 it sounds like he's uh sounds like some of the stuff he's doing right now he's in a situation where he gets direct feedback a lot i don't need it at home too i suspect that yeah yeah and just go you know uh if you want to talk about how we go forward in our relationship in that context we can do that but i need to give you the answer to your question and that is i'm not going to live in the same house with you sleep in the same bed with you until we're married because it's against my values