text:  um that's not i mean it's it's it's well i guess it is it's the child of it's an adult child of someone your dad married right um but that's a separate life it's a separate world and maybe all are close now and that's wonderful and great and good but um i always like to think back on these situations as if my dad was here and i've got a decision to make what would bring him joy right with this money he loved me well and he already decided what he wanted to do that's right