title: Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities
author: David Ortmann
description: <span><span>Every once in a while, a book comes along that shines like a star in a vast, dark sky of words. While the subject matter  BDSM sexualities  hardly seems like the stuff of which literary classics are made, David Ortmann and Richard Sprotts brave new book, </span><span style="font-style:italic;">Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities, </span><span>is certainly worthy of note. Conversational in style, thick with rich descriptions of actual people, and brimming with uncommon wisdom appropriate for a post-Millineal mindset, this is a book to be borne proudly. (Plus its bound to be a great conversation starter on the subway commute home.) . . . You dont have to be a sexual outsider to enjoy this book. What is required is a nonjudgmental curiosity about human sexuality in all its myriad forms. If you fit this criteria, then this is an excellent read that I highly recommend.</span></span> (<i>Out In Jersey</i>)<br /><br /><span><span style="font-style:italic;">Sexual Outsiders</span><span> is a good step in making the helping professions understand [kinky people and BDSM sexuality].</span></span> (<i>The History of BDSM</i>)<br /><br /><span><span><span>In </span><span style="font-style:italic;">Sexual Outsiders, </span><span>authors David Ortmann and Richard Sprott perfectly complement each other writing about research, theory, and therapeutic practice with clients who are sexual adventurers. In an excellent and thoughtful deconstruction of the mainstream sexual culture, they explore the question of "how did we get here?" and, further, "how can we get somewhere better?" They propose the acceptance and honoring of the rich complexities of sexual diversity as a path for escaping the imposed shame that can constrict out lives, as they offer a wonderful guidebook to outsider sex and understanding power as an erotic resource. Read and learn from these warriors for sexual freedom as they show us how to explore our precious inner wilderness.</span></span></span> (Dossie Easton, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist; co-author of The Ethical Slut)<br /><br /><span><span><span>David Ortmann and Richard Sprott are pioneers in developing this roadmap for kink-affirmative psychotherapy. People in the BDSM community, or those practicing in secrecy, will read this book, especially the moving personal stories, and feel like they are in a support group. Professionals will have their minds - and knowledge base- opened and expanded. </span><span style="font-style:italic;">Sexual Outsiders</span><span> breaks new ground.</span></span></span> (Margie Nichols, Ph.D., Phd, psychologist and sex therapist; founder and director of the Institute for Personal Growth, New Jersey; founder and first director of the Hyacinth Foundation; author, speaker, and activist on LGBTQ issues; contributor, Principles and Practices of Sex Therapy and Handbook of Systemic Sex Therapy)<br /><br /><span><span><span>As a sex therapist who specializes in sexual minority practices, I have read virtually every book written on BDSM in the past 30 years. </span><span style="font-style:italic;">Sexual Outsiders</span><span> is truly one of a kind. The way the authors have woven in Richard Sprott's background in science with David Ortmann's clinical practice made for a very compelling read. The case studies were brilliant and kept me turning the pages in anticipation of how each story would turn out. This book is a wonderful contribution to our field.</span></span></span> (Neil Cannon, Ph.D., LMFT, Certified Sex Therapist &amp; Couples Counselor, Denver, Colorado)<br /><br /><span><span><span style="font-style:italic;">Sexual Outsiders</span><span> is a brave and lucid exploration of ways honest, open, intimate sexuality can help to heal some emotional and psychological wounds, and of the need for self-understanding to make such intimacy possible.</span></span></span> (William A. Henkin, Ph.D., co-author: Consensual Sadomasochism: How to Talk About It and How to Do It Safely)<br /><br /><span><span><span style="font-style:italic;">Sexual Outsiders</span><span> is a significant contribution helping everyone to accept and understand their (or their loved ones) BDSM interests.</span></span></span> (Charles Moser Ph.D., Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality)<br /><br /><span><span><span>As an out-kinky person for 40 years, and as a psychotherapist, I found Ortmann and Sprott's new book </span><span style="font-style:italic;">Sexual Outsiders </span><span>to be a report on being kinky from a psychological point of view. </span><span style="font-style:italic;">Sexual Outsiders</span><span> offers the reader an invaluable amalgamation of kink identities. Whether the reader be a leather-newbie, a vanilla but kink-friendly therapist, a curious friend of a kinkster, or anyone who may be in contact with BDSM folk, </span><span style="font-style:italic;">Sexual Outsiders</span><span> is a book you won't want to miss. As the commodification of BDSM culture proliferates, it will be books like </span><span style="font-style:italic;">Sexual Outsiders</span><span> that'll prove to be a positive catalyst toward ending social stigma, and to putting suffering back in the dungeon where it belongs.</span></span></span> (Winston Wilde, DHS, LMFT, doctor of human sexuality, licensed marriage &amp; family therapist, certified sex therapist)<br /><br /><span><span><span>This is the book I needed 15 years ago when I started stumbling my way through treating the KINK community. It's answered all my questions.</span><span>It should be mandatory reading for all ethical clinicians who should know something about treating alternative sexualities by now. The clinical community needs to STOP re-traumatizing, marginalizing, pathologizing, and trying to "fix" the people who come to them for help. Either they need to learn the skills taught in this book, or refer "sexual outsiders" out to someone educated, trained and willing to give these individuals the treatment they need and deserve.</span><span> This book is for anyone who practices BDSM, treats patients struggling with related issues, and for anyone interested in further understanding this lifestyle and its community.</span></span></span> (Dorothy Hayden, LCSW, Manhattan Center for Sex Addiction Therapy, Kink-Aware psychotherapist, speaker and author)<br /><br /><span><span><span>Every person who identifies as BDSM and every therapist treating them should read this book.</span></span></span> (David J. Ley, Ph.D., author of The Myth of Sex Addiction and Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and The Men Who Love Them)
zlib_text: Unchained Love 1
  The Dom Unleashes His Wolf
  When Gaynor Lee and Cameron Wilson discover their Dom is a wolf shape-shifter, their relationship is suddenly turned on its head.
  Everything has to change. For protection, they consider moving into a BDSM community, Carnal Connections, but then rogue panthers
  try to steal Gaynor’s friend Ramona. Is nowhere safe to live?
  And how will they adjust to life in a BDSM community? They’ve always practiced a moderate form of BDSM, nothing too hard-core.
  Not to mention that Tor Martin is a wolf and most of the other shape-shifters there are panthers. Can cats and dogs cooperate, especially
  when some of them are Doms?
  Meanwhile, Carnal Connections opens their eyes and minds to all sorts of sexual possibilities. BDSM has always been immensely freeing
  and fulfilling for all of them, but it gets even better. Until Tor wants Gaynor and Cameron to commit to him.
  Genre: BDSM, Ménage a Trois/Quatre, Shape-shifters
  Length: 40,907 words 
  
  THE DOM UNLEASHES HIS W