They stay with either a grandmother or a distant aunt or uncle, and they are not able to cerebrate at home or have a party or a little bit of sweets and cake for the children. 
Bagumana na nyirakuru, nyirasenge cyangwa nyirarume kandi ntibashobora guterana mu rugo cyangwa kugira ibirori cyangwa akantu gato karyoshye hamwe na keke ku bana.