I th there was, there was one big point that I actually missed out as well that neither of you have picked up on  and that was that Maggie actually said that they were having problems with John in school and I should've come back and, and said  well she di she actually said that she was having problems with John, full stop, and I should've actually come back and, and clarified whether it was at school or not and hence led to the private education and I missed that one completely  and realized that I'd done it afterwards but none of you picked up on that one.