 for them whichever time that might be so for your dad it was you know when that music was popular for him and uh it's very helpful and it's good to know that and i think something else you mentioned that you had experience that's really good because when you don't have experience and you don't know what to expect and to see how this illness progresses uh it can be shocking right because this is someone that you love that you're watching go through these um changes and