There are, there are other ways to come by children, erm  I have a relationship with a man who has three children  erm he's been married, he's divorced, separated, and I don't feel that I'm replacing the children's own mother, I feel like I'm  not even stepmother, I'm just their friend, get on very well with them, and we we share  I share mothering, if you like, with their own mother  whom they see.