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I thought it was part of [Yor's politeness
trope](https://anime.stackexchange.com/questions/67013/why-does-yor-call-anya-
as-anya-san-instead-of-anya-chan), but this is what ConMan said:

> To each other, probably just Loid-san. When I said she would call him anata,
> I was thinking more in the situations where they need to play up their
> relationship in front of others, like Yor's brother.

I checked again the 1st episode and indeed Yor does call Loid as Loid-san in
front of people.

Guess: Maybe it was a mistake on Yor's part because Yor needed Loid to pretend
to be a boyfriend but then Loid made a mistake in the 1st place in saying that
Loid was Yor's husband instead?

Or idk is it a common thing in Japan for spouses to call each other -san?

> [Normally, firstname-san would require some kind of relationship between the
> speaker and the addressed (e.g. wife and
> husband).](https://japanese.stackexchange.com/questions/93904/how-does-last-
> name-kun-chan-compare-to-1st-name-san)

So ConMan is wrong?

Also I checked S01E08 when Yuri (Yor's brother) actually DOES show up. Yor
says explicitly: 'I just call him Loid-san.'

Note: I'm adding the Japan tag based on
[this](https://anime.stackexchange.com/questions/66508/is-it-common-to-tell-
people-how-you-spell-your-name-in-japan),
[this](https://anime.meta.stackexchange.com/questions/4542/should-the-japan-
tag-be-used-in-this-death-note-question) and
[this](https://anime.stackexchange.com/review/suggested-edits/70362).


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Why does Yor call Loid as Loid-san when with others?


It may be partly due to Yor's politeness, but it is perfectly common for a
husband and a wife to call each other by first name-san.

According to [a poll](https://cancam.jp/archives/708555), it is the second
commonest from wife to husband and the commonest from husband to wife. The
bold one is FN-san.

> Q.家の中で、ご主人のことをどのように呼んでいますか？ (How do you call Husband)  
>  ニックネーム 39.0％（649名）  
>  **名前にさん・くんなどを付ける 34.8％（579名）**  
>  名前を呼び捨て 14.5％（241名）  
>  パパ・お父さんなど 4.9％（81名）  
>  ねい、おい、おまえなど 3.2％（53名）  
>  あなた 1.2％（20名）  
>  その他 2.4％（40名）  
>

> Q.家の中で、ご主人にどのように呼ばれていますか？ (How are you called by Husband)  
>  **名前にちゃん・さんを付ける 32.2％（536名）**  
>  名前を呼び捨て 30.4％（505名）  
>  ニックネーム 27.0％（449名）  
>  ママ・お母さんなど 3.8％（64名）  
>  ねえ、おい、おまえなど 2.8％（47名）  
>  あなた 1.5％（25名）  
>  その他 2.2％（37名）

In Japan, it is legally not (yet) possible for a married couple to have
different surnames, so using last name is generally out of question (even
though it may happen due to the pre-marriage habit in individual cases).
Considering the manga is written in Japanese, using first name-san between Yor
and Loid is simply a normal choice.


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