My er, circumstances are entirely different, I am the person who's being cared for  and my husband died in nineteen eighty seven, and my son in nineteen eighty eight and I was left with my young son, and he looked after me on his own, and then my daughter who li , I was living in Ireland, my daughter lived in England, and she decided it wasn't good enough that it should all be left to him, so  we had a long talk and we discussed it at length for two weeks at Christmas, and  then they all moved Sou , over here, we got a house in Scotland, and I'm looked after by my young son and my daughter, and since then a year ago my daughter got married, her husband moved in and he looks after me as well , so I'm looked after by three young adults.