Hold me tight is a book that helps couples communicate better by labeling the types of conversations we have with one another and recognizing those conversations before it turns into a fight....my husband and I attended a Hold me Tight class and reading the book was part of their curriculum before taking the class....it has helped us and helped us avoid what they call "demon dialogues" we have with one another....as people/couples we all have different ways of communicating to each other, this book just  helps us communicate in a more positive, able to resolve our issues...kind of way...no more mud slinging, name calling, etc. It does work! find a class near you and take the class to really develop these skills!