solve test timing issues in replication tests (#9121)

# replication-3.tcl
had a test timeout failure with valgrind on daily CI:
```
*** [err]: SLAVE can reload "lua" AUX RDB fields of duplicated scripts in tests/integration/replication-3.tcl
Replication not started.
```
replication took more than 70 seconds.
https://github.com/redis/redis/runs/2854037905?check_suite_focus=true

on my machine it takes only about 30, but i can see how 50 seconds isn't enough.

# replication.tcl
loading was over too quickly in freebsd daily CI:
```
*** [err]: slave fails full sync and diskless load swapdb recovers it in tests/integration/replication.tcl
Expected '0' to be equal to '1' (context: type eval line 44 cmd {assert_equal [s -1 loading] 1} proc ::start_server)
```

# rdb.tcl
loading was over too quickly.
increase the time loading takes, and decrease the amount of work we try to achieve in that time.