 Look, the battle of ideas is almost always over the definition of words. Thus, it's absolutely vital in a conversation to clarify any terms that are being used. For example, the first and most important thing to clarify about so-called same-sex marriage is marriage. So when that topic comes up, ask this. Well, before we talk about what kind of union should be considered marriage, what do you mean by marriage? Often in these debates, we'll quickly find that we may be using the same vocabulary, but we're not using the same dictionary.