So I told them what I would do, but once again I've never been in the situation but this is what I'll do, said as if they were me own parents make them as comfortable as I could while I'll cleaned up and give them a bed bath or if they could shower, shower them and erm and get everything back to normal as quick as possible, fine, that were all fine she, and then as, as I got up from it they all said thanks a lot Joy it has been great you really have been great you've made it easy, we've got an easy day in front thanks to you, you know you're bubbly and all this and  then when she phoned me on the Sunday she said hello Joy it's Sue here and I, I said will you let me know one way or the another cos I said I hate being left up in the air 