text:  as your children age so are your parents very true yeah so and they may not be able to raise them right yeah even if they're a clear choice originally they're not going to be the clear choice long term well these things can change and again they don't even have to be in your family they could be you know one of your your great friends and things of that nature who are willing to to help you you know if something does tragically happen to you yeah that's a good point but you know that is a tough scenario there and i can't even remember who the heck we designated we had a