Yeah, and I said erm, and I said that weren't, if that wasn't enough I said bearing in mind he'd just come out of intensive care off a life support machine, I said and which I think that, that tells us that he needs a bit of extra care compared to some of them on the ward, I said I know they're all important and I know you're busy but I said I think you should've had a bit of priority, he was dying, and you know he's dying, you'd been told, she said yes that's right, I said but what really broke my bloody heart was from one o'clock that dinner time he sat in that chair, we left that hospital at half past eight and you assured us he'd go to bed and when we came in the next morning at half past ten Joy he sat there exactly the bloody same, in the same filthy blanket and the same catheter on him, oh I went fucking mad and I said how dare you, I said because somebody's told they're dying does that mean they've got to be forgot?