text:  What happens, happens, and there's nothing you can do about it. I always learned it as, it can't be helped. Yeah, it can't be helped. So you can see also how this principle of survival during their time at camp, shikata ganai, it can't be helped, just move on, just act like it didn't happen, became like the style of parenting within this family that ultimately really impacted Leah in a negative way and other members of the family too. And she's just trying to make sense of that.