Use of the pronouns 彼/彼女 and あなた/君 in fictional media


From what I've studied, pronouns like he/she and you are not really common in
everyday conversational Japanese, but I see them used more often in media like
manga or video games, like a character using 彼/彼女 or あなた/君 when referring to
or talking to someone they know the name of, or even when referring to someone
close to them, like a friend or a sibling.

I was always taught to rarely if ever, use these pronouns unless you don't
know the person's name or title, so is the usage of these pronouns more so in
media than in actual daily conversation? Or are pronouns becoming more and
more prominent in modern Japanese through outside influences like English?
Thanks.




> Is the usage of these pronouns more so in media than in actual daily
> conversation?

Yes, I think so. Regarding 彼, 彼女 and あなた specifically, these are words used
only sometimes by mature adults in relatively formal conversations and
speeches. Personally, I'm not sure if I have said these words out loud even
once in the past year (except when 彼女 means "girlfriend"). In formal
conversations, expressions like 自分, あの人, その方, そちら, あちら, 向こう and so on are
mainly used instead when you don't know the name. Until middle school, I used
お前 a lot among friends, but after that, instead of learning to use あなた, I
learned how to avoid あなた using keigo and various ways of paraphrasing.

In fiction, there are many unusual types of characters that you would not
encounter in real life (gods, royalties, stereotypical ojōsama, ...), so you
are likely to see あなた/彼/彼女 and other uncommon personal pronouns much more
often. Besides, fictional conversations inevitably tend to be more organized
and closer to written Japanese than real conversations.

(By the way, the word 彼女 did not exist in Japanese until the mid-19th century.
It was coined to translate "she" in western languages.)




> Is the usage of these pronouns more so in media than in actual daily
> conversation?

Yes, I think so. Regarding 彼, 彼女 and あなた specifically, these are words used
only sometimes by mature adults in relatively formal conversations and
speeches. Personally, I'm not sure if I have said these words out loud even
once in the past year (except when 彼女 means "girlfriend"). In formal
conversations, expressions like 自分, あの人, その方, そちら, あちら, 向こう and so on are
mainly used instead when you don't know the name. Until middle school, I used
お前 a lot among friends, but after that, instead of learning to use あなた, I
learned how to avoid あなた using keigo and various ways of paraphrasing.

In fiction, there are many unusual types of characters that you would not
encounter in real life (gods, royalties, stereotypical ojōsama, ...), so you
are likely to see あなた/彼/彼女 and other uncommon personal pronouns much more
often. Besides, fictional conversations inevitably tend to be more organized
and closer to written Japanese than real conversations.

(By the way, the word 彼女 did not exist in Japanese until the mid-19th century.
It was coined to translate "she" in western languages.)

