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"&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;When you hear that your child is being bullied, it is hard not to have an emotional reaction. But researchers have found that your response can have a significant impact on your child&amp;amp;#39;s recovery. Additionally, your repines impact how he will cope with it and move on.\u00A0&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;If your child is being bullied, there are ways to help lessen its lasting impact. For instance, focus on offering comfort and support no matter how angry or upset you are. Remember, &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/reasons-why-victims-of-bullying-do-not-tell-460784&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;1&amp;quot;&amp;gt;kids often don\u2019t tell adults about bullying&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt; because they feel embarrassed, ashamed, or confused. You don\u2019t want to discourage him from telling\u00A0you about the next incident.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Also, be sure you practice &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/communication-skills-for-parents-2606166&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;2&amp;quot;&amp;gt;effective listening&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt; and avoid asking questions like \u201Cwhat did you do to cause it?\u201D You also don\u2019t want to interrupt, criticize, or minimize what your child has experienced. Instead, focus on what he is saying. It also helps to say these six things to your child.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;\u201CIt took courage to tell me.\u201D&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt; Sometimes, kids keep silent because they are worried that reporting bullying will cause it to\u00A0get worse. Other kids are worried about an adult\u2019s response. For instance, they question whether adults will do anything about the bullying. And they worry that they will be encouraged to fight back when they are too scared to do anything. As a result, it\u2019s important to praise your child for speaking up about the bullying. Acknowledge that you know how difficult it is to talk about it. Be sure your child knows that reporting bullying is not only brave, but also the best way to &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/ways-to-help-child-overcome-bullying-460827&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;3&amp;quot;&amp;gt;overcome bullying&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt;.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;\u201CThis is not your fault.\u201D&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt; Sometimes kids feel like they did something to cause the bullying. So telling an adult just deepens their embarrassment and shame. Remind your child that bullying is a choice the bully makes; and the responsibility for the bullying lies with &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/common-types-of-bullies-460510&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;4&amp;quot;&amp;gt;bullies&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt;.\u00A0Also be sure your child knows that he is not alone. Bullying happens to a lot of people, but together you are going to figure out what to do.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;\u201CHow do you want to handle it?\u201D&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt; Asking your child how he wants to handle the bullying\u00A0demonstrates that you trust his decisions. It also &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/skills-kids-need-to-avoid-bullies-at-school-460786&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;5&amp;quot;&amp;gt;empowers him to move out of a victim mentality&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt; and develop a feeling of competency again. It\u2019s never a good idea take over and fix things for your kids. Instead, focus on helping him explore different options for dealing with the situation and then support him in those options.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;\u201CI will help you.\u201D&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt; While &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/how-problem-solving-skills-help-kids-cope-with-bullying-460821&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;6&amp;quot;&amp;gt;teaching your child problem-solving skills&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt; is important, do not delay contacting school officials especially if your child has been threatened, physically harmed or the bullying is escalating. It\u2019s also important to bring school personnel into the loop even when it is\u00A0&amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/relational-aggression-bullying-460498&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;7&amp;quot;&amp;gt;relational aggression&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt;. All &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/types-of-bullying-460491&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;8&amp;quot;&amp;gt;types of bullying&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt; have consequences and any delay in getting outside help could make things worse for your child.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;\u201CLet\u2019s brainstorm how to keep this from happening again.\u201D&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt; Getting your child to move beyond bullying incidents and think about the future is key. Aside from practical advice like walking to class with a friend or eating lunch with a buddy, have your child identify where the &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/bullying-hot-spots-and-what-to-do-about-them-460608&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;9&amp;quot;&amp;gt;bullying hot spots&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt; are in the school. If at all possible, your child should avoid these areas. Additionally, get your child\u00A0involved in outside activities and find\u00A0things that will build &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/how-building-self-esteem-can-prevent-bullying-460679&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;10&amp;quot;&amp;gt;self-esteem&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt;. But be sure to listen to your child. Let him tell you what he thinks might work. Your child&amp;amp;#39;s creativity might surprise you. Then, do your best to help him put those ideas into action.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;\u201CWho\u2019s got your back?\u201D&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt; This may sound like a silly question, but when it comes to bullying, your child\u2019s peers can do a lot to help prevent future bullying incidents. In fact, research has shown that friendships help &amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/ways-to-prevent-school-bullying-460755&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;11&amp;quot;&amp;gt;prevent bullying&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt;. Get your children to think about the kids they can count on at school. For instance, is there someone they can walk to class with? Is there someone they can sit with at lunch and on the bus? If your child feels like they do not have friends, look for ways to help him\u00A0&amp;lt;a href=&amp;quot;https://www.verywell.com/ways-teachers-can-help-socially-isolated-students-460602&amp;quot; data-component=&amp;quot;link&amp;quot; data-source=&amp;quot;inlineLink&amp;quot; data-type=&amp;quot;internalLink&amp;quot; data-ordinal=&amp;quot;12&amp;quot;&amp;gt;develop friendships&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt;. Also, ask him to identify a trusted adult he can turn to at school for help.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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