text:  And then he said, oh, so you guys told each other it was okay to have sex outside of marriage then? And I said, no, we did not. I would never say that. So I can remember being mad and defensive and then at the same time recognizing, well, I guess actions do speak louder than words. And the other thing is I also had sin in my life that I was never quite sure if I had been forgiven or not. So I knew I needed the forgiveness. I just didn't plan on talking about my need that day. I thought it was going to be about him.