title: They're Your Parents, Too!: How Siblings Can Survive Their Parents' Aging Without Driving Each Other Crazy
author:  Francine Russo 
description: "Russo is so insightful, so psychologically acute and compassionate that she held me rapt for the whole book...<b>They're Your Parents, Too!</b> is the first book of it's kind I have ever read and I am extremely grateful to Russo for giving us her wisdom and the help of the experts whose voices guide us through what is an extremely difficult passage for us all." Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., Professor of Sociology, University of Washington and author of <i>Prime: Adventures and Advice on Sex, Love, and the Sensual Years</i><br /><br />"Francine Russo has written a stunning book about one of the most complex but ignored times of human transitionthe sibling relationships when parents are in decline and then die. Taking over often becomes a sibling struggleand therein lies the core of Francine Russo's uplifting book." Pauline Boss, Professor Emeritus, University of Minnesota and author of<i> Ambiguous Loss</i><br /><br />I wish Francine Russo had been my tutor as I faced my own mothers decline and death. All the issues that came up for my brother and sister and me are addressed so accurately and compassionately in this book. This is a manual that shows us how to negotiate a healing path through our parents final challenge, and prepares us for our own. David Richo, PhD., author of <i>When the Past is Present </i>and <i>How To Be An Adult</i> <br /><br />This book by Francine Russo will be enormously helpful to siblings struggling with the many challenges posed as their parents grow older. Robert N. Butler, M.D. President and CEO,InternationalLongevity Center,Founding director of the National Institute on Aging<br /><br />Interesting, relevant, insightful! Anyone who reads this book will find something that opens a window to new thinking about themselves and their relationships. Russo has really done her homework. Im recommending this to everyone I know whos having sibling issues around their parentsand thats practically everyone I know. <i><i>Harriett Balkind, founder of <i>SNOETY.COM</i> (SECRETS NO ONE EVER TOLD YOU )</i></i><br /><br />Even I, who practice mediation for a living and am able to help people with their difficult conversations, found it extremely difficult to start my ownfamilys discussions about caring for our mother without help from outside. Now I am committed to helping families find ways to have such conversations, using Francine Russos useful and engaging book as a springboard.<i><i>Brigitte Bell, Brigitte Bell Mediation, Evanston, IL</i></i><br /><br />More than a how-to book, this groundbreaking work illuminates a difficult stage of life."<i>Library Journal</i>
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  _For my mom_
  
  
  _My mom and dad are the most loving parents in the world. Such superlatives
  are rare for me, but I can use them with a clear conscience when it comes to
  my parents. They are a true team; they have fought together and have always
  put their own interests aside; they made a new home in what was then a foreign
  country so that my brother and I could lead the privileged lives we enjoy to
  this day._
  
  
  _Often I talk only about my dad; not only is he a wonderful father, husband,
  and chemist, he also inspired me and my brother to take up chem