Add the vhost-user netdev backend to the command line

The supplied chardev id will be inspected for supported options. Only
a socket backend, with a set path (i.e. a Unix socket) and optionally
the server parameter set, will be allowed. Other options (nowait, telnet)
will make the chardev unusable and the netdev will not be initialised.

Additional checks for validity:
  - requires `-numa node,memdev=..`
  - requires `-device virtio-net-*`

The `vhostforce` option is used to force vhost-net when we deal with
non-MSIX guests.

Signed-off-by: Antonios Motakis <a.motakis@virtualopensystems.com>
Signed-off-by: Nikolay Nikolaev <n.nikolaev@virtualopensystems.com>
Reviewed-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Acked-by: Luiz Capitulino <lcapitulino@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Eric Blake <eblake@redhat.com>
