title: Shame Hack: Four Simple Questions to Help you Resolve Shame and Feel Understood
author: Dolan Mayeda
description: Have you ever heard someone say something that stirs something deep inside you? This is exactly what happened while watching a short documentary on David McCullough, historian and Pulitzer prize winner. McCullough says something that unexpectedly touches deep in my heart. In his gentle way he is talking about his aspiration when he writes history. He mentions that he doesnt just want his historical writing to be readable, or interesting. He says, I want it to be something that moves the reader. That moves me. When I hear him say this I feel like Ive been found when I didnt even know was lost. His words stir a longing inside me. I didnt realize it but I want to move people too. I want to be moved. I want to make people feel something. Something meaningful. Something good. I am curious about human nature and what people feel and experience. To me one to the best things is seeing a person discover their truth. I love it when the epiphany hits and the truth rings out. A person realizes they are lovable, safe, or belongs. Its a precious moment. I dream big. I dream that Feel Your Truth will bring people together from around the world. When people share their story with someone many miles away and they relate. In this way you can see that people have similar feelings and stories all the world over. I hope this connection shrinks the world a bit and makes it a little more loving and compassionate place. I live in San Diego. One of my favorite actives to do there is swim in the ocean with friends. I enjoy trying different restaurants. I also like to catch a show when they come through town. I enjoy cooking and learning to make new dishes. To me good food is love.
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  [Title Page](02_brow_9781592402632_oe.xhtml)
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  [Copyright Page](03_brow_9781592402632_oe.xhtml)
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  [Dedication](04_brow_9781592402632_oe.xhtml)
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  [Acknowledgements](05_brow_9781592402632_oe.xhtml)
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  [INTRODUCTION](07_brow_9781592402632_oe.xhtml)
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
    
  
  
  
  
  
  [ONE - Understanding Shame](08_brow_9781592402632_oe.xhtml)
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  [TWO - Shame Resilience and the Power of
  Empathy](09_brow_9781592402632_oe.xhtml)
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  [THREE - The First Element: Recognizing Shame and Understanding Our
  Triggers](10_brow_9781592402632_oe.xhtml)
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  [FOUR - The Second Element: Practicing Critical
  Awareness](11_brow_9781592402632_oe.xhtml)
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  [FIVE - The Third Element: Reaching Out](12_brow_9781592402632_oe.xhtml)
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  [SIX - The Fourth Element: Speaking Shame](13_brow_9781592402632_oe.xhtml)
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  [SEVEN - Practicing Courage in a Culture of
  Fear](14_brow_9781592402