 like later on in life but having like this pause and this reset to like get this on the right track was better and we knew like we wanted to set our marriage up for success and we saw the like statistics on like finances being like a huge contributor to divorce and we were kind of like that's not going to be us here yeah we're going to go ahead and tackle the number one if that's the number one thing let's get that off the plate yeah yeah I agree very very good alright Stephanie talk to the person out there who just got married