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" Q. I recently stumbled across racy texts between my husband and another woman. I believe him when he says there was never any physical infidelity, but from phone records, I discovered that the texting has been going on for more than 10 months. What makes things worse is that my husband doesn&amp;#039;t see this as cheating. How do I move past it? --S.H., 35, CALIFORNIA A: Whether your husband calls it cheating or not, what matters most is how his actions have made you feel. Trust is one of the most important parts of any relationship; when it&amp;#039;s lost, it&amp;#039;s very difficult to get back. I think you should start by having a heartfelt conversation with him to explain just how hurt you are. An open line of communication is key: Try really listening to him--even if what he&amp;#039;s saying is tough for you to hear. If he&amp;#039;s compassionate and willing to stop communicating with this woman in a way that you find inappropriate, you&amp;#039;ll need to do the hard job of forgiving him and letting it go. But if he&amp;#039;s not taking any steps to reassure you, perhaps it is time to give some serious consideration to the state of the relationship. Talk to Soleil Send questions about your complicated friend, family, marriage, or work situations to soleil@redbookmag.com and include your initials, age, and state, or tweet us @redbookmag with the hashtag #Soleil. Questions may be edited for clarity and length. Check out Soleil&amp;#039;s perfectly imperfect adventures in parenting on moonfrye. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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