text:  Right. In some way, I should be the safe place for her. And I think so many times as husbands, we wield our words without that occurring to us that we just we're so familiar. And we are overly, overly tough and overly combative at times with our wives. So that was a conviction I had. And and so I'm encouraging men to think more clearly about their own. We talk about this toughness in terms of work, but also just toughness in terms of familiarity. Well, it's so much of it could be it can be a look. It can be it doesn't have to be words. It can be an eye the way you look at her.