 obey. How can I trust him as a husband and choosing to trust him and now lead as a result, a wife choosing to trust God and now submit as a result, not because somebody else has said it, but because God has spoken. And if that's not what makes it valuable, I don't know what would. As we're talking kind of up here at this level about communication, you've expressed in the book that you see an element of grace or that communication itself is a grace. Unpack that a little bit for us. Yeah, so