text:  So what would you coach someone to do that wants to live in a different city and is looking for a position? Well, we're going to sit down. I would coach them to sit down first and let's both write out, without each other's input, separate sheets of paper, what do you want life to look like 15 years from now? I'd start there. Because I think it's important that they get it out of their head and they write it down. They see it themselves. And then the two of them sit there and look at it and go, we're this far apart.