 to stand by you at this point um although she doesn't need to be standing by she needs to be working yeah i mean we've got a good income but you know this is back to the baby steps yeah we're back to the baby steps so that was the the mental side let's talk about the money side which is ken is exactly right both of you guys need to be working and at this point you know i'm assuming probably there's a stay-at-home mom situation here and this is all hands on deck