22. A method for using a computing device for controlling access to resources, wherein the access includes one or more of perceiving, modifying, creating, adding to, or deleting the resource, and in connection therewith, determining a degree of relation between parties accessing the resources, comprising the steps of: (a) specifying shared knowledge questions and specifying one or more acceptable answers to each shared knowledge question, where each shared knowledge question is associated with a resource and is selected so that a group of one or more parties who are intended to be able to access the resource are likely to have knowledge of an acceptable answer to the shared knowledge question; (b) enabling parties to enter proposed answers to shared knowledge questions that are each associated with specific resources; (c) using the computing device for determining if the proposed answers that are entered by the parties are acceptable answers, and if so, granting access to the resources with which the shared knowledge questions answered by the parties are associated; and (d) determining a degree of relation function between the user and a specific party who has attempted to access one or more resources by entering a proposed answer to each of one or more shared knowledge questions of the user, where the degree of relation function is at least in part based upon a number of successful attempts by a party to access the one or more resources of the user, by correctly answering the one or more shared knowledge questions.
28. The method of claim 22 , further comprising the step of using the degree of relation function of the specific party to determine if the specific party will be allowed access to other resources of the user.