title: Get Christmased: Create the Christmas season that works for you and your family
author:  Magda Pecsenye 
description: Magda Pecsenye writes the cult favorite website AskMoxie.org about being a parent, managing people, and being a parent and a worker. She looks for the stuck spots that people need help with and creates processes to help them get unstuck.
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  A Very Hot Mess Christmas
  
  Lany
  
  It was the Christmas season and I wanted to make it special. We'd been through
  a lot lately and we needed something to remind us of how wonderful our life
  was. It really sucked that there were forces working against my happy little
  holiday. When someone starts stalking me, planning for Christmas pales in
  comparison to keeping my family safe. But the Christmas season was a time for
  family and I'd be damned if I let someone mess with mine.
  
  Salvador
  
  Lany was the hot mess in our relationship, so it was surprising when I ended
  up being the one injured in a stupid accident. Having to rely on Lany and the
  kids to save me wasn't something I was accustomed to. When forces beyond our
  control interrupt our holiday plans, being injured hampers my ability to
  protect my family. But the Christmas season was a time for family and I'd be
  damned if I let someone