Erm, I have children of my own, that I had naturally and I said yes, but with reservation because erm  I I've often wondered in the case of a handicapped baby  er, that was  born to a surrogate mother  and the surrogate mother  wanted to keep it simply because it was handicapped, or  if she knew she was gonna have a handicapped baby  the amniocentesis test  and if she wanted to abort the baby  but the mother-in-waiting didn't  who would decide?