title: Mothers and Others: The Evolutionary Origins of Mutual Understanding (Belknap Press)
author:  Sarah Blaffer Hrdy 
description: In the study of mothering, Sarah Hrdy has no peer. In <i>Mothers and Others</i>, we are treated to Hrdy's infectious writing, taking the reader on a tour of our evolved history as a cooperatively parenting species. The ideas are big, bold, and brain-bending.<br /> --Marc Hauser, author of <i>Moral Minds: How Nature Designed Our Universal Sense of Right and Wrong</i><br /><br />Boldly conceived and beautifully written, <i>Mothers and Others</i> makes a strong case that we humans are (or should be) cooperative breeders. It is an indispensable contribution to the debate about how and why we came to be the most successful primate of them all.<br /> --Melvin Konner, author of <i>The Tangled Wing: Biological Constraints on the Human Spirit</i><br /><br />As was the case for her earlier classic, <i>Mother Nature</i>, Sarah Hrdy's <i> Mothers and Others</i> is a brilliant work on a profoundly important subject. The leading scientific authority on motherhood has come through again.<br /> --E. O. Wilson<br /><br />"What if I were traveling with a planeload of chimpanzees? Any one of us would be lucky to disembark with all ten fingers and toes still attached...Even among the famously peaceful bonobos...veterinarians sometimes have to be called in following altercations to stitch back on a scrotum or penis," Hrdy writes. What she found is that our unique mothering instinct, quite different from gorillas and chimpanzees, meant that the children most likely to survive were those who could relate to and solicit help from others. We evolved to be wired for empathy for, consideration of, and intuition into how others are feeling.<br /> --Jessa Crispin (<i>Smart Set</i> 2009-02-11)<br /><br />To explain the rise of cooperative breeding among our forebears, Hrdy synthesizes an array of new research in anthropology, genetics, infant development, comparative biology.<br /> --Natalie Angier (<i>New York Times</i> 2009-03-02)<br /><br />For as long as she's been a sociobiologist, Sarah Blaffer Hrdy has been playfully dismantling traditional notions of motherhood and gender relations...Hrdy is back with another book, <i>Mothers and Others</i>, and another big idea. She argues that human cooperation is rooted not in war making, as sociobiologists have believed, but in baby making and baby-sitting. Hrdy's conception of early human society is far different from the classic sociobiological view of a primeval nuclear family, with dad off hunting big game and mom tending the cave and the kids. Instead, Hrdy paints a picture of a cooperative breeding culture in which parenting duties were spread out across a network of friends and relatives. The effect on our development was profound.<br /> --Julia Wallace (<i>Salon</i> 2009-05-11)<br /><br />Hrdy's lucid and comprehensively researched book takes us to the heart of what it means to be human.<br /> --Camilla Power (<i>Times Higher Education</i> 2009-05-07)<br /><br />Hrdy's much-awaited new book, is another mind-expanding, paradigm-shifting, rigorously scientific yet eminently readable treatise...<i>Mothers and Others</i> lays the foundation for a new hypothesis about human evolution...<i>Mothers and Others</i> is overflowing with fascinating information and thinking. It's a book you read, pausing regularly to consider the full import of what you just read...Sarah Blaffer Hrdy has added another enormous building block to our thinking about our origins with this new book. Our species is lucky to have her.<br /> --Claudia Casper (<i>Globe and Mail</i> 2009-05-09)<br /><br />Provocative. [Hrdy] argues that unlike other apes, <i>Homo sapiens</i> could never have evolved if human mothers had been required to raise their offspring on their own. Human infants are too helpless and too expensive in their demands for care and resources. So human females have to line up helpers--sometimes extending beyond their own kin--to raise their young. That requires both males and females to invest heavily in social skills for bargaining with other members of their groups. Hrdy suggests that females in ancestral hunting and gathering groups may have thrived because they were free to be flexible in this way. Female flexibility was reduced when humans established settlements requiring male coalitions to defend them, probably leading to greater control of females by males...The most refreshing aspect of [this] book is the challenge [it] offers to what we thought we already knew.<br /> --John Odling-Smee (<i>Nature</i> 2009-04-30)<br /><br />If Sarah Blaffer Hrdy were a male scientist, I might be tempted to say that her new book <i>Mothers and Others</i> arrives like an intellectual time bomb, or that it throws a grenade into accepted notions of human evolution. But those are aggressive, competitive metaphors, and one of the essential points of <i>Mothers and Others</i> is that aggression and competition have been given far too central a place in the standard accounts of how our species came into being. From Charles Darwin onward, those accounts are mostly the work of men, and Hrdy points out in meticulous detail how partial and biased was their understanding of the remote past...<i>Mothers and Others</i> offers enormous rewards. It is not only revolutionary; it is also wise and humane.<br /> --Mark Abley (<i>Calgary Herald</i> 2009-05-10)
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  # The Home Mission
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  ### T.S. Arthur
  
  
  This page copyright © 2002 Munsey's.
  
  
  http://www.munseys.com
  
  PREFACE.
  
  
  A VISION OF CONSOLATION.
  
  
  THE STEP-MOTHER.
  
  
  BEAR AND FORBEAR.
  
  
  THE SOCIAL SERPENT.
  
  
  THE YOUNG MOTHER.
  
  
  KATE'S EXPERIMENT.
  
  
  "MY FORTUNE'S MADE."
  
  
  THE GOOD MATCH.
  
  
  THE BROTHER'S TEMPTATION.
  
  
  THE HOME OF TASTE.
  
  
  THE TWO SYSTEMS.
  
  
  THE EVENING PRAYER.
  
  
  A PEEVISH DAY, AND ITS CONSEQUENCES.
  
  
  SISTERS.
  
  
  BROTHERS.
  
  
  HOME.
  
  
  A GLEAM OF SUNSHINE ON THE PATH OF A MONEY-LENDER.
  
  
  
  
  
  THE DAUGHTER.
  
  
  PASSING AWAY.
  
  
  THE LOVE SECRET.
  
  
  
  
  
  
      
  
  
  This etext was created by Charles Aldarondo (Aldarondo@yahoo.com)
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  ### PREFACE.
  
  
  
  
  
    
  
  
    
  IF it were possible to trace back to their beginnings, in each
  
  
  individual, those good or evil impulses that have become ruling
  
  
  affections, in most cases the origin would not be found until we had
  
  
  reached the home of childhood. Here it is that impressions are made,
  
  
  whi