 tell us what it's about what are they all you know it's almost like you want to just you you want to reach over just go there it is look at me um again i want to talk to you because i feel so bad when you lay the boom down on him you tell him this isn't what you think it is how do you feel about that how does that how i mean people want so badly to think they've had the experience what has been the overall reaction when you say it's not what you think