The meaning of 精神的にくるものあるよ


The sentence

> 精神的にくるものあるよ

is translated in the subtitles as "She's totally killing my vibe".

I don't understand how that meaning comes from 精神的 (which is just "mental /
spiritual state"), and くる.

Maybe it's the same as 精神的に参る ("She's wearing me out"), based on the meaning
of 参る "becoming exhausted"? If so, I don't understand why 参る can be replaced
by くる (while they both mean "come", I don't think they share the other
meanings such as "getting exhausted").

In addition, I don't understand what ある is doing here.

もの is presumably just expressing dissatisfaction (もん / もの) but having trouble
with the rest of the sentence I'm not even sure about that.




You are close, but the 参る is not a replacement for くる in the phrase.

The difference is that the subject of 精神的に参る is the person who gets affected,
and that of 来る is what affects someone. In the case in question, the subject
is もの = a thing.

So 精神的にくるものがある literally means _there is a thing that comes (to me) mentally_.
精神的にくる is more or less a set phrase that means _to affect (somebody) mentally
in the negative way_ or simply _to discourage, to dishearten_. It is a bit
similar to 傷つく, but 精神的にくる is like saying "got hurt" as a joke. For example,
おじさんと言われると精神的にくるものがある : Being called a おじさん hurts me....

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Similar usage of くる:

  * [ぐっと](https://dictionary.goo.ne.jp/word/%E3%81%90%E3%81%A3%E3%81%A8/#jn-62316)くる : to be attracted, to be moved (emotionally)
  * [びびっと](https://dictionary.goo.ne.jp/word/%E3%81%B3%E3%81%B3%E3%81%A3%E3%81%A8/#jn-285975)くる : to get inspired, to fall in love at first sight




You are close, but the 参る is not a replacement for くる in the phrase.

The difference is that the subject of 精神的に参る is the person who gets affected,
and that of 来る is what affects someone. In the case in question, the subject
is もの = a thing.

So 精神的にくるものがある literally means _there is a thing that comes (to me) mentally_.
精神的にくる is more or less a set phrase that means _to affect (somebody) mentally
in the negative way_ or simply _to discourage, to dishearten_. It is a bit
similar to 傷つく, but 精神的にくる is like saying "got hurt" as a joke. For example,
おじさんと言われると精神的にくるものがある : Being called a おじさん hurts me....

* * *

Similar usage of くる:

  * [ぐっと](https://dictionary.goo.ne.jp/word/%E3%81%90%E3%81%A3%E3%81%A8/#jn-62316)くる : to be attracted, to be moved (emotionally)
  * [びびっと](https://dictionary.goo.ne.jp/word/%E3%81%B3%E3%81%B3%E3%81%A3%E3%81%A8/#jn-285975)くる : to get inspired, to fall in love at first sight

