 my dad loved me he just didn't know how to express it I had to learn okay my dad really loved me but the way he loved me was I want you to be successful because he thought being successful would make me happy so when I got like four a's and a b we had to talk about that b you know when I got a degree it was well that's real nice when you get your doctorate I came from a home where performance excelling and getting people's approval was the way it felt like love well I had to deal with that