. He has lots of hard porn on the subject.  I feel degraded and humiliated by it. Am I abnormal? Should I seek a divorce?   Answer David writes: You are not abnormal. The majority of British women aren&amp;#039;t all that keen on anal sex, though an increasing minority do go in for it.  The last few years have seen a great increase in the number of couples who experiment with it. It is likely that a divorce court would be very sympathetic to you, simply on the grounds of your spouse&amp;amp;#8217;s infidelity. Also, they might regard your husband&amp;#039;s behaviour as unreasonable &amp;amp;#8211; especially so if he has been trying to force you into anal sex. I must say that everything in your email suggests to me that your relationship is over. However, you haven&amp;#039;t given us a lot of facts &amp;amp;#8211; so maybe I&amp;#039;m wrong, and the marriage could be saved.  It would certainly be well worth ringing your local branch of Relate and having an hour&amp;#039;s session with them. I doubt if your husband will come along, but please go along by yourself.  Good luck. Christine adds:  Yes, a session or two with Relate will help you put your long marriage into perspective.  The tone of your question suggests that there are irreconcilable differences about sex. It isn&amp;#039;t just the anal sex, I&amp;#039;m sure.  Obviously having porn in the house that you consider to be pretty disgusting is another big issue. The advent of the Internet means an increasing number of wives have to deal with this issue.  Having said that, you have been married for over 20 years &amp;amp;#8211; and that&amp;#039;s a lot to throw away, in terms of companionship, memories, etc. So getting over him going &amp;amp;#8211; even if part of you is relieved &amp;amp;#8211; will not be that easy. Apart from seeing Relate, I urge you to read an article we wrote called &amp;#039;How to get over being dumped&amp;#039;. I think this will help you. Once you get over the shock of being single again after all these years, my guess is that you&amp;#039;ll start to enjoy your life much more &amp;amp;#8211; especially since it will no longer include sexual activity that you dislike intensely. Yours sincerely Dr David Delvin, GP, and Christine Webber, sex and relationships expert   Other Qs &amp;amp; As Anal sex &amp;amp;#8211; my first time Can anal sex affect control of the bowels? Does anal sex cause incontinence? Has anal sex given me tummy ache? My boyfriend has suggested having anal sex My partner is not sure about anal sex Problems with oral and anal sex Risks of anal sex? We have been experimenting with anal sex &amp;amp;#8211; and I bled What lubricants should we use for anal sex? Would occasional anal sex lead to leakage?   Last updated 11.03.2012 "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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