 so that we can go into this with the right relationship with the right actions in place no one even knows you have the certificate like if you want to keep it a secret who cares and have the party later surprise surprise between you and her and god that's right that's it and whoever the justice of the peace is that's what i would do because it sets up then okay now my wife and i and our baby on the way and her two children uh... from a former relationship are our family unit and it is now my job honey