 you know i'm raising these children and the social security money covers the cost of raising the child and uh... you know we're we're doing some other things i have many times told people to use that money okay it's not their money technically uh... it comes in their name but when you know what you get from social security even if it's back pay total isn't is not what it cost to raise a child so you spend more on the child and they're getting so if you use that money in your monthly budget