text:  until you're married and the moment you get married you put everything in a in a pot there's not hey you pay the light bill and i'll pay this bill no we pay these bills because our money is combined and it's together and that forces you guys to have conversations about who we are gonna be as a married couple and the vision we have for the life we are building together for ourselves our future our legacy our communities our country all that stuff right we're gonna do that stuff together