 you get to see him actually enjoyed like they're they're utilized oh absolutely and i mean i'm 45 i'm already at the point where like when it's father's day when it's my birthday you know and um anniversary well let's be let's be real the anniversary has never revolved around me at all neither has valentine's day it's not hey what do you want for these two things but i'm at the point where like you know they'll ask me well what do you want for your birthday or whatever