But the, the link between sex and reproduction is always likely to be more critical to a woman   So, so, so you see th th the point I'm making is these insights seem to me to be to have a kind of relevance to er women's experience of sex that is some ways greater than it is to male males can you know once they've done their fertilizing work, they're, they're really through as far as erm  as far as biology is concerned, not perhaps as far as social .