text:  You can either grieve it and be crushed by it or find the beauty. Let me ask you about the family, Eleanor, who was a writer of children's books. And one of the cracks that her family has to contend with, a terrible accident involving Toby. Yes, the youngest of their three children. Toby almost drowns in a creek and is left with brain injuries. It's hard for any parent to live with that. Does Eleanor ever quite consider it really an accident?