text:  you have to turn the toughness off, right? So you have to be outwardly very tough for your wife, but inwardly inside the household, very tender with her. And so it's that paradox of having to be tough for her, but tender with her. Let's go to the general communication idea. So what impact does communication, good or poor, have on a marriage? And whose responsibility is it to kind of be the gardener of that communication? Yeah, so...