   Odd female behavior: need advice
  Hi,I may have just sunk to a new low by adding a love related question to the multitude already drifting throughout the Lounge, but I''m really lost here.There''s this girl at school that I have been attracted to for a while. She''s cute, but she is also smart and slightly geeky like me (we''re both the top students in our class). I''ve never talked to her prior to today, because I never have a chance. We don''t have any classes together, and I only see her in the hall in the morning and after lunch. A female friend of mine is in her class, and I asked my friend about the girl, whether she had a boyfriend and what not, and the friend said she would ask the girl if she had one. So a couple days later my friend tells me that the girl doesn''t have a boyfriend, and that the girl asked about me. The girl didn''t know me, but my friend described me and told her my name and what class I was in. The next day I noticed the girl looking at the ID card around my neck when we passed in the hall, apparently trying to see whether I was the guy.I figured she was interested in having a boyfriend, since she bothered to ask my friend who I was. So this morning I decided to talk to her. I was leaning against my locker when she walked past, and I said "Hey" to try to get her attention. She kept on walking, so I said it a few more times, but to no advail. I decided not to persue. Encounter #1 didn''t go so well, but I figured I could try again after lunch. I wasn''t going to let her get away this time, and me and my friend joked about having me grab her as she goes by. She has lunch right after me, so I stuck around in the cafeteria until she came in. I walked up to her side from behind and said, "Hey, do you have a second?". She told me "No". I wasn''t expecting that, so I probably screwed up pretty bad when I continued to talk to her. I asked, "Catelyn, right?". She said, "How did you know my name?". "It''s on your bag." "Oh. [smiles]". I say, "I feel kindof weird harassing you at lunch like this, but I never have a chance to talk to you. Anyway, you seem like a nice girl..." [she smiles again] "...and I''d like to get to know you better." She begins to walk away and says "I''m not interested" as she goes. "I''m sorry?", I ask. "I''m not interested." I walk away, sad and confused.I''m not sure what to do now. Because I''m stubborn, and I really like her, I plan on trying again tomorrow. Any suggestions on what I should say or do? 
  That''s odd behaviour for any person. Almost rude, or it is rude, at least I think so..Well frankly I don''t know what kind of advice to give you. I would say give it a couple of more times, but don''t stalk her! Are you sure that your really like her? If you are then perhaps the best thing to do is to let it happen naturally. I mean approach here without saying phrases like "I would like to know you better" because that could give the wrong impression and it it also gives the feeling of that this is not a natural dialouge, it''s an artificial one. Try to talk to here naturally, about hobbies, the weather or whatever, think of her as just about any other person. Be yourself!  Hope it will work out well!! ;  Well seeing as unlike most of the posters asking these sorts of questions, you managed to post your question in a non-teenage angsty way I''ll reply seriously.Personally I would give up on her. She''s either not interested, or she''s getting off on the ego trip. Either way, she''s not worth it. When you look back years from now, you''ll be glad you had the dignity to walk away, rather than becoming her puppy dog and getting nothing from it. ;  Plus she could be playing hard to get. After all, she was smileing. Perhaps she knows that you like her, but she's just trying to find out to what lenghts you'll go to get her attention. And you can use this against her latter on, muwahahahaha.   [edited by - smiley4 on December 17, 2003 5:27:08 PM];  As with all situations, there is a simple resolution, simply ask yourself....What would Screech do ? ;  Thanks for the words of encouragement.I definitely didn''t want to do things like that, but I have approximately 3 seconds a day to talk to her. I wanted to be able to get her number or something so I could talk to her longer. I didn''t want to go up to her, ask her name, and start talking about the weather or something. Maybe I screwed up. Should I apologize? ;  *having high school flashbacks*Anyway, maybe she's very shy? Most girls want you to work for it, you know? So maybe she's shy AND hard-to-get? Sure sounds like a girl Anyway there's no reason to give up on her if you relly dig this Catelyn chick (of course if she keppes reiterating her negative response you should probably back off).   Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.William James (1842 - 1910)  [edited by - rohde on December 17, 2003 5:32:31 PM];  Damn, what a bitch. Slap the ho and tell her to get on your dick.biaaaatch   James SimmonsMindEngine Developmenthttp://medev.sourceforge.net;  Simple answer.  Make a situation with several of your friend, including that girl who knows her, and all go out somewhere.  Not a movie, you need to all go someplace where you can talk, like Putt Putt or bowling..whatever is popular in your town.When you see in then hall, ask if she wants to come along with you all.  Meet her as a friend first, and get her involved with your group.   She could just be a weird person, and this might do the trick. ;  She''s probably on her period, wait a few days and ask again. 