 uh student a story i said to him you're not going to like this but i'm going to actually help you do something much more powerful he had a neighbor that was just annoying him playing loud music doing horrible things right across the street and it was they had this huge feud going on i said i want you instead of trying to get everybody to do things for you because the ego wants to control the world and then it becomes unhappy you know and that when struggle you know kicks in