Difference in nuance between 頂ければと思います, 頂けませんか, and 頂きたいんですけども


I've recently started using the expression 頂ければと思います, but I'm not 100% sure
about its precise nuance.

Is there any difference in nuance between

  * 頂ければと思います
  * 頂けませんか
  * 頂きたいんですけども?

To my non-native ear, the first feels formal, the second very standard and the
third a tad more casual. Apart for the difference in usage that would ensue,
is there any difference in directness (in the sense that ~を頂戴 is more direct
than ~を下さい)?




  * ～て頂ければと思います comes from something like -te itadakereba (saiwai) to omoimasu (as far as I know). It's most certainly polite, but it does have an ellipsis in the middle, and that's not good, usually, in terms of politeness. It means "If you could just do～ (I would be glad/you would save me/etc.)"... so you're asking for a favor, but you don't really think the listener will say "no" as a reply.
  * ～て頂けませんか is (the most) polite and formal. It's still a real question, and this is really important, specially in terms of politeness.
  * ～て頂きたいんですけども isn't a question and you have "n-desu kedo", explicative form, plus a contraction (that I really don't like because of gaaru's way of speaking... but this is a matter of personal preference). At least I would use ...keredomo.

I'd use the first one with a coworker, the second one even with my boss, the
third one in different occasions (when I want to be polite, but not
particularly formal). At least this is the way I've always looked at these
expressions. I hope it helps.




  * ～て頂ければと思います comes from something like -te itadakereba (saiwai) to omoimasu (as far as I know). It's most certainly polite, but it does have an ellipsis in the middle, and that's not good, usually, in terms of politeness. It means "If you could just do～ (I would be glad/you would save me/etc.)"... so you're asking for a favor, but you don't really think the listener will say "no" as a reply.
  * ～て頂けませんか is (the most) polite and formal. It's still a real question, and this is really important, specially in terms of politeness.
  * ～て頂きたいんですけども isn't a question and you have "n-desu kedo", explicative form, plus a contraction (that I really don't like because of gaaru's way of speaking... but this is a matter of personal preference). At least I would use ...keredomo.

I'd use the first one with a coworker, the second one even with my boss, the
third one in different occasions (when I want to be polite, but not
particularly formal). At least this is the way I've always looked at these
expressions. I hope it helps.

