(OPRAH.com) -- Attention single ladies! Comedian Steve Harvey, the best-selling author of "Act Like a Lady, Think Like Man" and a self-professed expert on manhood, is here to take you inside the male mind.



Comedian Steve Harvey says real men like to provide and protect, but some also like to cheat.



Whether you're looking for Mr. Right or trying to forget Mr. Wrong, Steve isn't holding anything back.



Many women have long lists that describe what they're looking for in a man...but are their standards simply too high? Yinka and Lynell are two 30-something friends who have long lists. They're here to ask Steve if they'll ever find a man who meets all their requirements.



Lynell says she's looking for a God-fearing, spontaneous African-American millionaire with straight teeth and nice shoes who wants children...among other things.



"That would be the Lord," Steve jokes. "I'll be trying to meet him the same time you do."



If a woman is serious about her list, Steve says she should ask herself one question before turning down a date. "Are you willing to be the same thing to him that you're talking about on that list?" he says. "A lot of women are not."



In general, do women even need a list? Steve says single ladies do need to set standards. "I think lists are great. You've got to have them. You've got to know what you're looking for," he says. "Without standards, you settle for stuff."



Before you get discouraged, Steve reminds women to stay patient and remember that real men aren't afraid of standards and requirements.



"You've got to wait on this guy to come along. He's coming. He's out there. He's already created. God has already made him," he says.



"He has a job. He's wearing the clothes you like. He's walking around. You're not waiting on him to be born. He exists today. All you've got to do is stay patient."



Why do many successful, independent women have a hard time finding love? There are millions of smart, beautiful women around the world who can't figure out why they're unlucky in love, including a group of friends from New York. Steve is here to set them straight.



Steve says many successful women dated good men but didn't know it at the time. "You don't know the DNA of a good man," he says. Even if you look like a million bucks -- and you have a few million in the bank -- Steve says a woman needs to know how a man shows his love. It's all about the "three P's." Oprah.com: Can a list help you find love?



"We profess, we provide and we protect," he says. "A man has got to see where he fits into the providing and protecting role. If you've got everything, you can do everything, you've got your own car ... you've got a guard dog and a handgun. The guy is thinking, 'Where do I fit in here?'



"You've got to make a space for him to fit in so he can come in and do what men do."



Steve doesn't advise women to downplay their success or pack up their designer shoes. Instead, he says strong women have to walk a thin line.



"You can't let your independence and your ability to take care of yourself be the dominant factor of who you are," he says. "You know how many times I hear women say: 'I don't need a man. I've got this. Why don't a man just come to me?' Just like you're saying it, you're projecting it. If you're projecting it, where does a man fit in there? Just relax." Oprah.com: How to act
( OPRAH.com ) -- Attention single ladies ! Comedian Steve Harvey , the best - selling author of " Act Like a Lady , Think Like Man " and a self - professed expert on manhood , is here to take you inside the male mind . Comedian Steve Harvey says real men like to provide and protect , but some also like to cheat . Whether you 're looking for Mr. Right or trying to forget Mr. Wrong , Steve is n't holding anything back . Many women have long lists that describe what they 're looking for in a man ... but are their standards simply too high ? Yinka and Lynell are two 30-something friends who have long lists . They 're here to ask Steve if they 'll ever find a man who meets all their requirements . Lynell says she 's looking for a God - fearing , spontaneous African - American millionaire with straight teeth and nice shoes who wants children ... among other things . " That would be the Lord , " Steve jokes . " I 'll be trying to meet him the same time you do . " If a woman is serious about her list , Steve says she should ask herself one question before turning down a date . " Are you willing to be the same thing to him that you 're talking about on that list ? " he says . " A lot of women are not . " In general , do women even need a list ? Steve says single ladies do need to set standards . " I think lists are great . You 've got to have them . You 've got to know what you 're looking for , " he says . " Without standards , you settle for stuff . " Before you get discouraged , Steve reminds women to stay patient and remember that real men are n't afraid of standards and requirements . " You 've got to wait on this guy to come along . He 's coming . He 's out there . He 's already created . God has already made him , " he says . " He has a job . He 's wearing the clothes you like . He 's walking around . You 're not waiting on him to be born . He exists today . All you 've got to do is stay patient . " Why do many successful , independent women have a hard time finding love ? There are millions of smart , beautiful women around the world who ca n't figure out why they 're unlucky in love , including a group of friends from New York . Steve is here to set them straight . Steve says many successful women dated good men but did n't know it at the time . " You do n't know the DNA of a good man , " he says . Even if you look like a million bucks -- and you have a few million in the bank -- Steve says a woman needs to know how a man shows his love . It 's all about the " three P 's . " Oprah.com : Can a list help you find love ? " We profess , we provide and we protect , " he says . " A man has got to see where he fits into the providing and protecting role . If you 've got everything , you can do everything , you 've got your own car ... you 've got a guard dog and a handgun . The guy is thinking , ' Where do I fit in here ? ' " You 've got to make a space for him to fit in so he can come in and do what men do . " Steve does n't advise women to downplay their success or pack up their designer shoes . Instead , he says strong women have to walk a thin line . " You ca n't let your independence and your ability to take care of yourself be the dominant factor of who you are , " he says . " You know how many times I hear women say : ' I do n't need a man . I 've got this . Why do n't a man just come to me ? ' Just like you 're saying it , you 're projecting it . If you 're projecting it , where does a man fit in there ? Just relax . " Oprah.com : How to act
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