title: Bait & Switch: Saving Your Relationship After Incredible Romance Turns Into Exhausting Chaos
author:  Megan Hunter 
description: <DIV><BR><EM>In her book Bait & Switch, Megan Hunter addresses an important facet of parental relationships, and of our society in general: How can we handle, survive, and even thrive in relationships with a very difficult partner? That is, with partners who may be very attractive in some ways, yet have a personality skewed by a fear-based, threat-based view of the world. This personality issue renders relationships very challenging.</EM><BR><BR><EM>Based on her years of experience in this field, Megan proposes an effective and simple strategy based on connecting, shifting, honesty, and consequences. Connect with the emotional brain (right) to control the fire. Then shift to the analytic brain (left) to activate the thinking. This is something that we can all do and practice. Thank you Megan for articulating such a clear strategy that will help many of us.</EM><BR><STRONG>--Frederic Bien, PhD,</STRONG> President, Personality Disorder Awareness Network (pdan.org)<BR><BR><EM>With extraordinary insight, Megan Hunter provides clear and usable strategies and skills for ending the chaos of high conflict relationships. Backed up by science, she provides the reader a detailed prescription for turning around behaviors and relationship patterns for the better. If you want to save your relationship, this book will show you how. If your relationship cannot be saved, this book will help you understand why, and provide you the groundwork for co-parenting after divorce and better relationships in the future, if that is where your path leads. This is a valuable piece of work.</EM><BR><STRONG>--Angie Hallier</STRONG>, Divorce Attorney, Fellow of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, and author of <EM>The Wiser Divorce  Positive Strategies for your Next Best Life</EM><BR><BR><EM>Wondering, How did I get here? In her exceptional book, Bait & Switch, international speaker Megan Hunter provides meaningful insight for people who sailed into love on a wave of excitement only to find themselves living inside a storm. This book is a must-read for anyone in love with a person with borderline personality traits making meaning out of the chaos while bringing skills and hope in an ocean of despair.</EM><BR><STRONG>--Lynne Kenney, PsyD</STRONG>,pediatric psychologist, international educator, and author of <EM>The Family Coach Method</EM> and <EM>Bloom: 50 Things to Say, Think, and Do to Help Anxious, Angry, and Over-the-Top Kids</EM><BR><BR><EM>Megan Hunter has successfully tackled one of the biggest topics of today: What do you do when your great relationship turns into a struggle? She gives numerous practical tips on what you can do and how to influence your partner. She combines her experience and observations from working with hundreds of couples as an administrator for family court systems and as a business manager, to give the reader encouragement and hope!</EM><BR><STRONG>--Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.</STRONG>, president of the High Conflict Institute, and author of </EM>Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder</EM> and <EM>So, Whats Your Proposal?</EM><BR></DIV><br /><br /><div><BR>&#147;<I>In her book Bait & Switch, Megan Hunter addresses an important facet of parental relationships, and of our society in general: How can we handle, survive, and even thrive in relationships with a very difficult partner? That is, with partners who may be very attractive in some ways, yet have a personality skewed by a fear-based, threat-based view of the world. This personality issue renders relationships very challenging.</I><BR><BR>&#147;<I>Based on her years of experience in this field, Megan proposes an effective and simple strategy based on &#145;connecting, shifting, honesty, and consequences.&#8217; Connect with the emotional brain (right) to control the fire. Then shift to the analytic brain (left) to activate the thinking. This is something that we can all do and practice. Thank you Megan for articulating such a clear strategy that will help many of us.</I>&#8221;<BR><B>--Frederic Bien, PhD,</B> President, Personality Disorder Awareness Network (pdan.org)<BR><BR>&#147;<I>With extraordinary insight, Megan Hunter provides clear and usable strategies and skills for ending the chaos of high conflict relationships. Backed up by science, she provides the reader a detailed prescription for turning around behaviors and relationship patterns for the better. If you want to save your relationship, this book will show you how. If your relationship cannot be saved, this book will help you understand why, and provide you the groundwork for co-parenting after divorce and better relationships in the future, if that is where your path leads. This is a valuable piece of work.</I>&#8221;<BR><B>--Angie Hallier</B>, Divorce Attorney, Fellow of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, and author of <I>The Wiser Divorce &#150; Positive Strategies for your Next Best Life</I><BR><BR>&#147;<I>Wondering, &#145;How did I get here?&#8217; In her exceptional book, Bait & Switch, international speaker Megan Hunter provides meaningful insight for people who sailed into love on a wave of excitement only to find themselves living inside a storm. This book is a must-read for anyone in love with a person with borderline personality traits making meaning out of the chaos while bringing skills and hope in an ocean of despair.</I>&#8221;<BR><B>--Lynne Kenney, PsyD</B>,pediatric psychologist, international educator, and author of <I>The Family Coach Method</I> and <I>Bloom: 50 Things to Say, Think, and Do to Help Anxious, Angry, and Over-the-Top Kids</I><BR><BR>&#147;<I>Megan Hunter has successfully tackled one of the biggest topics of today: What do you do when your great relationship turns into a struggle? She gives numerous practical tips on what you can do and how to influence your partner. She combines her experience and observations from working with hundreds of couples as an administrator for family court systems and as a business manager, to give the reader encouragement&#151; and hope!</I>&#8221;<BR><B>--Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.</B>, president of the High Conflict Institute, and author of </I>Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder</I> and <I>So, What&#8217;s Your Proposal?</I><BR></div>
zlib_text: “Explodes with action, spice and humor.”
  
   _ **—Publishers Weekly**_ **on** _ **Hidden**_
  
  Hunter Holt might be the most stubborn ex-soldier ever born, but when he’s
  called on to help find a lost foster kid, he jumps into action. Even if it
  means working with the woman who broke his heart five years ago—the woman who
  still haunts his dreams . . .
  
   **“Fans of J. D. Robb and Karen Robards will love Zanetti’s series start.”**
  
   _ **–Booklist**_ **on** _ **Hidden**_
  
  Faye Smith has spent five long years trying to get her life back on track. She
  knows she should’ve turned toward Hunter and not away from him. But they both
  had too many demons to destroy. Maybe now they’ll get another chance—and save
  someone else’s life too . . .
  
   **“Spicy romantic interplay; Highly recommended.”**
  
   _ **—Library Journal**_ **on** _ **Vampire’s Faith**_
  
  But first they’ll have to stop arguing long enough to trust the Deep Ops team.
  Hunter was a lost boy himself once. In fact, he ran away from the exact same