title: Becoming My Mothers Daughter: A Story of Survival and Renewal (Life Writing)
author:  Erika Gottlieb 
description: ``Despite the immediacy of its content the narrative has a complex structure, operating on several differect time levels and employing...a number of recurrent symbols.... [and it] give[s] an insight into one of the lesser-known aspects of the Holocaust. In Hungary the `Final Solution' started late and took an exceptionally brutal course. Within four months of the German invasion in March 1944, nearly 450,000 of Hungary's 750,000 Jews were deported from the provinces to perish in Auschwitz, while 100,000 men were being decimated in the lethal forced-labour service and 200,000 men, women and children remained in Budapest at the mercy of the bloodthirsty Arrow Cross thugs. What Eva, with her sister and mother, suffers in Budapest--with their father and husband on the run--is typical of the ordeal of those who were spared Auschwitz but little else. However, the Holocaust is only one of the two central themes of the book. The other is Eva's--or the author's--personal development, determined mainly by the impact of her mother. The two themes are closely connected, and the relationship of mother and daughter is intensified far beyond the norm by the extraordinary conditions of the Holocaust. Eva's dependence on her mother for her survival against extraordinary odds imposes on her an unusual sense of obligation, but if she is to develop her own individuality she must liberate herself.... Whether [the resolution she achieves] is a profound piece of psychological wisdom or a counsel of despair is for the reader to decide.'' (Ladislaus Lb <i>East European Jewish Affairs, Vol. 39, #2, July 2009</i>)<br /><br />``[A] delicate, poetic exploration of three generations of women in the context of a grieving daughter's attempt to understand her relationship to her mother and reclaim the truth of her childhood experience.... Regretting that she did not paint her mother's portrait while she was still alive, Gottlieb paints a verbal `portrait in time,' and realizes that in searching for her mother's portrait, she has been searching for herself. Ultimately there are no answers to some of her questions about mourning, memory, and forgiveness; despite this, <i>Becoming My Mother's Daughter</i> provides a valued contribution to autobiographical accounts of Jewish-Hungarian life in the twentieth century and a moving examination of how an adult woman comes to terms with her childhood expectation that her mother be omnipotent and omniscient.'' (Adreinne Kertzer <i>Canadian Literature, 200, Spring 2009</i>)<br /><br />``Gottlieb's memoir is tender, sad and touching.... The book is...enhanced with reproductions of sketches and paintings of Gottlieb's family, and of the scenes she depicts so vividly.'' (Catherine Thompson <i>The Record (Kitchener-Waterloo), June 14, 2008</i>)<br /><br />``In this deeply moving memoir, Erika Gottlieb--thinly veiled as her narrator Eva--evokes the trauma of her childhood and youth in Hungary during the Second World War, the miracle of her survival, and her triumphant emigration to Canada as a young woman. In writing of herself and probing her formative influences, Gottlieb also writes of her grandmother, her mother, and her two sisters. She weaves a compellingly honest narrative of three generations of women whose personal narratives inform and enrich one another. Eva's grief following the death of her beloved mother leads her to revisit painful wartime memories. As Eva finally realizes, reconciliation is made possible by the sustaining love of her mother--an inspiring and redemptive love that she bequeaths to her own children.'' (Ruth Panofsky)
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  # Steel Journeys
  
  
  ### The Road to Patagonia
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
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  For all the women out there busting their asses to be the best they can be at
  whatever it is they do.
  
  
  I love you all. Don’t change a thing.
  
  
  
  
  
  The Bitches of Steel Mantra
  
  
  
  
  
  Whatever you do.
  
  
  Whatever you ride.
  
  
  However you choose.
  
  
  Stand tall and with pride.
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  # Acknowledgments
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  Every book is a labor of love. This, my fourth book, was birthed in similar
  fashion to my fourth child. Relatively quickly but with difficulty. Not to
  mention getting kind of stuck at the end there.
  
  
  My children have been my whole world for most of my adult life. When they were
  little, I was always their biggest fan, and now that they’re grown, they have
  all become mine. In writing, and in life, they are always the biggest, most
  important part of everything I do.
  