 reunification and this idea of loving a child and letting them go is by and large the thing that will keep people from foster care the most. I can't imagine like that's like part of your heart kind of being ripped out of you. But you know as an adult if my heart is like a puzzle then you know I'm going to lose a piece in this. But also I gain from that as well because for us the way that we've been able to see this play out is it's it's