So for example I've really come to understand the roles of things like serotonin, the brain chemicals that can play havoc with people's ability to think through things clearly, and how easy it is for those of us who aren't feeling that way to judge and say, you know, 'pull yourself together and stop feeling sorry for yourself', and, you know, 'don't you know how lucky and blessed you are', etcetera etcetera, and forget that those who are suicidal and have attempted suicide, and perhaps are experiencing mental illness or a huge situational crisis, how dare we judge their pain. 