scsi: reference-count requests

With the next patch, a device may hold SCSIRequest for an indefinite
time.  Split a rather big patch, and protect against access errors,
by reference counting them.

There is some ugliness in scsi_send_command implementation due to
the need to unref the request when it fails.  This will go away
with the next patches, which move the unref'ing to the devices.

Signed-off-by: Paolo Bonzini <pbonzini@redhat.com>
Cc: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
