meaning of 振り回す in this context (referred to a person)


Context: summer vacation started and a boy is thinking of asking her crush to
spend some time with him, but when he checks his phone he notices that she has
not replied to his texts yet. He gets frustrated, wants to write her again but
doesn't want to text until she replies. Then he shakes his head after noting
the way he's acting and says

あいこに振り回されすぎだ...

After checking in a dictionary, 振り回す means brandish/wield/etc when refered to
things, and to manipulate or abuse one's power when referred to a person. But
the last 2 definitions don't quite fit here. Could it be something like
"controlled"? I'm not sure though. Also, is this the "suffering pasive" form?
Even though it's not an intransitive verb




Basically it's close to the latter definition; he thought his behavior was
being affected by Aiko too much, as if he were actively controlled. 振り回される can
be used like this, even when someone is not intentionally manipulating you.
This is not a typical case of "suffering passive" unique to Japanese (English
speakers would also use the passive form in this case), but he is "negatively
affected", anyway.




Basically it's close to the latter definition; he thought his behavior was
being affected by Aiko too much, as if he were actively controlled. 振り回される can
be used like this, even when someone is not intentionally manipulating you.
This is not a typical case of "suffering passive" unique to Japanese (English
speakers would also use the passive form in this case), but he is "negatively
affected", anyway.

