And it got, in the end, actually, if I was, if I had to do something  that was urgent  or I had to go somewhere  I used to have to say to her  something like, you know, erm  oh I better get on, I got a lot to do this morning, or  I'm goi I've to be shopping and  be back in time to cook Jim's dinner or something like that cos he's starting, oh I've gotta have his dinner ready at twelve before he goes to work and  if I really was pushed  otherwise she would have come in every day.