 um and then he said oh so you guys told each other it was okay to have sex outside of marriage then and i said no we did not i would never say that you know and so i can remember being mad and defensive and then at the same time recognizing you know well i guess actions do speak louder than words and and the other thing is i also had sin in my life that i was never quite sure if i had been forgiven or not so i knew i needed the forgiveness i just didn't plan on talking about my need that day i thought it was gonna be about him