

Why is it that in almost every anime, when there is a male main character,
every time a female main character comes on to him, he gets all flustered,
scared, or runs away?

Throughout the whole series, we see tons of huge boobs, panty shots, etc. But
when a hot girl or mainly the love interest tries to hold hands with the guy
or kiss or anything of that nature, he always chickens out or thinks that it's
inappropriate, or they are interrupted, or he's too stupid to get the
situation. They can fight monsters and demons but when it's about romance,
they can't do that? It won't make the character any less noble.

Why is there a need to ALWAYS have other characters interrupt it or make him
too dense to understand the female loves him? Why can't anime creators for
once let romance start near the beginning and go smoothly instead of towards
the end and is super hard to get to? It's been this way since anime first
started and it's not funny or entertaining anymore.


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What's with awkwardness/fear with romance?


I read this question then I can know you have watched Anime and Drama from
others country did you? Most of this same story is come from same company, I
watched many these kind of same story because I lazy to search anime, most of
time I searched using keyword by company name. They are the same company's
anime, most of them story look like this. This is the first point. The second
point is their ways of thinking, cultures, their life, their research, rules,
inspire make them having story inspiration look like this.


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I talked about this a little bit with my friends at school. One of them said
to me that showing public affection is considered rude or embarrassing in
Japan. So this is the reason why some couples are hesitant to hold hands at
first. One example can be found in Clannad: The couple once walks to school
alone. One of them suggests, embarrassed, to hold hands. The other person
replies "But what if someone sees us?" They are close to finally holding hands
but they get interrupted by a friend.

But this is probably only one of many reasons why this happens. A guess of me
would be writer laziness. But I wouldn't take my word for it.


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It's probably due to their age.

See [Why So Many High School Anime in
Japan](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lB9gIv_TsPg) by That Japanese Man Yuta

> In Japanese romantic anime, things tend to move very slowly. These
> characters are so innocent, 'Oh, I don't really know if I like him' or 'I
> can't tell that I like her' and for that to work, they need to be young
> enough to be pure then you can have many firsts: first real crush, first
> confession, first kiss, and first sensei crush.


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There's nothing complicated about it. It's a trope to pad out the story. In a
story like _Nisekoi_ , for instance, the author needs to draw out the romantic
tension as long as possible to keep the story going. That's because once those
tensions are resolved and the protagonist chooses a partner, the story's
probably just going to end. Or at the very least, it won't be too interesting.

So, there are a variety of techniques employed. The protagonist can be
[clueless](https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/CluelessChickMagnet) or
[oblivious to
love](https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ObliviousToLove), there can
be [misunderstandings and
miscommunications](https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/SustainedMisunderstanding)
(see _Kimi Ni Todoke_ for a lot of that), they can just throw in new romantic
interests even if they've got no hope of competing (like in _Nisekoi_ ), or
the characters can be [hopelessly
shy](https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/TwiceShy).

I think the particular trope you're trying to look into might be close to one
of these: The [will they or won't they
trope](https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/WillTheyOrWontThey), the
[false start](https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/FalseStart) or the
[almost kiss](https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/AlmostKiss). The
_false start_ trope, for instance is characterized by a character being ready
to make a love confession, but getting derailed by something.

These can be stalling tactics, as I stated previously.

The _will they or won't they_ page notes:

> Actually [setting up the relationship is tricky and risky]. [Writers] are
> very reluctant to risk losing the valuable source of dramatic tension that
> is the (seemingly) unrequited relationship. After all, without that lovely
> source of drama, your audience could [complain]. As such, [many] writers
> [keep] the romantic tension building throughout the series, only [resolving
> the romance threads at the end].
>
> Of course, keep this plotline going for too long, and you may encounter
> complaints [...] In addition, shows can go out of their way to avoid
> resolving the relationship, making ever-more-desperate narrative leaps.

The _false start_ says:

> This can be a highly effective writing technique for a couple of episodes,
> but the writers typically find that it's impossible to maintain forever.
> Eventually, the character will tell the object of his affections, and the
> plot will move on...or the viewers will.

The _almost kiss_ page notes:

> But this way, the tension and dreams of shippers remain for the writers to
> continue to take advantage of.

I tried really hard to find the exact trope on tvtropes.org for you, but I'm
not sure if any of those were actually it. You're right though, that these
tropes often makes the story really annoying; especially when you've seen them
over and over. But as others have said, this is not a problem with anime, but
rather a problem with the anime genres you in particular tend to watch. Some
anime handle romance tropes very well.


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