How to introduce myself in relation to my wife?


I know there are a few ways to essentially say "husband" (夫、旦那、主人). Can all be
used by a speaker to refer to themselves?

Examples I thought of:

> （私はAの）旦那／夫／主人です。
>
> 旦那／夫／主人の○○です。

I have a feeling I can't use 主人, but I'm not sure if that's correct, nor why.

**How do I introduce myself in relation to my wife?**

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主人 means 'master', so you shouldn't use it to refer yourself. When used by man
to refer his relationship with his wife it feels rough, be careful. 主人 is
polite when your wife refers you because it is considered as humbleness. Also
it implies he is a bit serious person. This can be used by woman to introduce
her husband in formal situation.

旦那 is almost similar to 主人 but implies he is somewhat rich, friendly and easy
going person. This word is used by woman to introduce her husband with some
friendliness to him and others listening to her speaking. Also used by man to
refer other married man with friendliness.

夫 is normal. This word is safe to use always. Can be used in formal situation.
To refer yourself as husband of someone, this word is almost only one you can
use. To refer husband of other woman, this word somewhat lacks feeling of
personal friendship to him, but safe.

To refer husband of other woman, 旦那さん is friendly and with some respect. To
add more respect use 旦那様 or ご主人. They can be used in formal situation. You
shouldn't use bare 主人 or 旦那 to refer other woman's husband because it lacks
respect to him and his wife.

Also some people uses word 相方 to refer their husband/wife. This word can be
used by woman to refer her husband, or by man to refer his wife. This word's
feeling is friendliness and equality between them. But it is not very formal.

In corner case which you want to completely remove feeling of sexism, you can
use 配偶者 to refer your wife. This word can be used by woman to refer her
husband. But in Japanese society it is very rare. In almost case using 配偶者
feels like someone is taking too much care about sexism.




主人 means 'master', so you shouldn't use it to refer yourself. When used by man
to refer his relationship with his wife it feels rough, be careful. 主人 is
polite when your wife refers you because it is considered as humbleness. Also
it implies he is a bit serious person. This can be used by woman to introduce
her husband in formal situation.

旦那 is almost similar to 主人 but implies he is somewhat rich, friendly and easy
going person. This word is used by woman to introduce her husband with some
friendliness to him and others listening to her speaking. Also used by man to
refer other married man with friendliness.

夫 is normal. This word is safe to use always. Can be used in formal situation.
To refer yourself as husband of someone, this word is almost only one you can
use. To refer husband of other woman, this word somewhat lacks feeling of
personal friendship to him, but safe.

To refer husband of other woman, 旦那さん is friendly and with some respect. To
add more respect use 旦那様 or ご主人. They can be used in formal situation. You
shouldn't use bare 主人 or 旦那 to refer other woman's husband because it lacks
respect to him and his wife.

Also some people uses word 相方 to refer their husband/wife. This word can be
used by woman to refer her husband, or by man to refer his wife. This word's
feeling is friendliness and equality between them. But it is not very formal.

In corner case which you want to completely remove feeling of sexism, you can
use 配偶者 to refer your wife. This word can be used by woman to refer her
husband. But in Japanese society it is very rare. In almost case using 配偶者
feels like someone is taking too much care about sexism.

