 Whether I come and see you or else be absent, I may hear of your affairs that you stand fast in one spirit with one mind striving together for the faith of the gospel. In other words, if I'm present or not, know what he's dealing with there? Character. That what's driving and motivating isn't the presence of someone. It's teenager doing right, not because mom and dad are in the room. It's because you claim to know Christ and so act like it, live like it.