 I mean, it's offered to you and then you have the power to accept and reject it. The power gets put into your hands. And the pain you're now inflicting is you're inflicting it on the other party by you're giving them a rejection, right? But for you, you just feel powerful. Love extended to you empowers you. But pain threatened to you, threatened upon you, starts to make you inwardly focused, self-centered, looking at your personal self.