 He also writes about Neva, who's now a teenager and just turned 15 years old. Through it all, writing about grief has been one constant, and he credits his wife for pushing him to do so. This book really first and foremost came from her asking me to write it a few weeks before she died. She just wanted our story to help others. She wanted to have that be part of the meaning of it and see if writing about it might help other people through their own difficult paths with any of this.