I was not a real woman in comparison with the heterosexual woman in this drawing and hence I did not have access to the privileges reserved for heterosexual women for example to put on make-up or to wear skirts but clearly I did not feel allowed to adopt a more masculine behaviour either in the end, I understood quickly that we live in a binary society where on one hand we have women with their feminity and their attraction towards men and on the other hand, the men with  their masculinity and their attraction towards women and I realized that there is not really a space in between to act and and to exist beyond these imposed models right now, when I asked you to draw a gay man and a heterosexual man perhaps you had in mind for a few seconds, different images but becoming conscious immediately that these were stereotyped you changed your perception and drew something more equal which is very good but in the end, what is interesting is to take seriously these stereotypes that come to our minds even if they last only a few seconds and not be ashamed of them because if we want to grow out of our stereotypes we should first be able to identify them but why is it important to grow out of our stereotypes? well it is because they form the basis of our perception of reality of the explanation that we give to what we see and what we do they influence the way we treat the information that is passed on to us it leads us towards generalizations, it makes us retain only that part of the information that is in agreement with our preconceived notions they also influence our emotions concerning a situation or an individual like those of fear and disgust they also influence our judgments  and our expectations and so we see that the stereotypes have an influence much larger than what we usually think and by affecting along these four levels: our thought process, our emotions, our judgments and our expectations, our stereotypes finally end up affecting our behaviour and hence, to have a real impact on our relations with others the influence of stereotypes on our behaviour has direct social consequences and sometimes they can be grave in Switzerland, the rate of suicide attempts among young homosexuals is five times higher than that corresponding to young heterosexuals five times for many of these young people, the gap between how the society expects them to be and how they see themselves is just impossible to bear with on top of this, there exists the bullying that these young people face from their schoolmates or the other players in their sports team at an age when we know that the sense of belonging in a group is a fundamental necessity also, in contrast to other minorities who find support from their own families because their parents have lived through the same experiences as themselves for example a family of foreign origin wherein everyone is concerned but young homosexuals, they have grown up with heterosexual parents who are not more informed on the subject than anyone else and who have not had the same experiences as what their children might be going through other situations look less serious but they are also laden with grave consequences 