There are a few books that my wife and I had to read before we got married.  We had to read Love and Respect (Eggerichs) as well as For Men Only (Feldhahn) and For Women Only (Feldhahn).  I loved the book and learned a lot about my wife to be.  I learned about computer screens popping up, how she is still a little girl twirling around looking for acknowledgement and how she deep down loves and respects me (even though she may not say it).  This book lead to a lot of discussion and over time I began to see that some of the topics and information presented didn't apply to her.  She didn't always want to talk right away or just other things that make her an `outlier' in different topics presented.