text:  I mean, how else is the child supposed to interpret that? You've thrown a party, invited all family and friends. You've announced it on the, you've gone to the media and told everybody about it. Now you've put all this pressure on your child on purpose saying, this is who you are now. If you change your mind, that's going to be very embarrassing and disappointing for lots of people. So you can't change your mind. You're stuck with this.