 peers might be in the middle of it too and they might be answering questions out of emotion which is always one of those things like i want to get advice like my mentors i'm getting a perspective from them not in the middle of their storm or pain but on the other side of it because when i'm in the middle of a storm i mean there's lightning there's thunder it's cloudy it's rocky it's not clear i can't see the whole picture from beginning to end