If you go the right way, then it's going to produce this, so, once we recognize and accept who we are, on that level to say there is a sense of acceptance, and a sense that, you can't change other people, but you can get them to see you differently; and if they see you differently, they begin to see themselves differently, because, really, the things we don't like in other people, [are the things we don't like in ourselves. 