に　まで differences in usage with person or things


From what I understand に marks the destination of a verb, like まで。

> 僕が彼に愛を感じる  
>  僕が彼まで愛を感じる

Some explanation I find for に are:  
1)に plainly wears many different hats, but I like to think of に as a
grammatical targeting reticule as its usual function is to point at specific
times, places, and things.  
2)The に particle can specify a target of a verb. This is different from the を
particle in which the verb does something to the direct object. With the に
particle, the verb does something toward the word associated with the に
particle.

Isn't this like まで since the verb does something towards that and then stops
there?  
Am I understanding the definition of target wrong?




<http://www.seiku.net/kotowaza/03_02.html> -- ‎ 愛、屋烏に及ぶ ( あい、おくうにおよぶ ) : 意味:
人を激しくまた真剣に愛すると、その愛する人が住んでいる家の屋根に留まっている烏をも愛するようになる。

I think... If you want to use まで , you may have to use a stronger or more
explicit verb like 及ぶ

------ as in :

> 4ji.za-yu.com/2013/09/post_465.html ‎ 愛及屋烏とはこんな意味の四字熟語です.
>
> 意 味：愛憎の情はその人だけでなく、その人に関係するものにまで及ぶ。

