This is why we need to learn to put ourselves in the position  of multi-centered leaders for multi-centered procedures, not to be the leader of everything and even the leader of the rest, to put ourselves in the position  of the bow and arrow, the position of one moment pushing and the next moment being pushed, to put ourselves in the position to learn from one another, to do things that many people think can only be done by those they consider to be enlightened. 