text:  very seldom does it happen it's almost impossible you have to make so much money to overcome that that it's unbelievable instead the couples tell us over and over and over again that they work together in the harness together pulling the plow together towards a shared goal a shared vision a shared dream for our lives and we're both willing to give up a little bit of our selfishness to get to that shared goal and that shared vision we're both being grown-ups here to get to that shared goal and share vision