 Someone hurts you because they don't know who they are. And you being hurt by it is because you don't know who you are. If you know who you are, you're not going to be hurt by it. If they knew who they were, they are not going to hurt you. And we have to refuse to allow circumstances and situations steal from who we are and try to redefine who we are in a way that God never said. Making our identity from what happened to us. Well, I have trauma, so I'm this.