 yeah it's okay i'm not real fond of him either so that's fair um no kidding okay what do i do he's not taking very good care of his wife is he no not at all sir i'm sorry but yeah he's not i'm a disabled vet i'm on a minimum amount of money and i feel like i keep bailing him out and enabling him to continue on in the pattern that he is living beyond his means and i don't know where to stop that at