and I don't know how he, you are,and in the end our cousins you, you know convince me that they'd take sort of control, you know that, if I was worried as well about or dad getting drunk, one thing or another like, you know, and  said look we're going, it's not as though we're not going, we're going and we'll have him in with us  and I let him go in the end  cos I went down in the  five weeks 