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I am kinda confused right now because after seeing _Kizumonogatari_ , it seems
like Hanekawa was Araragi's first love.

In the _Bakemonogatari_ series, Araragi also turns out to like Senjougahara.

But Shinobu and Araragi also like each other too, right?

So which one is Araragi's true love?


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In the Monogatari series, who is Araragi's true love? Hanekawa, Shinobu, or Senjougahara?


There is no real right answer. The fact that the relationships between the
characters are not simple is what drives most of the underlying _everything_
of the Monogatari series.

There's no rule saying he has to love only one of them, or that the way he
loves them is necessarily romantic. They're all teenagers, hormones are
running wild, emotions are running even wilder thanks to all the supernatural
stuff going on. He's saved most of them from the various things afflicting
them, some of them have saved him in return, so he potentially feels
responsible and/or indebted to them all to varying degrees, and honestly it
would be hard to separate _those_ feelings from any romantic ones.

He goes out with Senjougahara partially out of fear for what she'd do if he
said no, but at the same time he does care for her and her wellbeing. He
respects Hanekawa as a classmate and as the class rep, and knows that her
repressed stress (which includes her feelings for him) can draw out the cat in
her. His affections towards Shinobu are usually more brotherly, but are also
mixed with the complication that she's an ancient being who frequently has the
body of a small girl, but who is also his sire, but whom he also has some
level of power over, and let's not forget what happened in that alternate
reality.


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Let's go case by case:

**Hanekawa:** In Kizu, Araragi sees Hanekawa as a perfect being. Good grades,
good _ahem_ assets, being president etc. After talking with her he starts to
love her. As for Hanekawa, I am pretty sure she likes Araragi from the start.
Now, we already know how imperfect Hanekawa is. Even in the Kizu, she tries to
"gain" Araragi by manipulating him (emotion-wise). The "chicken" scene in Kizu
3 is actually about this however because of the fanservice, people tend to
miss this. So at the end of Kizu, both are in love with each other.

In Nekomonogatari, Araragi also sees how imperfect Hanekawa is. To understand
this, you might want to check out Nekomonogatari Kuro episode 4. In the middle
of the episode before fighting, there is a really good exchange between
Hanekawa and Araragi. Yes, at that point Hanekawa is talking, not the sawari
neko. Again you can understand it better by watching.

Anyways, because of that Araragi loses his interest over Hanekawa. However,
Hanekawa still loves Araragi and finally admits that in Nekomonogatari: Shiro.
She is rejected by Araragi thus finally Hanekawa can move on. So this is the
basic summary of character development for Hanekawa-Araragi love. Now let's
talk about Shinobu.

**Shinobu:** This is always a grey area for me. Because what he did to
Shinobu, Araragi always feels bad for her. Shinobu, of course, is really mad
about it too (End of Kizu). That is why she never talks in Neko: Kuro and
Bake. I think the best place to start our character study is Nisemonogatari
episode 4's famous/infamous bath scene. That is the first time we hear her
voice (broadcast-wise). I highly recommend you to rewatch this scene. It tells
a lot of things. However the basic idea is, "I am not forgiving you nor you
should forgive me but let's move on from that". If you think about it, Shinobu
had weeks to think over her situation after Kizu. From now on, they kinda
became partner in crime. That _"I am not forgiving you nor you should forgive
me"_ becomes their base of this relationship.

I have to skip lots of arcs here because I really can't list all of them but
because of their character developments through the Monogatari (for example
time travel arc), they start to care each other. Actually, the time travel arc
in Second Season gives us a good perspective. Even while not talking to
Araragi, Shinobu still cares about him. Let's remember the end of
Kizumonogatari: "If tomorrow you die, then tomorrow my life will end. If today
you live, then today I will live on". Ironically, even Gaen-senpai, she knows
everything, couldn't comprehend the reasoning behind their "taking care"
relationship in Owari S2. Please also watch that scene.

So in the end, the relationship between Shinobu and Araragi is a complex one.
It is not love as we know but they really care each other. Not in a romantic
way. Now for the last entry, I don't have a good analysis but I will try to
explain my points.

**Hitagi:** First of all Hitagi really falls in love with Araragi after
helping her. That's obvious. This is happening in Bake, after Neko: Kuro, so
Araragi isn't in love with Hanekawa. This is kinda my interpretation but I
think Araragi falls in love way after they agreed on dating. Maybe it's really
true love or maybe it's Stockholm Syndrome but we know for sure that they
really love each other at the end of Owari S2. There is no real development I
can talk like above however I believe Zoku Owari will give us a good
explanation over this.


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Araragi does love Hinekawa in Nekomonogatari; however, he is afraid of his
feelings so during their fight he tells her that he hates her. Remember that
hate is close to love! At the end of this arc, in his own mind, he thanks her
and promises to love the next girl for real.

My interpretation was that his first real love was too intense for him to act
on. He was just too confused by the difference between lust and love.


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The author hints in one of the later arcs, **Musubimonogatari** , that Araragi
will most likely marry only one woman in his life, and that is Hitagi
Senjougahara. But to answer your question, the obvious choice is Shinobu.
Otherwise why would the author have Araragi say that line in
**Kizumonogatari** over and over if it wasn't even _**that**_ important? Over
the course of their relationship, Araragi had 4 break-ups with Senjou with
most reasons being quite petty... On the other hand, his relationship with
Shinobu has always been consistent, unshakeable, and stable despite everyone
moving on, including Hanekawa and Senjou who started working overseas.

At the very least, Musubimono's _**silence**_ as regards Shinobu's and
Araragi's relationship is _**still**_ in keeping with Araragi's promise that
_**he has no intention of letting Shinobu go even if he ends up seeing his
loved ones/family die before he does**_.

As for Hanekawa, there are enough hints to suggest his feelings for her must
have been far deeper than he's willing to let on. In fact Senjou continues to
be jealous of Hanekawa who is unaware that she's partly the reason Senjou
seems dissatisfied with her relationship with Araragi. Both Senjou's and
Araragi's insecurities about living apart from each other seem to stem from
some subconscious feeling that if they stay apart for too long, they might
never reconcile at all.

This kind of insecurity may be relatable, but it's also far from being
psychologically healthy...

More disturbing is that when Araragi is told that Hanekawa returned from
overseas just to visit him, he says (again, in Musubimononogatari) that such
likelihood is impossible. After all, he's become nothing but insignificant
through the years, and yet, _**his becoming the man Hanekawa least cares about
only makes him the happiest...**_

Ironically there are arrangements between Araragi and Hanekawa as to how she
might let him know _**in case she dies.**_ Araragi seems hell-bent on not
letting her die and even says at one point that _**his love for Hanekawa goes
beyond wanting to be with her forever**_.

So again whatever Araragi admits as to his feelings for Hanekawa sounds
miserably dishonest. It is as if until the very end, pushing away Hanekawa is
a life goal in itself, a heroic act of self-denial and sacrifice that he also
attempts at Kizumonogatari, except that the pretense back then was too
illogical to be convincing at any point.

One way of explaining it is to go back to those arcs relating to Shinobu's
past. Shinobu says that _**in the past she's been cursed to have people
sacrificing their most treasured possessions**_ (even taking their own lives)
as a _**love offering**_ to her. It's possible that Araragi had made up his
mind to be with Senjou as a way of keeping Hanekawa or his _**most prized
possession**_ at a safe distance. One proof is that when Oshino asks him if
he's in love with Hanekawa, Araragi merely repeats the _**same denials**_. Yet
while speaking his eyes become emotional, as if he's finally made up his mind
to _**not love Hanekawa even if that decision hurts like hell.**_

But this only goes back to Shinobu being the ultimate love interest even if
Araragi doesn't express it verbally all the time. It might be the workings of
the curse on Shinobu, but _**Araragi had all the chances to break that curse
or bond, but he just kept reviving it when it's broken.**_ Apparently the
author wants Araragi to keep his hold on Shinobu as his true lifetime partner
who outlives _**all**_ his _**other**_ precious relationships, including both
Hanekawa and Senjou.

Even getting a job as a police officer for the first-ever agency in Japan
investigating oddities and apparitions only says _**how much his ties with
Shinobu influenced his major life decisions, whereas both Hanekawa and Senjou
decided to take entirely oddity-unrelated professions**_. Araragi is smart
enough to pursue similar careers, but he didn't do this.

There are various other hints everywhere (both in the LN and the anime) but
the strongest ones are convincing enough.

For example, in the _**end of the world**_ chapter/episode where Araragi and
Shinobu time travel, Araragi says how _**he was more shocked that he wasn't
shocked at all that everybody, including Hanekawa and Senjou, must have
disappeared or died**_ , and that _**he and Shinobu were the only remaining
survivors**_. As for Musubimonogatari, even if there are vague hints or
foreshadowing of marriage between Hitagi and Araragi, we don't really see how
Araragi intends to have a "normal" family life with Hitagi. I mean, it seems
pretty obvious that his vampire blood may result in Hitagi giving birth to
monsters or oddities if he impregnates her.

Although Araragi says _**he'd do anything to be with Senjou more**_ , he
merely falls back on that overly-repeated and bland "I love you" to comfort
Senjou who seems to be in tears because of their previous break-up (the 4th).

To his benefit, Araragi's only 23 yrs. old so we can excuse his somewhat
immature and reckless attitude toward his future with Senjou. In
Shinobumonogatari, which happens a few years before Musubimonogatari (which is
the latest arc chronologically speaking), we instead see an aspect of
Shinobu's past, this time Araragi meeting Shinobu's **original human soul** in
heaven and getting a direct kiss from her even if the original intention is
different.

And believe me, the author comes up with ridiculous and obvious excuses like
this everywhere.

So what is this all about? For me it's the author throwing hints that the bond
between Araragi and Shinobu extends to the after-life that _**they can't help
finding each other no matter what the circumstances are**_. Ironically, there
are _**no**_ signs that a deeper bond exists between him and any other
character.

Next to Shinobu's and Araragi's intentional and accidental soul-mate moments,
the _**I love you's**_ with Senjou sound like _**hello.**_

Or basically you have Araragi being married to Senjou but continuing with his
casual _**I love you but you're not the only special relationship I have**_
sort of approach. He seems committed to the idea that he'll eventually die
with Shinobu since _**he makes no move to break the vampire bond with Shinobu
despite having plans to live together with Senjou as a married couple.**_

_**What kind of a guy is that,**_ you might ask. Here's my answer.

Musubimonogatari gives closure to Senjou/Araragi fans (it seems all they ever
ask is when the two are _**ever**_ gonna get married). But the closure
_**doesn't have to apply**_ to Shinobu and Araragi. If only as a test of
loyalty and true love, it's fairly obvious that _**all Araragi needed to do
was to break his bond with Shinobu to be able to live a normal life alongside
Senjou.**_

Instead, what Araragi does manage in Musubimonogatari is to regulate Shinobu's
encounters with oddities, perhaps to minimize her getting injuries. We know
that the more either of them gets injured, the more they needed to drink each
other's blood to recover.

In the LN, Araragi describes his blood-drinking sessions with Shinobu as
**euphoria** that makes him almost lose himself with pleasure. In other words,
over-dependence is like sexual intoxication... hence there's enough reason for
Oshino and the other oddity killers to caution Araragi lest his vampire
instincts overtake him someday.

Sadly for Senjou fans, _**the author never lets Araragi give up his vampiric
ties.**_ Araragi doesn't even get bothered by the need to be a normal human to
be able to have a normal future with Senjou, and Senjou, for her part, doesn't
seem to ask much, _**as she probably knows Araragi will not sever this bond
anyway.**_

And let's not forget that _**no one understands why he and Shinobu chose to
remain bonded against all odds.**_ But it does give us clues as to why Shinobu
has never been seriously jealous with Senjou to begin with.

And most likely, Araragi also needs to be in a relationship with Senjou to
keep the _**balance**_ , as being with Hanekawa arouses his intense desire to
be completely human, while being with Shinobu does the same for his vampire
insticts.

Still, the _**best**_ solution is to go back in time and fix things
_**before**_ Shinobu gets cut down by vampire slayers and meets Araragi. The
problem is, the author doesn't want that route to untangle Araragi, Senjou,
and Hanekawa... ^_^

He prefers the sado-masochist route that is a notch away from turning the
story into absolute trash. In short, Senjou's and Araragi's foreshadowed
marriage is nothing more than **plot convenience** that gets him to keep his
harem even _**after**_ marriage.

Hitagi and Araragi having kids possessed by apparitions or carrying "oddity"
genes doesn't seem to be a bright future at all as Shinobu's Master even
reveals that there are such things as **vampire genes** (see
Shinobumonogatari). _**But Araragi doesn't even seem to be thinking of their
relationship that far to bother with the scary consequences**_ (tsk, tsk).

In any case, Musubi epilogue gives us the usual/typical Araragi saying in the
usual, overly-casual way that he loves Senjou. Then she says the same thing
she said back in Bakemono. But the mechanical, robotic _**echo effect**_ of
all this is **troubling**. _**Araragi's relationship it seems, has not really
made any progress that might suggest that his love for Senjou has gone any
deeper or made him more mature.**_ He doesn't call her "beloved" or "my one
and only" as a sign that their relationship has moved on from being just
"lovers."

If you recall, it took him _**some**_ time to call Senjou "Hitagi" though he
had called Shinobu by her first name rather quickly and even used her nickname
Kiss-shot just as easily. (When he realized that Shinobu's minion still called
her by the same nickname he gets a bit jealous.)

To cut this short, _**nothing much**_ changes.

Hence, we can say that for all intents and purposes, Araragi's desire to live
and die with Shinobu has _**never**_ changed either. Downplaying it for Senjou
fans didn't mean that Araragi has chosen Senjou over her... in fact Shinobu
can't be chosen over any other woman since Araragi has already decided a long
time ago that whatever happens, he'll _**never let go**_ of Shinobu even if it
makes him feel guilty that he's the one who tied her to him forever.

In Kizu, we all know that _**heartbreaking line**_ he keeps repeating in
various arcs with regard to Shinobu:

"If you decide to end your life tomorrow, I'm fine ending my life by then. But
if you decide to live for me for one more day, I'll try to live on for you as
well... Perhaps ours is a story of scars, but it is a story I _**don't**_
intend to _**recite**_ to anyone..."

Therefore the curtain closes on Araragi _**not**_ telling us his future with
Shinobu but going so far as to suggest that even as he gets along with Senjou,
his **promise** with Shinobu will go on with _**no one else**_ needing to know
how _**far**_ they plan to take that master-servant/soulmate bond.

For me this is the _**only**_ ending no one, not even Senjou, can
_**overwrite**_. And it's the _**only**_ ending that rescues this pseudo-
philosophical, quasi love story from deteriorating into another teenage,
harem-ecchi fantasy that desperately wants to be both entertaining and
profound.

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I guess I would say there isn't any direct answer to that... in hanekawa
aspect he truly loves her, but hates so much something about her which he
tells her she cannot change as that is who she is, the over righteousness
stuff which he described as revolting, and hanekawa on the other hand also
said she hates his guts while being possessed by the cat thingy. I guess you
can say this gave him the closure he needed to move on in nekomonogatari... As
he realized that if he acts on what his feelings for her it would end up
destroying their friendship and even the relationship as it would never work
out, thus by bakemonogatari he has already moved on. But since hanekawa lost
her memories from while being possessed by that cat she doesn't know any of
the things that transpired thus she is still deeply in love with him. I
believe the writer used nekomonogatari to show us the reason why the hanekawa
ship can't work but still maintaining the whole harem thing by making hanekawa
have no memory of it.

Hitagi on the other hand he loves her and everything about her including her
imperfections which he says alot... I guess you could say she is the direct
opposite of hanekawa. Hanekawa might be the ideal woman with all her
perfection as Araragi would always say but that is all she is the "Ideal
woman" not his "ideal woman". I believe that between the two hitagi is better
suited for Araragi.


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