And not even just that she wanted to be &amp;lt;br/&amp;gt;a woman and have breasts, but things like, that she liked high heels,  or that she particularly liked lace, because these were parts of being a woman &amp;lt;br/&amp;gt;that were not my experience, they weren't what I was drawn to, and so it was hard for me &amp;lt;br/&amp;gt;to understand sometimes that she could love those things...  and still be an attractive person. 