text:  later she has suggested getting a mortgage again and keeping some of the down payment savings to use for monthly payments and other such ideas I love my wife but I know these aren't great financial decisions I don't want to buy a house in a manner that's not financially responsible and then resent her for pressuring me into it am I being a jerk here no I think you're being a really smart guy and I think you're holding up your end of what you guys said the deal is because I