You must put it inside, digest, assimilate what you are hearing and prove it to be true for yourself, you'll see, then gradually a great confidence enters the being that actually nothing is troubling me at all whether there's actions, reactions going on, it's really... you're not just saying this by the way, because a lot of people are saying this cleverly, you know, yes, but you know, I'm, i'm behaving like that but it's not me, OK? 