How to say "give"


あげる would be the word that means "give". But what if I were to give someone
something that I am not sure if it will benefit the person or the person might
not like. In this case, あげる would probably be a very bad word. For example:

ケーキをあげる - give you cake

あげる doesn't seem to be appropriate here because that person might be allergic
to cake or might not like cake. Is there a better word to use in this case?




あげる is not a very sensitive word to refer to giving someone something when
casually spoken in the receiver's absence. But as you are concerned, using あげる
is not always a good choice for telling "give to you" in person.

> _what if I were to give someone something that I am not sure if it will
> benefit the person or the person might not like_

In this case, I would ask them first:

> ケーキとかどうですか？ _What do you say to a cake?_  
>  ケーキとかいりますか？ _Would you like a cake?_

とか is meant to be an extra cushion word here, somewhat like "perhaps". You can
replace it with は for simpler grammar.

If what you want is a value-neutral word for some objective description, you
can use [渡す](https://dictionary.goo.ne.jp/word/%E6%B8%A1%E3%81%99/) "to hand,
transfer".




あげる is not a very sensitive word to refer to giving someone something when
casually spoken in the receiver's absence. But as you are concerned, using あげる
is not always a good choice for telling "give to you" in person.

> _what if I were to give someone something that I am not sure if it will
> benefit the person or the person might not like_

In this case, I would ask them first:

> ケーキとかどうですか？ _What do you say to a cake?_  
>  ケーキとかいりますか？ _Would you like a cake?_

とか is meant to be an extra cushion word here, somewhat like "perhaps". You can
replace it with は for simpler grammar.

If what you want is a value-neutral word for some objective description, you
can use [渡す](https://dictionary.goo.ne.jp/word/%E6%B8%A1%E3%81%99/) "to hand,
transfer".

