Can 連れていく be used with someone with a higher social status?


Every dictionary I've found says that 連れていく{つれていく} should only be used to mean
leading someone of a lower social status. While my research and experience has
found this to be true in most cases, I've found a few sentences that seem to
break this rule, particularly someone bringing their parents to either a
vacation or the hospital. For example:

> 両親を旅行に連れていく  
>  親を病院に連れていく

My theory is that it actually applies to anyone of a lower social status _or_
anyone in your social circle- someone that you're familiar with. But I can't
figure it out, because it's actually kind of hard to find any examples of
bringing _anyone_ of a higher social status, like your boss, somewhere.

Is it correct to say that this verb can only be used to bring those of a lower
social status? If it is, why are the above examples correct?




As far as honorific speech is concerned, your own parents are **_not_** any
higher than yourself in status. You treat them as your equals when speaking to
a third party. If you have been taught otherwise somewhere, it is indeed
unfortunate. That is why you **_must_** say 「[親]{おや}を～～に[連]{つ}れていく」, instead
of saying it using a "better" verb that will be introduced below.

If, however, you are taking another person's parents (outside of your family),
your teacher, your customer, etc. to a place, then you will use 「～～を～～に
**お連れする** 」. Using 「連れていく」 in these cases will make one a very poor keigo-user
(and in the business world, you will be called out).

Point is it does not matter how much you personally respect and admire your
parents. That is your business and it is cool. You just do not elevate them as
objects of respect when speaking to a third party about them in keigo. This is
extremely important and is surely a weak point for many Japanese-learners.

> 「[両親]{りょうしん}を[旅行]{りょこう}に連れていく」
>
> 「親を[病院]{びょういん}に連れていく」

Both phrases above are perfect (because the speakers are **_not_** elevating
their parents in status).

Again, you should never, ever replace 「連れていく」 by 「お連れする」 in the phrases above.
That would be "trying to" speak politely and failing miserably. "Comical" is
how that would sound to native speakers.

「連れていく」 is for people lower or equal in status, not just lower as you stated.
Your family members are your equals in the keigo world.

「お連れする」 is for people higher in status. In reality, however, the politer
speakers use it even when talking about taking a stranger somewhere if the
stranger is not way younger than themselves. But they sure will not use it for
their parents or grand-parents because they know they should not.




As far as honorific speech is concerned, your own parents are **_not_** any
higher than yourself in status. You treat them as your equals when speaking to
a third party. If you have been taught otherwise somewhere, it is indeed
unfortunate. That is why you **_must_** say 「[親]{おや}を～～に[連]{つ}れていく」, instead
of saying it using a "better" verb that will be introduced below.

If, however, you are taking another person's parents (outside of your family),
your teacher, your customer, etc. to a place, then you will use 「～～を～～に
**お連れする** 」. Using 「連れていく」 in these cases will make one a very poor keigo-user
(and in the business world, you will be called out).

Point is it does not matter how much you personally respect and admire your
parents. That is your business and it is cool. You just do not elevate them as
objects of respect when speaking to a third party about them in keigo. This is
extremely important and is surely a weak point for many Japanese-learners.

> 「[両親]{りょうしん}を[旅行]{りょこう}に連れていく」
>
> 「親を[病院]{びょういん}に連れていく」

Both phrases above are perfect (because the speakers are **_not_** elevating
their parents in status).

Again, you should never, ever replace 「連れていく」 by 「お連れする」 in the phrases above.
That would be "trying to" speak politely and failing miserably. "Comical" is
how that would sound to native speakers.

「連れていく」 is for people lower or equal in status, not just lower as you stated.
Your family members are your equals in the keigo world.

「お連れする」 is for people higher in status. In reality, however, the politer
speakers use it even when talking about taking a stranger somewhere if the
stranger is not way younger than themselves. But they sure will not use it for
their parents or grand-parents because they know they should not.

