person A: I am fat. I feel ashame when I have to change clothes in the men locker room.
person B: That's too bad.  Have you given serious thought to trying to lose weight?
person A: I am trying but I never reach my goals.
person B: Hmmm.   I encourage you to keep trying.   Even if you don't ge tto your dieal weight_comma_ just getting halfway would show trememndous progress.