 and couple specifically over money issues this is an interesting situation here we don't get a lot of this but this is not a money issue per se I think the bigger red flag here is that we've got two people who want two very different lives and lives and I think that's really challenging and I sit there and I go now money becomes a factor here but really when you dig into this particular call we've got two people who want two different paths and we better figure that out pretty quick