 This, by the way, reminds me of an anecdote that I once experienced where one of my students told me something that was very shocking. We were sitting around and she casually said, you know, my parents tell me I was a mistake. I wasn't planned. What does that mean? How is it possible to tell that to your child? You're a mistake. It's impossible. If the mom and dad were the only ones who were making the decision and calling the shots, then you're right. That may have been a mistake. But if God is a partner here...