text:  And you can just reach that down inside. And when you do that, that's when the switch flips. That's when you say, okay, I don't care what the teenager thinks. I don't care what your mother-in-law thinks. I don't care what the neighbor thinks. I don't care what anybody thinks. We're fixing this crap. And when you do that, now you're imposing your will on the chaotic life, and you will bring order to it, and it's your only hope of not believing your whole life broke.