 you know, and I look at so many spouses right now that are taking care of their, you know, their loved partner that they lived with for 40, 50 years. Right. And there's this feeling of, you know, change in their own life, this feeling of being off balance. And, and the thing that's hard is, is that you have, you cannot, you have to understand that there, this is a time to pull on resources and,