 you don't ever hear those people asking out they don't come out and say please mow my lawn they don't i gotta go out of my way figure oh bob's got this now now i gotta go talk to bob and see if you know i'm saying the burden might just fall on us to ask for what we need i think that it's it's good if we can but i will be i will tell you in the middle i mean and i've i've been through some big stuff and i've had a lot of other friends and family go through big things