 oh is it unfair or not well here here some good rules for family business and i coach a lot of family businesses world famous podcast called on trade leadership right coach family businesses every single week and you know millions and uh... tens of thousands of are being coached by us right now by ramsey okay so we deal with them all the time so here's the here's the guidelines very simple you do not invest money in a business you do not i don't care who owns it or what the promise was