title: About Grief: Insights, Setbacks, Grace Notes, Taboos
author:  Ron Marasco 
description: A brave approach to the subject of grief. Truthful, practical, down-to-earth. This book will help a lot of people. (Philip Zimbardo, Ph.D., former President of the American Psychological Association, Professor Emeritus at Stanford University, author of The Time Paradox (2009) and The Lucifer Effect (2008))<br /><br />There is no other book I know of that comes close to illuminating grief and all that surrounds it with such a clear and honest humanity. Marasco and Shuff embark on a rare exploration of the bone deep truths and unexpected consolations that lie within the mysteries of loss and healing. (Beth Henley, Pulitzer Prize-winning playwright)<br /><br />After reading this book I felt like I had landed on a planet with my own species! (Lenore Rogers, Founder of <i>Amy's Treat<i> at Seacoast Cancer Center in New Hampshire)<br /><br />Marasco (theater, Loyola Marymount Univ.; <i>Notes to an Actor</i>) and Shuff, who has written a screenplay with Marasco, offer a down-to-earth book on griefhard, messy work, which often is not spoken of in our culture. They first discuss the new normality that a grieving person will experience and then explore being honest with oneself, life with the deceased, and the future. In the third section, the authors identify nine things that can help comfort the grieving (e.g., rest, sports, nature, indulgence). Finally, they cover expressing grief for men and women and those of various religious beliefs, self-expression, and honoring the deceased. The authors use anecdotes and scenes from movies and literature to help guide readers down this often lonely path. VERDICT A truthful, practical, and refreshingly honest look at an often taboo topic. Though this is a quick read, there is a wealth of information contained within the pages that will give comfort to the grieving. For all public libraries. (<i>Library Journal</i>)<br /><br />In a mere 198 pages, it unpacks this most universal of events, evoking deep emotions as it takes the reader on a tour of the literature of loss while offering straightforward observations, stories from life (what Marasco calls these gems) and practical advice on coping with the death of a loved one. (<i>Loyola Marymount Newsroom</i>)<br /><br /><i>About Grief</i> creates a safe haven for the suffering and their family, friends, and co -workers. Placing the book in context, Ron Marasco and Brian Shuff write, 'All the stories and information in this book are here for one reason: to help you realize that you are not the only one.' Their language is contemporary, driving the message home without sugar coating: 'Our aim is to make you feel less lonely, and frankly, less nuts.' The authors discovered that 'If you talk about grief openly and honestly, people will talk back.' This sentence sets the stage for a book-long conversation about compassionate and insightful thinking. 'We don't do grief,' writes Joan Didion. 'Yet grief still does us,' state the authors. The cultural imperative to put on a happy face resonates with readers. The implied imperative is to 'act as if,' to pretend that sadness is not part of each minute of each day.<i>About Grief</i> is a love letter and a sympathy note validating the pain of those coping with loss. For family, friends, and acquaintances of the bereaved the book is a gentle instruction guide. (<i>Foreword Reviews</i>)
  						    	
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zlib_text: **DENNIS**  
   ******LEHANE**
  
   **SACRED**
  
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   _For Sheila_
  
  > >  _Do not give dogs what is sacred;_
  
  > >  _do not throw your pearls to pigs._
  
  > >  _If you do, they may trample them underfoot,_
  
  > >  _and then turn and tear you to pieces._
  
  > > > > > > > —MATTHEW 7:6
  
   **Contents**
  
  Epigraph
  
  PART ONE
  
  GRIEF RELEASE
  
  1
  
  A piece of advice: If you ever follow someone in…
  
  2
  
  “Last year,” Trevor Stone said, “my wife was driving back…
  
  3
  
  “Fifty,” Angie said as we rode the subway from Wonderland…
  
  4
  
  Angie looked up from the reports and rubbed her eyes.
  
  5
  
  “Fin de siècle,” Ginny Regan said.
  
  6
  
  “Hello!”
  
  7
  
  The front door of Grief Release, Inc., was black birch…
  
  8
  
  “So they know who you are,” Angie said as we…
  
  9
  
  Richie Colgan claims his ancestors are from Nigeria, but I’m …
  
  10
  
  Four years ago, after a particularly lucrative case involving insurance…
  
  11
  
  “Desiree Stone,” Angie repeated. “Come on, John. We know she…
  
  12
  
  “So my daughter’s in Tampa,” Trevor St