And there's a very famous Chinese story where a young man had been married some years, is walking with a friend--with another male friend with whom he can befriend and converse and he's bemoaning his fate that here, he loves his wife so extremely but he can't have a-- he can't express his love for her to her, he can't have walks in the moonlight like he's having with his male friend, he can't have this kind of a chat with her because that is against the morality and ethics of the system. 