text:  You will not get out of that until you stop it. Until you stop it. You have to. Basically lock yourself in the horrible part of the change for an endless amount of time. And you can hate them and you have regret and it hurts. And reducing marriage is an example when somebody hurts you and takes off. But if you become a victim of that, you will stay stagnant in that victimhood forever until you choose to say, I'm not giving them, that person, any more power in my life. I'm not going to allow them power to decide whether I'm happy or sad.