I would like to push around a little bit because narcissism is a very pronounced way of stating a relationship with the world whether it is a man or a woman but this other question which is contained within it, but doesn't go as far as it as an idea is this sort of self delight of a person whether or it is a man or woman in life, in what they're doing in relationships with a man or woman and it is a thing that matters tremendously and its not only a thing that is an inner thing by which you life but it is a very outer thing by which you gain relationships with your own context in the world that you can't gain any other way its when you've somehow been made so unconscious of yourself that you easily, naturally,sort of compulsively go out to whatever is around you now, when you're a child that tends with people to be other things doesn't it? mountains, streams, whereever you go and then only gradually as you go on you make this kind of absolutely necessary contact with people but I do think that the sort of essense of self delight as a kind of possible thing in the modern world and something that fewer women have than men and want and must have is the power, the compulsion, not the power the compulsion to make contact with the world as you are living in it and when I'm saying that I don't simply mean the people next door 