 he there is a line that he's crossed a long time ago and it sounds like you're in this position where it's like once i get my footing i'm out the door and i don't know what you guys have talked about in way of counseling you know i i kind of have this acronym when you're in these situations i always say it's it's a safe acronym about keeping your money safe and it's the s's you need to seek counsel if you are experiencing things like a addiction abuse uh