vhost: add assert() to check runtime behaviour

All these functions must be called only after the backend is connected.
They are called from virtio-net.c, after either virtio or link status
change.

The check for nc->peer->link_down should ensure vhost_net_{start,stop}()
are always called between vhost_user_{start,stop}().

Signed-off-by: Marc-André Lureau <marcandre.lureau@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
