text:  My daughter identifies as genderqueer. She's ferocious and brave, and I'm calling her she because I'm not going to just call her genderqueer every time I speak about her. This woman raised her hand after a talk Joy gave to a group of therapists about gender issues. But I still struggle with language, and to receive permission from you to be clunky and awkward but not to let that stop us is really meaningful to me.