 their younger colleagues turn to them for insight. Suddenly, people depend on them, and the stakes are high. It's like my friend, a very successful businessman, who told me he was used to someone else being the older, wise man at the table, until one day a question was asked, and he realized everyone around the table turned to him for the answer. That's a great moment for a man, if he's prepared for it. If he's not, life changes can become a pressure cooker, and some guys will self-destruct.