39. The machine-implemented process of claim 38 and further comprising: based on the automated determination of commonality as between the first and second users, causing a generating of a desirability of joinder score indicating how desirable it is to automatically suggest to both of the first and second users that they join into a common online forum participation session and/or into a common real life (ReL) or virtual life event.
39. The machine-implemented process of claim 38 and further comprising: based on the automated determination of commonality as between the first and second users, causing a generating of a desirability of joinder score indicating how desirable it is to automatically suggest to both of the first and second users that they join into a common online forum participation session and/or into a common real life (ReL) or virtual life event. 40. The machine-implemented process of claim 39 wherein the common real life (ReL) event, if suggested, is at least one of: a group discount transactional event; a promotional offering event; a customized promotional offering event; an eating experience; a drinking experience; a business meeting; a sports event; a conference; a shared multi-media experience; and a resources using event in which physical resources of a shared physical location are to be used.