title: Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too
author:  Adele Faber 
description: With a title like this, it's no surprise that authors <a href="/exec/obidos/author=Faber%2c%20Adele/${0}">Adele Faber</a> and <a href="/exec/obidos/author=Mazlish%2c%20Elaine/${0}">Elaine Mazlish</a> had a monster bestseller on their hands when the book first appeared in 1988. From the subsequent deluge of readers' stories, questions, and issues, they have created nearly 50 pages of new material for this, the 10th anniversary edition. The central message remains the same, and sounds almost too simple: avoid comparisons. But parents know that's easier said than done. The value of Faber and Mazlish's discussions is precisely that they talk you through umpteen different situations and outcomes to help you teach your brawling offspring a new set of responses. The highly informative text is punctuated with helpful summary/reminder boxes and cartoons illustrating key points. It's a must-read for parents with (or planning on) multiple children. But parents of young children who get along fine (so far) should read it too--as the authors make very clear, rivalry is inevitable. The only question is how to manage the rivalry with intelligence and compassion, and on that subject they offer a wealth of good advice. <I>--Richard Farr</I>
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  Sometimes the happiness we’re looking for has been there all along...
  
  
  Adele and Justine have never been close. Born twenty years apart, Justine was
  already an adult when Addie was born. The sisters love each other but they
  don’t really know each other.
  
  
  When Addie dropped out of university to care for their ailing parents,
  Justine, a successful lawyer, covered the expenses. It was the best
  arrangement at the time but now that their parents are gone, the future has
  changed dramatically for both women.
  
  
  Addie had great plans for her life but has been worn down by the pressures of
  being a caregiver and doesn’t know how to live for herself. And Justine’s
  success has come at a price. Her marriage is falling apart despite her best
  efforts.
  
  
  Neither woman knows how to start life over but both realize they can and must
  support each other the way only sisters can. Together they find the strength
  to accept their failures and overcome their challenges. Happiness is withi