So again can you see  you have other people to consider if you've partners, but that's one of the difficulties of having a partner, but then again think, if you don't have a partner, that's worse cos you've nobody to communicate with, nobody to shout at, nobody to organize or organize you, er nobody ready made to go out with, you've got it all to do yourself because your number one requirement when you're left on your own is to get the company and the activity, whereas if you, if you are er living with a person then at least a certain amount of that is ready to hand.