 uh, respect her, but also he has to be the primary parent putting boundaries in place. You know what I mean? Which is not easy. I have a lot of friends right now who their kids are in high school, they're about to go to college and I'm fascinated with each and every one of them. How did you, okay, what's this thing? What's going on with the phone? How do you navigate the boys? How do you navigate the girls? You know, all of it. And, uh,