It just happens during the questioning, and that's why I said earlier on, get your questions ready, be sincere in your questioning, and make sure that you are sensitive to the whole situation, not there just as a... from a clinical approach so to speak - excuse me, I'm not disrespecting anyone here - but it's a reality that more often than not, it's as you are questioning, each question may change, it depends on how they respond to your question. 