1. A method for managing requests directed to application instances and data sharing members that are each supported in first and second sites, and wherein each of the first and second sites has its own copy of the application instances and data sharing members, comprising: associating into a workload group the applications instances and the data sharing members; receiving metrics associated with application instances and the data sharing members that comprise the workload group; using the received metrics to generate a distribution policy for workload connection requests to access the application instances, the distribution policy derived from the received metrics about both the application instances and the data sharing members; and providing the distribution policy to a load balancer that has responsibility to select which of the first and second sites receives a particular workload connection request.