text:  Hey, I don't love you anymore. I'm out. Change is now forced upon you. Divorce is now forced upon you. Imminent. How do you deal with that? If I'm being sarcastic, I show her the way to the door and I shut it behind her. No. Here's the first thing you have to do. Change is now upon you and it's something you didn't want, but you have to deal with it. When change is forced upon us, we do two things that make it worse for us than better. One of those is we allow ourselves to become a victim of the change.