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In Episode 3 of _5-toubun no Hanayome ∬_ , when Kintarou called Nino by her
first name, she blushed. [![enter image description
here](https://i.stack.imgur.com/fHsGG.jpg)](https://i.stack.imgur.com/fHsGG.jpg)

This [blog](https://blog.gaijinpot.com/addressing-foreigners-
workplace/#:%7E:text=Unlike%20many%20western%20cultures%2C%20in%20Japan%20people%20generally%20don%E2%80%99t%20call%20one%2Danother%20by%20their%20first%20name.%20Doing%20so%20can%20be%20a%20mark%20of%20disrespect%2C%20unless%20you%E2%80%99re%20very%20close%20to%20the%20other%20person%20and%20in%20the%20right%20sort%20of%20casual%20environment%2C%20so%20you%E2%80%99ve%20read.%20Mental%20note%20then%3A%20first%20names%20are%20best%20avoided.)
says

> Unlike many western cultures, in Japan people generally don’t call one-
> another by their first name. Doing so can be a mark of disrespect, unless
> you’re very close to the other person and in the right sort of casual
> environment, so you’ve read. Mental note then: first names are best avoided.

Since Kintarou wasn't in a relationship with Nino or something, it might be
better for him to address Nino by her last name and using her first name was
impolite. Then, why was Nino blushing?

By the way, is it rude for Uesugi to call the quintuplets by their first
names?


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What's so good about being called by her first name?


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There's definitely something up with _changing_ from last name to 1st name,
but it's not necessarily about being rude. It's usually about being closer.

> in Japan people generally don’t call one-another by their first name. Doing
> so can be a mark of disrespect, unless you’re very close to the other person

Right so, if you're around the same age and have _no prior established
relationship_ then usually you don't use 1st name when you _1st meet_ the
person. In such case, using 1st name would be rude. Here, they're not meeting
for the 1st time. And in the specific case of Nino and 'Kintarou' (I'm just
going to say 'Kintarou' without quotes to mean 'Fuutarou under the disguise of
imaginary relative "Kintarou"') using 1st name would imply they've [gotten
closer/friendlier](https://anime.stackexchange.com/questions/66757/1st-
episode-why-does-raiha-call-itsuki-by-1st-name-presumably-without-knowing) or
that Kintarou is more comfortable with Nino or something.

Also notes:

  * Note 1.1. **Kintarou to Nino** : Kintarou, unlike Fuutarou, hasn't exactly met any of the quints, so Kintarou doesn't quite have a reason like 'I would call you by last name, but since you're siblings, I guess I'll have to use 1st name'

  * Note 1.1.1. I don't think Kintarou has even addressed Nino by _any_ name prior to this scene, at least in the anime. (Coincidentally, I don't think Nino has addressed Fuutarou by _any_ name prior to this episode, at least in the anime, except in the [1st opening](https://anime.stackexchange.com/questions/66495/the-quintessential-quintuplets-aka-%E4%BA%94%E7%AD%89%E5%88%86%E3%81%AE%E8%8A%B1%E5%AB%81-is-%E5%B1%8A%E3%81%8F%E3%82%93%E3%81%A7%E3%81%99-it-reaches-a-mondegreen). I think Nino usually just addresses Fuutarou as 'anta'/'anata' and even refers to Fuutarou as just aitsu/soitsu/koitsu. The 1st time I think is just in this episode where Nino calls Fuutarou and says 'Moshi moshi Uesugi?')

  * Note 1.2. **Nino to Kintarou** : I don't think it's told what Kintarou's last name is clamed to be, but it's probably Uesugi i.e. Kintarou and Fuutarou are paternal relatives, probably 1st cousins. So, I don't think Nino would address Kintarou as Uesugi-kun (and a fortiori Uesugi-san).

  * Note 1.3. **Kintarou to Nino again** : In particular, notice that Kintarou [doesn't use a honorific eg Nino-san](https://japanese.stackexchange.com/questions/95318/how-relevant-is-gender-in-comparing-last-name-kun-chan-compare-to-1st-name-san):

> In high school, among boys groups, they never use san and kun each other
> since they can talk casually. (...) But when they talk with girl students,
> they use san. ESPECIALLY when they call the girl’s first name, they use san
> not to be regarded as so intimate with each other.

I'm not sure if it's really expected in Japanese for Kintarou to not use
honorific, but if it isn't, then I figure Nino can have the same reaction for
an address of either 'Nino-san' or 'Nino' and then the use of 'Nino' instead
of 'Nino-san' is a slip-up. This may be part of the bigger slip-up that
Fuutarou gives away that Kintarou somehow knows that Nino is good at cooking.

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Re Fuutarou to quints: I suspect Fuutarou would've liked to call them all by
last name and without honorifics the way in Kaguya-sama Miyuki Shirogane calls
others by last name and without honorifics (Shinomiya, Fujiwara, Ishigami,
Iino, etc). (It may or may not relate to Miyuki's lack of keigo or whatever.
See [here](https://youtu.be/-o9xX077SRI?t=230) from 3:50 - 4:10.)

  * For honorifics: They're Fuutarou's tutees and are of the same age, so Fuutarou doesn't really need to call them with honorifics.

  * For last name: But since they all have the same last name, Fuutarou just goes with 1st name.


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