text:  there's a reason for it. So if you can, your personality will grow and change. If you can own it, look at it and start to think through, okay, it's because of this, this, and this, or man, because I'm just, I just took it wrong or because I'm selfish or because of you can find out where the personality kind of defect is or what triggers you. And sometimes there's definitely sometimes where people are just defensive and