How would one convey "get over it" in Japanese?


As a foreigner in Japan, one has to get used to the fact that some Japanese
will compliment you on things that are too mundane to really deserve mention.
Like the fact that you can use chopsticks, eat sushi, say 「今日は」, and all that
sort of thing.

Most of the time, it's harmless, and a mere stepping stone to genuine
conversation.

But sometimes you'll meet that person who will just go on about it for a bit
too long. They'll ask follow up questions, and keep the topic alive, blocking
the potential to interact as more than just a gaijin novelty.

To those people, I want to say, "yeah, look, can we get past that?" Well...
that would be the politer version (though obviously not devoid of a little
frustration). Sometimes I just want to say "Get over it, will ya?"

I think the more or less literal translation for "get over it" would be:

> [乗り切って]【のりきって】

First question is: Is that a suitable translation, or is it too literal in the
sense of physically crossing something?

Next question: How would I, and could I, differentiate between "Get over it"
(slightly stronger and a little more confrontational) and "can we get past
this?" (a little softer but still conveying some annoyance).

Additional note 1: I'm okay with being a little confrontational on this, so
please don't hold back on potentially stern suggestions for translation.

**IMPORTANt:** This is a _language_ question about how to express a concept,
this is _not_ a question about how to socially handle an interaction. Answers
should be about how to express the idea of "get over it" in the Japanese
language. Answers about how you would come up with different responses or how
you handle the given examples are off topic.




乗り切る doesn't quite fit here because it's about enduring _through_ a hardship.
With 乗り切る, wave(s) of difficulties come and go while _you_ persevere, where as
in "get over it," you need to overcome it yourself.

乗り越える, 克服する and 打ち勝つ do have the sense of actively overcoming some obstacle,
and may work if you use it together with the right noun. I'll come back to it
later.

My word of choice for expressing "getting past it" would be 卒業する, in the sense
of outgrowing (wwwjdic's second definition for 卒業: `(2) (col) outgrowing
something; moving on`):

> もういい加減その話題からは卒業したら? Can you just "outgrow" that subject already? (most
> naturally found in a parent-to-child or friend-to-friend scolding)

Turning it into a shared problem can make it softer:

> こういう話題からはそろそろ卒業しませんか? Shall we "outgrow" these kinds of subjects?

Note that 「卒業しませんか?」 as a set phrase is most commonly found in cheap-sounding
ads, and may sound unnatural in a real conversation.

Other phrases that can get the point over include:

  * 頭を切り替える switch one's mode of thinking 
    * 「その点頭を切り替えてもらえるとうれしいです」 Would you change your way of thinking and stop dwelling on that point? (pretty condescending)
  * 偏見/先入観 を乗り越える/を克服する/に打ち勝つ 
    * 「あなたにはぜひともその先入観を乗り越えてほしいんです」I really hope you overcome that preconception of yours. (pretty condescending)




乗り切る doesn't quite fit here because it's about enduring _through_ a hardship.
With 乗り切る, wave(s) of difficulties come and go while _you_ persevere, where as
in "get over it," you need to overcome it yourself.

乗り越える, 克服する and 打ち勝つ do have the sense of actively overcoming some obstacle,
and may work if you use it together with the right noun. I'll come back to it
later.

My word of choice for expressing "getting past it" would be 卒業する, in the sense
of outgrowing (wwwjdic's second definition for 卒業: `(2) (col) outgrowing
something; moving on`):

> もういい加減その話題からは卒業したら? Can you just "outgrow" that subject already? (most
> naturally found in a parent-to-child or friend-to-friend scolding)

Turning it into a shared problem can make it softer:

> こういう話題からはそろそろ卒業しませんか? Shall we "outgrow" these kinds of subjects?

Note that 「卒業しませんか?」 as a set phrase is most commonly found in cheap-sounding
ads, and may sound unnatural in a real conversation.

Other phrases that can get the point over include:

  * 頭を切り替える switch one's mode of thinking 
    * 「その点頭を切り替えてもらえるとうれしいです」 Would you change your way of thinking and stop dwelling on that point? (pretty condescending)
  * 偏見/先入観 を乗り越える/を克服する/に打ち勝つ 
    * 「あなたにはぜひともその先入観を乗り越えてほしいんです」I really hope you overcome that preconception of yours. (pretty condescending)

