 from from your social meeting places like you you have you spend a lot more time with people at work than you do with your family many times so you got to make sure i would say take a trial retirement before you retire take a take a month off and during that month uh promise yourself not to contact anyone from work and see how it feels yeah that's good i love that you know something that comes to my mind is uh if you're going out to dinner with your girlfriend your wife whoever it may be and you ask her honey honey honey where do you want to go for dinner tonight