I think one does absolutely automatically and if you actually catch yourself in a mirror by chance that is not deliberately because you're getting dressed or having a bath there's one in the street, or you catch yourself in a shop window, it's a tremendous shock because you suddenly see yourself as you are which is windblown, untidy, badly dressed tired, and so on you don't see the person at all, and I think this is what happens to women they are always trying to measure up to this erotic image that is projected. 