 you hadn't thought of this idea when you're done yeah and the problem is the problem is he's not a keeper i wish he was unless unless you have dramatic repentance on his part and some real strong counseling this is not a key it's not going to work out and i'm so sorry heartbreaking after 30 years wow well actually it's probably you said started five years ago it's probably 20 years of the last 10 have not been good years but the uh um i'm so sorry