Use of 自分を and もらう


I have trouble understanding the following sentence:

> ルーカスさんは、自分をファーストネームで呼んでもらいたいと言うけれども、三年も年上の人なので、どうも「トム」とは呼びにくい。

Is it. Mister Lukas wants to get called by his first name but it's hard to do
so because he is 3 years older than the speaker. Or does the speaker wants to
call him Tom?

I don't know to whom 自分 is pointing, isn't it always pointing to the speaker?
In this case the sentence wouldn't make sense since the speaker wants to
receive something "もらいたい".

I think I am confusing either the 自分 or the もらいたい part.




Although it isn't a great analogy, I sometimes think of 自分 as the Japanese
counterpart to the "reflexive" (just because 自分を sometimes translates to
"himself" or "herself"). That doesn't really work here, but in any case, 自分
still points to ルーカスさん, even though he isn't the speaker:

> **自分を** ファーストネームで呼んでもらいたい  
>  _he wants to get people to call **him** by the first name_  
>  he wants to be called by his first name

So,

> ルーカスさんは、自分をファーストネームで呼んでもらいたいと言うけれども、三年も年上の人なので、どうも「トム」とは呼びにくい。  
>  Mr. Lucas says that he wants to be called by his first name, but him being
> three years older than me makes it really quite hard to call him "Tom".




Although it isn't a great analogy, I sometimes think of 自分 as the Japanese
counterpart to the "reflexive" (just because 自分を sometimes translates to
"himself" or "herself"). That doesn't really work here, but in any case, 自分
still points to ルーカスさん, even though he isn't the speaker:

> **自分を** ファーストネームで呼んでもらいたい  
>  _he wants to get people to call **him** by the first name_  
>  he wants to be called by his first name

So,

> ルーカスさんは、自分をファーストネームで呼んでもらいたいと言うけれども、三年も年上の人なので、どうも「トム」とは呼びにくい。  
>  Mr. Lucas says that he wants to be called by his first name, but him being
> three years older than me makes it really quite hard to call him "Tom".

