 our nation to death and it's killing us because what happens is if we, if, if we, if the only dynamic in our home was the mother, our children would, their, their maturation process would slow because in order to grow up, you have to take more responsibility for yourself. And oftentimes, um, mothers, that's a, that's hard. They got a hard time letting them do that because that means their kid might fail or, or fallen skin his knee. And, and, and so that's when the dad steps in and says, it's okay, sweetheart, he'll be okay. Um,