dataplane: fail notifier setting gracefully

The dataplane code is currently doing a hard exit if it fails to set
up either guest or host notifiers. In practice, this may mean that a
guest suddenly dies after a dataplane device failed to come up (e.g.,
when a file descriptor limit is hit for tne nth device).

Let's just try to unwind the setup instead and return.

Acked-by: Christian Borntraeger <borntraeger@de.ibm.com>
Signed-off-by: Cornelia Huck <cornelia.huck@de.ibm.com>
Signed-off-by: Stefan Hajnoczi <stefanha@redhat.com>
