title: Scattering Ashes: A Sister's Journey With Her Gay Brother
author:  Joyce Smith Helyer 
description: "To maintain Biblical convictions with civility is the challenge faced by believing Christians while being criticized, often unfairly, by the LGBTQ Lobby. This book is a realistic and compassionate testimony of how 'love,' as defined in 1 Corinthians 13, and the 'Fruit of the Spirit,' in Galatians 5, can be applied in our family journeys. Joyce does not deny the pain, even agony, of the struggle but through a sister's loyal tears maintains both Christian commitment and faithful love. The challenge is not easy and cannot avoid heartache of the deepest kind but in the end 'the truth will set us free.'" --Jay Kesler, president emeritus, Taylor University<br /><br /> "Joyce has had two decades to process these complex issues. Her insights and wisdom provide timely guidance for many of today's families, particularly those who find themselves on a steep learning curve with gay and lesbian family members." --Heidi Lakanen, MD
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  Gayle Callen
  
  Never Dare A Duke
  
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  To my aunt and godmother, Marilyn Cox: You and  
  my mother showed me how close sisters can be, and  
  I learned a wonderful lesson from that. Thank you so  
  much for all the great visits, the laughter, and your  
  support, which made me feel like a daughter rather  
  than just a niece. I love you.
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  Contents
  
  
  [Chapter 1](index_split_002.html#filepos5326)
  
  
  “There he is!”
  
  
  [Chapter 2](index_split_003.html#filepos30911)
  
  
  “What is it?” Gwen asked with concern in her voice.
  
  
  [Chapter 3](index_split_004.html#filepos48375)
  
  
  Christopher had no difficulty hiding his dismay and anger. He’d…
  
  
  [Chapter 4](index_split_005.html#filepos70063)
  
  
  Christopher caught a glimpse of bright blue in the middle…
  
  
  [Chapter 5](index_split_006.html#filepos90394)
  
  
  After Elizabeth’s announcement, Christopher saw many female eyes turn toward…
  
  
  [Chapter 6](index_split_007.html#filepos121965)
  
  
  Christopher stared down at the surprising 