How do i know the difference between ni or wo while using verbs with people


For example:

  * Naguru - to strike
  * Sasou - to invite
  * Kisu suru - to kiss

How do i know which one between wo and ni is the correct one?

  * Kanoji ni sasou or kanojo wo sasou?
  * Kanojo ni kisu suru or kanojo wo kisu suru?

Its very hard to me because it looks like i have to guess the particle when im
using a verb with a person




Basically you have to memorize the correct usage of each verb. It's not always
possible to logically tell which verb takes which particle. Many English
transitive verbs are translated using intransitive verbs in Japanese, and vice
versa. See [this answer](https://japanese.stackexchange.com/a/16270/5010),
too.

But roughly speaking, verbs that describe actions which directly and heavily
affect the object tend to take を. Some "mild" verbs may take に. That's the
basic difference between transitive and intransitive verbs, after all.

>   * 彼を殴る, 彼を蹴る (to kick him), 彼を縛る (to bind him), 彼を殺害する (to kill him), ...
>   * 彼に頼む (to ask him (a favor)), 彼に感謝する (to thank him), 彼に挨拶する (to greet
> him), ...
>

For compound verbs, the second verb usually determines the particle it takes.

>   * 彼 **を** 殴る 彼 **に** 殴りかかる 彼 **と** 殴り合う
>   * 彼 **に** 聞く 彼 **から** 聞き出す
>

