 Because I think it's important that they get it out of their head and they write it down. They see it themselves. And then the two of them sit there and look at it and go, we're this far apart. We start there. Then I think a godly marriage counselor, a pastor, or an actual therapist to go, we have two very different futures in mind. And now we've got to figure out what life looks like when we want to be together, how we get there. Can we both get there at the same time? Probably not.