original_query: What is the main argument in Nestle's text on femme identity, "The Femme Question"?
query: What is the main argument in Joan Nestle's "The Femme Question"?
answer: Nestle challenges the common belief that butch-femme relationships imitate heteronormativity, arguing instead that they are deeply lesbian expressions of love, courage, and autonomy, representing a subversive appropriation of gender roles and a public declaration of same-sex love at a time when there was no liberation movement.