You know given that life is as it is are you okay and he said yes so I went round the gardens and I came back to him and I had a friend coming for lunch  and I thought this is ridiculous, I'm going to have something to drink and I'm going to have a meal so I made him an enormous great wad of cheese sandwiches and some apples and a piece of cake and some biscuits and a cup of tea and I went downstairs with the milk and the sugar and  cup of tea  and all this stuff  and I went into  the gardens and this poor child he looked very defensively a second time and I said well I thought you might like some breakfast and I wrapped the second lot up so if you've nothing later on, why not put it in your pocket and eat later in the day and I didn't know whether you took milk or sugar, so I thought I'd better just ask you  and do you know I thought he was going to cry.