 sorry it's actually the law yeah i have a piece of paper you have a wait when we got when we actually went to like the courthouse right that was our running joke that i had a piece of paper that i kind of like you were like cattle like you were my property yeah but are you are you trying to do the progressive thing where you turn the tables and it's actually your piece of paper is that what you're telling me well i think it's only fair because you know you know in our household i do like the husband stuff yeah so like i really should