 I need a way to pay for this, to have a home for this baby, the smartest thing I can do is get married to a man, preferably one who loves you, and make that man the father of my child, even if he's not the biological father of my child. And that applies black or white, doesn't it? It really did. And if there was a stigma in the black community up until the 60s, nobody wanted to go on welfare. And if you became pregnant out of wedlock, you were sent to South.