text:  This memoir is in part a critique of the memoir she published in the mid-90s when she described herself as the person who initiated their first kiss. In her new book, Consent, she admits he initiated the kiss. They married and stayed together until his death at 93 in 2016, but she wonders if the story's ending can now excuse how it began. Arnaud was married with two children when you met. At what point did you find that out?