 and model that for our kids and they're proud of us they are forgiving of us like they really are it's an amazing thing right at the end here let me just ask a question on behalf of single parents you know we often as we're talking we're talking in the construct of a two-parent family and people will contact us and say hey don't forget about us so this is you know one of those moments i want to ask that question about the single parent mom particularly and we