 And I realized my brother was doing the same thing. So he would say, oh, no, go take this lieutenant or take that sergeant. You know, nobody visits her. And it took me a long time to realize I was doing that. He was mirroring me, and he was also trying to be that strong soldier. And that's not what it was about at all. It was about being with people who understood what we were going through and allowing them to help us where we needed it because we did desperately need help.